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I'm so sorry Jessica. I understand being on autopilot, it's what will get you through the things that "have" to be done. I'm still praying for you and your family. I cannot even being to tell you how sorry I am for the loss of your son. :hugs:
 
Jessica,

I am praying for you and am absolutely heart broken for you. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. You sound like such an incredibly strong woman! I pray you get a good nights sleep tonight!
 
oh jessica :( please know you are all in my thoughts and prayers (((HUGS))) I just wish there was more we could do for you :(
 
Jessica, I am sorry your MIL and other family members are being such a thorn in your side. They need to really just leave you alone to do what you need to. Your MIL is being way over the top. Of course everyone is in pain and hurting. Maybe you could enlist the help of a nurse to help get her out of your hair a bit?

I am glad to hear your friend is coming to see you tomorrow. I think she'll be good to have with you. Still wishing there was more I could do for you. ((hugs))
 
oh Jessica I am so sorry to hear more of this and I wish I could be there to help you or just give you a big {{{HUG}}}
 
Jessica, I'm so sorry for your loss and for this horrible tragedy you are dealing with. My heart just aches for you and no parent should ever have to go through the loss of a child. I pray that your husband recovers quickly and that your family will find comfort in one another as you move forward.
 
Praying for you--I know I can not say anything that will make this situation any better---but you do know we are all here for u---I can not imagine the pain you are going through <3
 
Jessica I'm only just seeing this now. I am so very sorry for your loss, what a horrible tragedy to have to go through. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
 
Jessica - is there someone close to you whom you can delegate some of those phone calls to? I know you want to be able to control and make decisions..but some of the calls that need to be made can be delegated to others, someone you trust, to take some of the burden off of you while you grieve and cope.

I'm glad your friend is taking you out to be away, without the family - you'll need that to help deal.

Your MIL is coping as she knows how. Just ignore her. Honestly..the drama isn't worth your frustration..just let her deal. It is about her, too, and while she may be trying to milk it, she is hurting, too. Just find places to be where she's not when you can.

I'm so sorry you guys are dealing with this now. ((HUGS))
 
well I got most of the calls made already now just waiting for call backs. I honestly thought it was going to take a whole lot longer to do. I found out some kinda troubling info last night as well. The guy has multiple criminal and traffic sitations involving his driving one of which is reckless driving with alcohol involved. He served one day in jail and was ordered to pay fines and attend a victim awareness course.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through but I can pray for you and your family. I'm praying for a full recovery for your husband! Praying for you and your family as you move through the grieving process.
 
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well I got most of the calls made already now just waiting for call backs. I honestly thought it was going to take a whole lot longer to do. I found out some kinda troubling info last night as well. The guy has multiple criminal and traffic sitations involving his driving one of which is reckless driving with alcohol involved. He served one day in jail and was ordered to pay fines and attend a victim awareness course.
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Ugh! :thumbdown:
 
That is just unbelievable. Was he intoxicated this time too?

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well I got most of the calls made already now just waiting for call backs. I honestly thought it was going to take a whole lot longer to do. I found out some kinda troubling info last night as well. The guy has multiple criminal and traffic sitations involving his driving one of which is reckless driving with alcohol involved. He served one day in jail and was ordered to pay fines and attend a victim awareness course.
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Praying for you and your family Jessica. ((((HUGS)))) I'm so very sorry for your loss and will continue to pray for the recovery of your husband.
 
jessica31876 said:
well I got most of the calls made already now just waiting for call backs. I honestly thought it was going to take a whole lot longer to do. I found out some kinda troubling info last night as well. The guy has multiple criminal and traffic sitations involving his driving one of which is reckless driving with alcohol involved. He served one day in jail and was ordered to pay fines and attend a victim awareness course.
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Oh my goodness. This just makes me sick to my stomach. I am so very sorry. :(
 
Jessica, I just wanted you to know that I have been thinking about you and praying for your family ever since I heard the news. I am SO glad you are popping in to update us and giving you a place to vent. I can't imagine all that you are feeling but please know that we are all supportive of you here and will always be a listening ear.

Darcy said it best about your MIL....just ignore her the best that you can. She is dealing in her own way. Emotions are going to be crazy for everyone involved for a while. Just try to make things a little less stressful for you by walking away. You have enough on your plate, you don't need added drama. ((HUGS))
 
Just wanted to come back here & let you know again that we are praying for y'all! We also had a special time of prayer for you & your family @ church yesterday morning! (((hugs)))
 
My husband has gotten a little bit worse today. I kinda figured that might happen because the doctors/nurses had voiced some concern over small complications arising. He started bleeding from his liver today. Its not bad at this point because they are not trying to drain it or do surgery or anything like that but it is a concern to watch. Hes been spiking fevers but they did not tell me until today he was. They believe he might be developing pneumonia. They told me about 70% of people with these injuries do develop pneumonia especially being on the respirator. So he is on antibiotics now. They have voiced a time period though finally. They said they would like to have him on the respirator no longer then 5-7 days (but thats not set in stone either it could be longer then that). So another 4 or so days maybe if things go well. He is still sedated heavily but the decrease on the IV sedation is still going on and its going through the feeding tube instead. So I am praying really really hard that he continues to improve.

It was another long day with my in-laws there at the hospital. I was so stressed at the end of the day again. This time it was more then just the drama stuff like yesterday. My mother-in-law took it upon herself to ask her pastor to officiate the funeral ceremony. I was so angry when she came and told me "My pastor is going to do the ceremony. I want to have him handle it all" Without so much as a word to me to see if I had anyone I was thinking Id like to have do it. I told her as calmly as I could I had someone already in mind and Id like to use him. She just said oh well he is my pastor and started mumbling and walked away. Rest of the day nobody talked to me much. I really felt angry that she was trying to make the funeral service something she should be planning. It would be one thing if I did not want to do this but its not. Had she asked I would have told her I had already made a decision and might not have been upset about her making a suggestion but to just step in and try to take over really upset me. I talked to the nurse and she told me she can limit the people coming in if I need her to which might help if it continues on this path every single day but its not something I want to do. I just need to think about my husband right now and they are making it really difficult to do so.

My youngest sons birthday is coming up on Thursday. I have not even had a chance to even think about what to do for it. I want to focus on him that day for at least a good part of the day to try to make it special because I know he might start feeling like he is being excluded and nobody is worried about him especially on his birthday if we did nothing or didnt try to make it special. It is hard to even think about what I could do though because it is so hot so we cant exactly go out to a theme park or something and I dont drive so I cant take him to the beach. My daughter suggested going to the mall and seeing Transformers because he loves those movies so much and just having her, me, my son and her finace go to see it. Ill figure it out though. Find something meaningful and special to do on Thursday.
 
Jessica still praying for your hubby~and I think taking your youngest to the movies and let him pick whatever size popcorn, drink and candy he wants to make it all about him would be great...and maybe you could just let him pick where he would like to go to lunch and then let him go shopping for something...whatever that might be...I don't know how old he is, but even my youngest at 4 & 5 LOVE to shop for something that is special to him....

I am at a loss for what to say to your MIL, but I hope it all works out and everyone can get through this~
 
yea Angie that is what I tthought too. Its still hard because Im so torn. I really want to be in both places....with my husband and with Nick.

I want to go to sea world with Matthew and Nickolas or to the beach with them for his bday like my husband and I had planned earlier in the month and realizing yet again there is just one more plan we had made with Matthew being part of it gone...hurts alot.

Oh and Nickolas will be 14 Angie. He is a big 14 though LOL so we constantly get the how old is he question followed by disbelief because he is so tall. I also need to try to remember to do the birthday favorites interview for his 14th birthday layout too although I have not even looked at scrapbooking or any of that.
 
Jessica you can totally make it about him...maybe if you only go to the beach for an hour or so, he may just love that ! I think right now, the best thing you could do for him is spend time with him and let him know how much you love him :) That is probably what he needs right now :) and my 18 y/o loves goofy things like going to the movies or going to the redbox with me or even likes it when I let her pick the place she wants to eat :) Don't stress too much about it, I bet all he wants is to make sure you don't actually forget his birthday and I already know you won't :) :wub:

ETA: does he have an iPOD...cause you could totally just pick him up an iTUNES GC at Safeway or somewhere :)
 
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Jessica - I'm sure he's going to understand all the circumstances surrounding his birthday this year. He's just going to want to know that no one has forgotten, and that a little time is devoted to just him amongst all the chaos. It might be good to have a little cupcake celebration at the hospital with all the family to help make him feel special...even if you all have to be there all day.

Continued prayers going up for your family.
 
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