Dear husband,

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Megan Turnidge

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Dear husband,
I am not your mother. You are not some incompetent little child. Last time I checked, you were a grown man, completely capable of doing things for himself. As far as I know, it is really quite simple to make a sandwich for your own lunch: get two pieces of bread, plop some meat and cheese on it, and add some mustard... see? Simple. So, WHY do you insist on bothering me at 6 am to make you a lunch?
Love,
Your WIFE

Seriously, men are such babies. When I told him to make it himself this morning, he got mad at me and left without saying good-bye (and without making lunch).

It annoys the crap out of me!!! :glare:
 
Awww, Meg. He feels un-loved, poor guy. If it is important to him maybe you could make his sandwich the night before.

Not that I take my own advice. I am up an hour before my husband and dont even make him breakfast.

But I have LOTS of advice to GIVE regarding marriage; I just don't like to follow it myself.
 
bwahahhahahha!

Men ARE babies, but at least they need us, right?! ;)

I agree w/ Kellie... if it's something that makes him happy maybe you could do it at night? or at least flash your boobs or something when you tell him to make it himself!

oxoxoxo
 
Ok, well... I do have to let you know that I have been making his lunch EVERY morning for the last month. And, when I get back from my run in the morning, I can hardly breathe and I want to sit for a bit cuz I'm pooped. I didn't see why he couldn't do it himself ONCE. I don't make his lunch the night before because he doesn't want his sandwich soggy... at all. lol

I guess that makes me a crappy wife.
 
No, you're not crappy! I think he could have been a little more understanding ONE time?! i mean really.... i think boys just get use to their routine sometimes..... (*cough* take us for granted *cough*)

oxoxox
 
Bwahaha! You thought we were all gonna sympathize with you but we are all on his side. I'm seriously laughing at your discomfort.

Colleen was the worst though. At least she is honest about it. I appreciate honesty, even if it is not nice.

Unless she was being mean to me. Then Id just want to giver a boot to the head.

I'l'l switch sides. Yes, you make his lunch every freakin day. Today he could make it himself without complaing and just focus on being thankful all those other days when he didn't have to make it.
 
I don't think you're a crappy wife either. Like you don't have other things going on in the morning right? Unless I am making lunch for my kids I don't make my husbands lunch. It was nice that you had been doing it for him and I think he got a little use to that. :) Now after throwing a hissy...he didn't get his way and doesn't have lunch. LOL ;)
 
Well, I guess I'm a bad wife b/c I never make DH's lunch...unless it's leftovers. lol He usually just takes a Healthy Choice meal. lol

And, Kellie, yes, I call her Meeeeeeg or Meeeeeegs! lol
 
Yea, I am mean. But I also don't ever have to make Jordan lunch :p Even if I did, I'm sure that after the first day he'd come down to my cubicle (work at the same office), and tell me that I did it wrong and should never do it again. Either way, I win cuz I don't do lunches.

ETA: I also don't do hissy fits, and I DEF don't take kindly to grown men throwing temper tantrums and then pouting. (Aka my future BIL who lives with us, who does it all the time.)
 
I can so sympathize with you. Mornings are crazy around here b/c I'm busy with the kids and bottles and getting DH up which is a feat in and of itself..well usually I have coffee made and ready for him when he's heading out the door but sometimes, I just forget or can't get to it b/c I'm busy with something else..he can be such a butthole about it on those days that he doesn't get it.

And yesterday when he got home from work I left the kids with him for 45 minutes while I ran to pick up a few things we were out of. Within 45 minutes I got 7 phone calls. All I need him to do was give Ella her supper and put the casserole in the oven..and I got 7 phone calls over those 2 little things. I honestly don't know how he managed while he was deployed and by himself lol
 
I don't do lunches. Even my kids' lunches -- DH makes those. Of course, we both work outside of the house, so there's no particular reason I should be in charge of anyone's lunches any more than he should.
 
kinda makes me thankful Des and I work opposite shifts ... although lately I have had to make lunch when I get home from work ... is it REALLY that difficult to make one freakin' meal a day, for 3 people? I mean, I get breakfast for the kiddos and myself, get Quin settled back into bed with dh, get the other two off to school and then go to work myself. I also make dinner Mon-Fri by myself, with three children annoying me - I mean, wanting my attention. I do not want to have to make lunch when I get home from work, which is really Des' breakfast, but whatever. lol

Des either takes a Hungry Man or leftovers for his lunch (which is our dinner time). Or lately he's been coming home to eat with us and see the kids. He eats his dinner when he gets home from work after 11pm (which is either leftovers from dinner, or he has to make his own dang dinner, I don't like cooking late at night when I need to go to bed).
 
I guess I'm a bad wife too. I have NEVER made DH lunch, I figure he is a grown man and nobody makes me lunch. I guess I never started, so he never expected it :p Heck, he's lucky I make him supper LOL j/k
 
I don't think you are a crappy wife! Just because he is USE to it doesn't mean he should ExPECT IT:p I make my DS's lunch the night before and even ours {DH and I work at the same hospital and carpool} because in the morning I am responsible for getting up 4 kids {even though DD is 16 I have to MAKE SURE she gets up} and DH and we have to all be dressed and in the car and pulling out the driveway by 0630!!! DRIVES me INSANE because they get mad when I am like LET'S GO!!!!!! yet, DH just has to get up and take a shower!

and I feel for you Nikki!!!! DH just spent 7 months alone with them and I want to go to the gym for a couple of hours and he says "so your gonna go to the gym and leave me to watch YOUR kids":cursing::cursing::cursing:

HELLLOOOOO the last time I checked, Matt Miller was on all 4 of their birth certificates!!!

but since he did do it for the last 7 months ALONE {and I know it was ROUGH} I am trying to give him some down time where I do everything, but damn, I am entitled to a bad doy or a few hours out too!!!!:cursing::cursing:
 
ajf9597 said:
I guess I'm a bad wife too. I have NEVER made DH lunch, I figure he is a grown man and nobody makes me lunch. I guess I never started, so he never expected it :p Heck, he's lucky I make him supper LOL j/k
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Amen! And if that makes me a bad wife, I guess I'll just have to learn to deal with the pain . . . ;)
 
I suspect that Andrew might faint if I were to make a lunch for him. Heck, I don't even make lunches for JP, he makes his own. Oh, he's 9. But back to the adult male--Andrew would freak out if I made a lunch for him, and probably tell me what I did wrong (just like Jordan would with Col). Although, maybe he's learned not to do that--the last time he did, laundry became his responsibility. And the time before that, dishes.


:hugs: Meegs! He'll snap out of his manstrual cycle eventually. ;)
 
Well I'll admit, that if the roles were reversed and my DH had made me lunch all month and then just up and said your on your own today, I'd probably be pretty annoyed too. :D Especially if it messed up my routine when I have to be somewhere by a certain time.

But I probably fall into the bad wife category too because I don't make his lunch or do his laundry and when he's here, he does most of the cooking. It's much more likely that I'd be the one asking him to make me a sandwich for lunch. :p But if he asked nicely for me to help him out because he was running late or something, I would.
 
Megan, I haaaaaaaaaaaate when grown men act like that. BLAH! My husband does the same thing. You're absolutely right, you DO deserve a day off every now and then LOL

That being said, have you ever read the Love Languages book? It's about different people having different ways they express their love (and receive it) and one of em is acts of service.

They are:
Gifts, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Touch and Words of Affirmation.

Perhaps your husband's love language is Acts of Service. (Mine is!)

On a side note, my #1 love language is Acts of Service, which is my husband's last and my husband's #1 love language is Touch, which is my last. Makes for an interesting marriage, <glare>
 
Traci that book sounds interesting. Im curious what my husband and I would be.

I actually do not make my husband lunch but he often makes mine. I do however do yardwork (mowing an acre of land with a push mower!!) since his back is so bad and pushing a mower is tough for him. I also change tires when needed and help him with alot of mechanical work so he doesnt hurt his back. So yae kinda a role reversal in our house LOL.
 
*giggles* I think most men's love language is touch :p
That book sounds really interesting though Traci. If I had to guess, mine is probably gifts (for giving) and words of affirmation (for receiving). If Jordan ever told me that my dinner was delicious, he'd probably get laid on the spot. :p He hasn't learned that yet though, LOL!
 
I've been in your shoes, but fortunately I have an understanding DH who just sighed and made his own lunch and was late for work. I make his lunch for him every day, but there are just some days when I can't get up early to do it. Usually when that happens, I try to suggest things that he might put in his lunch. I know it really means a lot to him that I make his lunches, so I try to do it as consistently as possible. I know it's not fun to be at home all day with the kiddos, but it's not fun to be at work all day either, so I try to make it a little easier for him.
 
Well since my husband leaves the house at 4:15 in the morning he knows better than to ask me to make his lunch. He know better than to even talk to me that early in the morning.

But if he told me that and had a fit I would have told him think about what he was doing/saying or else he wouldn't have any clean underwear when he came home. :/
 
Traci Reed said:
On a side note, my #1 love language is Acts of Service, which is my husband's last and my husband's #1 love language is Touch, which is my last. Makes for an interesting marriage, <glare>
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Now we are the opposite! My #1 is touch followed closely by affirmation and Billy's #1 is service.
 
So, I just talked to him and NOW he'll "forgive" me because his boss had planned on buying all of them lunch today anyway.... so he would've brought lunch home uneaten had I made it for him.:glare:
 
I can see where he'd be upset, but there is NO reason to act like that. My husband is famous for doing things like that also. Drives me insane. I already stay home to watch two babies, I don't need a third.
 
Ok Meeegs...you are NOT a bad wife. There is nothing written anywhere that a wife needs to make a husband's lunch. I've been married 27 years, and I don't make his lunch (unless it's the weekend and we are hanging out...and I'm hungry). I also don't make the coffee the night before. If he wants it when he gets up, he needs to make it.

That being said, I made all the kids's lunches every day before school until they were in college. After that, if you are hungry, you'll make yourself some food. I even made their breakfasts...but not now. I don't want them to be too spoiled that someday they will expect their wives to do it for them!

My dh works long hours at a physical job, and he's not getting any younger, so I do try to make dinner if I'm home, or if I have to work at least have something planned that he can throw together. If not, they can always go grab a burger somewhere!

My dh has never had to do his own laundry though, or worry that it isn't where it is supposed to be when he needs it, unless he is out of the state working and he has to take care of it himself. I do make sure that is done, but it is something I don't mind doing. My boys are expected to do their own and put it away!
 
I don't make my husband lunch. It have never occured to me to do such a thing. I make dinner, everyone over the age of 13 is responsible for their own breakfast & lunch (and laundry folding)

He doesn't take a lunch anyway. He says the stress of his job means he has to leave the building everyday and go out to lunch just to relax a bit. Which I call bullsh** on 'cuz you could totally take you lunch with you and go to the park and save $7 a meal.

But that is a whole other can of worms :)

I'm sure he was disappointed you couldn't make it this morning but he is a grown man & ought to act like it
 
I will fix my DH a lunch if he asks, but he is fine with me making his sandwiches the night before so I usually do that. Then it's all ready for him in the morning. Most mornings there is no way I would have time to fix him a lunch and get Kaylie up and ready for school and get all three kids fed breakfast and get us out the door to drop Kaylie off @ school. So if he forgets to ask me the night before, he knows he's on his own or he can pick up something cheap if we have the $$ to do so.
 
I totally understand where you are coming from Megan, I have been ironing my husbands shirts for years! Finally this year I got so tired of it I was like look dude I am tired of standing at the ironing board for 2 hrs ironing all of your shirts if you want a shirt ironed I will be happy to iron it for you the day you want to wear it but I am tired of doing them all at once. Guess what he said? "Why are you punishing me, what did I do?!" REALLY?!?!?!? You think I am punishing you because I don't feel like standing at the ironing board for 2 hrs and just want to iron for 5 mins on the day you want a shirt...Ugh Men they just suck! I feel your pain!
 
/hijack

Dear Husband,

Although I am flattered that you think I'm Superwoman, I am, in fact, not. After spending 18 hours straight holding, feeding, rocking, and changing the baby including 45 minutes of walking around the nursery bleary-eyed and humming 'Rock-A-Bye, Baby' at 3 in the morning, I expect YOU to hold, rock, and change the baby for an hour or two.

Yes, I will stab a fork in your eye if you tell me you'll take the baby 'in a minute' as you finish a game of Facebook Mafia Wars while she is screaming in my ear. Yes, I will dump a 2 liter of fruit juice on your side of the bed if you come up to me in the morning and say you're 'so tired' after I heard you snoring through the closed nursery door while I sat up with the baby.

Love,
Your Wife

/end hijack
 
ohhh LA, i feel for you!!! :( :( I know what you mean. Fortunately my hubby is *mostly* good about that, but I have a hard time feeling bad for him when he wakes up tired and yet... he didn't get up with a baby during the night. And I always love how you feel like hubby is babysitting his own children, like you have to ask them if they can watch them. My hubby is more than willing any time, but it's still weird like that.

Baby, be good for your mommy.
 
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