Potty Woes....help LOL!

so tell us cindy - what eventually worked?? hehe!

Lucas just turned 2 and isn't near ready - and is frightened of the toilet so we are going to get him a little potty to get used to it at least. He hates when he is dirty though and knows when he poops so at least that is a good thing.

Lily potty trained just before she was 3 - santa left her panties in her stocking and from then on thats all she wanted! LOL :)
 
Hey Emmy -- what did you do to get them to go that first time?

My oldest son's potty training looks almost identical to what you wrote! So I'm glad I'm on the right track, lol. I just remember this being an issue for my oldest -- he wouldn't go at all for the longest time. And then one day he just did (but I have no clue WHY he did). And now for my youngest (he's almost 27mo): we can't get him to go on the toilet at all. He's SO interested in going potty! He asks to go like 3 or 4 times a day. Sometimes he asks just to avoid nap and/or bed time - but other times I think he lets me know right after (or maybe even right as) he's gone potty. There's no pattern or hint that he has to go. But by the time I get him on the toilet - he just sits there and never does anything.

Any advice to get that first pee going :p
 
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Does he go to preschool or anything like that? My Zakk did, and he was still in diapers at four. It was seriously frustrating. We tried EVERYTHING!! Finally, one day, his teacher and I were talking and she suggested that I tell him he can't come back to school until he goes potty in the potty and not his pants. That did the trick! He loved school and he loved her and didn't want to miss out because he was being stubborn about going potty.

I would also follow the advice of others - take the pull ups off. He is used to the feeling of the diapers and now the pull ups. He needs to know what it feels like to wear big boy underwear.
 
so tell us cindy - what eventually worked?? hehe!

Lucas just turned 2 and isn't near ready - and is frightened of the toilet so we are going to get him a little potty to get used to it at least. He hates when he is dirty though and knows when he poops so at least that is a good thing.

Lily potty trained just before she was 3 - santa left her panties in her stocking and from then on thats all she wanted! LOL :)

More bribery.....I mean rewards and lots of praise. LOL. Seriously, until he was ready, it wasn't going to happen, then one day he just decided he was going to be a big boy and decided to use the potty without us really pushing him to do it. We never used the little floor potties though, he wasn't interested in that.......he went right to the big one, with a kid's/toddler seat on top. And....it wasn't until he was just over 3 1/2 when it happened, and he still has to wear pull-ups at night (he's 4 1/2) but we are working on that, probably our fault, we let him drink water right before bed.
 
Xander was soooooo stubborn. It took till he was 4 to finally realize mom and dad would not give up! We started potty training at 18 months. And this went on till a couple months after he was 4. We tried everything. Took away pull ups for a week! It didn't matter. Well we took away his sheets, clothes(he loves being naked), left him with a plastic wrapped mattress and underwear. And my husband would wake him up early and tell him go potty. He listened. Just listened. And we have never looked back since.
Now we are on to the girl. She just has no want to. She will stand and pee on her self. Then cry and cry. Everyone said girls would be easier, well not so.
 
Oh, my goodness, how did this old thread get bumped back up? lol I was gonna say our sons are the same age, but apparently they are actually a year apart.
 
I bumped this thread because I responded to it a year ago saying that we'd be in the same situation with my youngest and now we are. Plus I figured that the advise would basically be the same and didn't want too many repeats since this is a re-ocurring problem, situation, whatever.

Yes he goes to preschool, two days a week and I NEED those days to have appointments etc. So taking them away would be more punishment for me than him and we are approaching the end of the school year so pretty soon that won't be a "issue".

He is in underwear now during the day. I just decided to go there and be done with the pull-ups/diapers during the day. He still has accidents with #1 but they bother him and he's doing better. Its the #2 that is driving me crazy because he doesn't care! Oh well I'm gonna keep it going for 21 days like Emmy said a year ago and see if we can break this "habbit"!

So yes.....this is a year old thread and I'm sure that everyone that was having problems a year ago resolved them by now!!
 
I'm glad you pulled this thread up Kim! We are potty training right now (started last Thursday) and I love to read advice! DS has been running around 1/2 naked for the past week and he has done awesome with going pee. We haven't been able to get him to go poop in the potty though :( He usually goes while relaxing in bed before naptime. I've tried to delay nap and see if he goes in the potty but that hasn't worked. But I am putting him down for nap in a pull-up. Guess I should try without! Just not looking forward to cleaning up the mess!
 
We are still working on it... Though, not really actively. DS will be 3 in July and every now and then shows interest but, not much. It's just frustrating because he went pee in his little potty a few times, before he even turned 2!! I thik, once it warms up, we are going to try the naked thing, he's starting to enjoy running around after bath but, for the most part, hates not being dressed, to the point of a meltdown so, we shall see!
 
I don't have time to read all of the replies, so I apologize if this has already been suggested. I have the same exact problem. My son is 3 with an August birthday. So far the only thing that has worked is making HIM change his own clothes every time he has an accident. He's in daycare, so there is also the embarrassment factor for him. He could care less if he goes around wet, but the teachers insist that he can't so he has to change in front of everyone ... only one accident in the last 3 weeks ;)
 
remember being so frustrated by Landen's lack of "caring", but kept reminding myself that the chances of him graduation from HS or going out on his first date in a diaper were slim to none-and just let him set the pace, that is what is worked for us.

OMG Shan!!! That's hilarious!!! Derrick didn't train until he was 3-1/2 either. And the only reason he did it then was because I left him at home alone with his dad who "doesn't do diapers". Derrick had an accident (#2) soon after I left the house and his dad made him change himself. Derrick was so grossed out by it and his dad told him that was his last diaper because mommy and grandma were sick of being grossed out too. He had a few accidents but nothing too serious. Rhett is 2-1/2 now and I want him to potty train but he refuses. I'm not pushing it just yet.
 
I don't have much advice because my son just decided one day he was ready and then he trained himself. He does this with everything though. I just have to be patient and remember this whenever I am getting frustrated.
 
My son will be 3 in June and we are slowly working on it. I don't think the no clothes method will work here. He lasted until lunch and wouldn't eat without his clothes on. I think I'll give underwear a try. He did do both in the potty after starting somewhere else first. I guess cleaning up a pile of poo is expected.

My son has to be potty trained shortly after 3 for preschool. I've been very relaxed about it, but I'm getting nervous.
 
Hey Emmy -- what did you do to get them to go that first time?

This hasn't been an issue for me with kids #2, #3, or #4 - they just showed an interest after seeing an older sibling go and I stuck them on the potty. I don't think they all immediately understood how to start to pee - sometimes it happened by accident, sometimes they just got it - but I've not had to work at that part. Were I in your shoes, I would push drinks and stick him on the potty and see if I got lucky. Once they connect the dots (like they start peeing when they are sitting there and realize ooooh THAT's how I go...) they usually know how to go after that.

Sprauncy - yes my oldest didn't train until 4 and how we dealt with it, was a firm stance on it with no changes to how we were dealing with training or consequences for 21 days. It worked....but I thought I was going to die in the process. ;) Go you - you can do it!
 
This hasn't been an issue for me with kids #2, #3, or #4 - they just showed an interest after seeing an older sibling go and I stuck them on the potty. I don't think they all immediately understood how to start to pee - sometimes it happened by accident, sometimes they just got it - but I've not had to work at that part. Were I in your shoes, I would push drinks and stick him on the potty and see if I got lucky. Once they connect the dots (like they start peeing when they are sitting there and realize ooooh THAT's how I go...) they usually know how to go after that.

I wish Liam would have done that. All he's ever done, when seeing Daddy and brother peeing, is try to touch
it, lol :D NOT the reaction I'm wanting :p

I will definitely try the drinks. Not really sure why I didn't think of that other than I'm just not pushing it too hard yet. Thank you for your advice!!! :)
 
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