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ditzyscrap

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OK, so here's the scoop...I need to know whether you think your DH would or wouldn't allow you to do this:

My neighbor has 3 boys, and owns a big diesel truck. She's taking them to the REALLY awesome mall to spend some of their birthday money. I mentioned that *I* wanted to go shopping at the mall, and she's like...come with us! Oh, I should mention that she and I are like REALLY good friends, lol.

OK, so we tried to figure out when we could go while she has her boys - they're here Sat/Sun/Mon and going home on Tues. I work Sat/Sun so that only leaves Mon to go...but DH has to work on Mon (he has Tues off). So we're like...cool, let's find out if the waterpark is open on Monday (like if the slides and stuff will be operating, etc), and it is.

So, I have a van (that holds 7 - there will be 7 of us) and she has a truck. I don't drive. But she's like...let's just switch vehicles for the day - my DH can take her truck and she'll drive our van to the city.

Tonight I proposed the idea to DH, and before I even GOT to the part about switching vehicles he said "no, I don't lend out my vehicle". Except the thing is...he would...to his parents and probably his sister/BIL. And in fact he has "traded" vehicles with his dad because he needed to use a truck, but because *I* want to use our van, he's not willing.

Anyway, is what I'm asking him to do SO ridiculous? Would your DH let someone else drive your vehicle?
 
hmm. well. see. *I* kinda let DH do stuff. So I would just TELL him what was going on and he'd be like. whatev weirdo. LOL but my DH is really laid back. Do you have full coverage on your insurance? does she? If everyone has insurance then I would think it wouldn't be a big deal...
 
We've switched vehicles with people before no problem. I do get a little nervous about it since our insurance sucks... but we've done it. And it was DH's idea, not mine.
 
My DH would. And probably has. I just can't remember. He is more OK with it than I am actually.

I know that I have though. I let my neighbor friend drive mine b/c I hate driving. We were going somewhere together. I thought we were all going to die b/c she is an aggressive driver. Scariest ride of my life.

well that was more than you wanted to know, eh?
 
Yes, our insurance does cover other drivers as long as they're older than 25 (she's 37, DH is 31). I'm just confused about why it's such a big deal to switch vehicles for one day, lol...figured maybe since I'm not a driver I just don't get it or something.
 
I don't think it's a big deal to switch vehicles -- if she's a decent driver. We have a van that we let our babysitter drive all the time.
 
Craig and I let people drive our vehicle, but we're fussy about it. I'd prolly be like your hubby in this case and want to say no. In fact, I've been the one to be the bad guy in this situation.
 
My DH would let someone else use our vehicle IF I was going to be with them and it sounds like you are. I don't see what the problem is, unless it's an insurance issue.
 
LOL my neighbor drives my van all the time. Never even occured to me that it would bother him (although it doesn't). We have insurance. ;)
 
Traci Reed said:
hmm. well. see. *I* kinda let DH do stuff. So I would just TELL him what was going on and he'd be like. whatev weirdo. LOL but my DH is really laid back. Do you have full coverage on your insurance? does she? If everyone has insurance then I would think it wouldn't be a big deal...
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lol... this sounds a bunch like me & dh :)

And I agree with Traci - you have the insurance, and you will be with her, I don't see the problem. Good Luck!
 
it's not like she's just randomly taking your van and leaving for the day. You're going with her, and she's driving, so I don't see why it would be an issue.
 
Yeah, I dunno. He's being weird, lol. I don't get to go on Monday, but he is willing to take us on Tues (as a family...without my friend and her kids). But it's not the same, lol...
 
My dh wouldn't let anyone drive his truck. There are very few people that he would let drive it. He has said the same thing to me when I asked ... you are not alone. :)
 
I don't see a problem at all.

I could understand his concern if (a) she was taking it without you and/or your kids in it, (b) you or she didn't have proper insurance, or (c) it was a vintage car or a brand new Ferrari.

Since it is none of these things, I think he is just being a PITA. :p
 
I don't see a problem with this at all....and does she have a history of being a reckless driver or something...I think you DH should uinderstand that you want to go as a group so the kids can have a playdate...but that's just me~
 
i'm with traci...dh is laid back and he doesn't really (well ever!) get to tell me what i can and can't do. we don't seek permission from one another on something of this caliber. as long as the people aren't known for their crazy driving skills and are insured then there shouldn't be a problem. if i were you, i'd insist. how sad to miss out on a fun day with a friend over something this silly. imo, of course. :)
 
He may see issues with her driving that you don't.

It's not like I'm a total hardass, but I completely understand not just letting anyone drive your vehicle, even if you're in it. I also think people are way too casual about saying, "As long as you have insurance." Claims to your insurance cost you, claims to insurance in general cost you... maybe not in a way you see immediately, but insurance companies aren't in business to give money away, and the costs get passed on to the customers eventually. I actually think as a society we've become way too dependent on stuff like this, but that's a rant for another day. ;)
 
we have let our neighbor use our truck before, and she has let us use her van (since I got rid of my piece of crap van). But my hubby wouldn't just let anyone use his vehicles ... he has to know the person pretty good. The neighbors we swap with are the same ones that lent us their travel trailer for our two week holiday at no cost to us other than putting new tires on it (which hubby works for Kal Tire, so it was no biggie as he gets them at cost).
And I know from before I had my license, he would let my friend drive our vehicle to take me and the kids somewhere if he had to work, and he would just use her car (she drove a little metro, while we had a car that sat six).
 
OK because it involves lending a vehicle I can understand his apprehension. Lending to a family member is one thing to a friend even a really really good friend is something else. Even with full coverage if there was an accident if your friend is not an authorized driver it can be very tricky. Chances are very good that everything would go great but there is always that small chance that something could go wrong.
 
I think my DH would be more worried about him driving their vehicle than someone else driving ours while I was with them. Did he propose how you get there without the van?
 
crecia27 said:
I think my DH would be more worried about him driving their vehicle than someone else driving ours while I was with them. Did he propose how you get there without the van?
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No, it's basically a "she's not borrowing the van, therefore you can't go" type thing. Whatever, I'll deal. LOL!
 
I think this just means you need to become a driver and get your own vehicle:)! I would be infuriated to not be able to go someplace I want to go because my DH wouldn't let me!
 
I know...I really do need to get it! When we first got married I couldn't because we didn't have a vehicle that would pass (the airbag deployed and we couldn't afford to fix it, but it's an automatic fail to have a vehicle not pass a basic safety inspection), and then we got a standard and I couldn't drive it. We just got the van not quite a year ago, and I need to start practicing. I'm going to try getting it in the spring. Right now would be the perfect time to go because it has snowed, they're WAY more lenient, but I haven't practiced at all, lol. It's been YEARS since I took drivers' ed.
 
LeeAndra said:
I don't see a problem at all.

I could understand his concern if (a) she was taking it without you and/or your kids in it, (b) you or she didn't have proper insurance, or (c) it was a vintage car or a brand new Ferrari.

Since it is none of these things, I think he is just being a PITA. :p
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What she said!
 
LeeAndra said:
I don't see a problem at all.

I could understand his concern if (a) she was taking it without you and/or your kids in it, (b) you or she didn't have proper insurance, or (c) it was a vintage car or a brand new Ferrari.

Since it is none of these things, I think he is just being a PITA. :p
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With my dh it is "c" except his F250 is his Ferrari ... never mess with a man and his truck!!! ;)
 
I just can't imagine by husband telling me no. About anything, really, but this isn't even something I'd run by him. Doesn't even make my radar as an issue that would need approval. LOL
 
I guess I can understand the apprehension. I just had my car in for repairs and thought about asking for a lend of a friends. I didnt end up asking for the same reason many have listed here. Its a big responsibility and the implications on insurance can be substantial - If something went wrong I would feel just awful too!

Being the independant sh## that I am Id just hook up with public transport and add that as part of the expedition - or look at a hire car or taxi for a little extra adventure!! Then you could be totally supportive of your DH's ethics while immensely enjoying yourself while his at work!!
 
I don't have a husband to tell me no but I would not let her drive my car. My ex-fiance drove my car(fully insured) to go pick up his paycheck and he got in an accident. That was 5 1/2 years ago! I'm still getting letters from lawyers and insurance companies about it! No on will ever drive my car again. Ever...
 
Well, we figured a way around it, hahahaha. Her boys REALLY wanted me to come (they're older - 15, 16 and 19 - they think I'm cool, though), so I called in to work that I couldn't make it because my hubby and kids are sick (not a lie, lol). Now I'll just pile in the truck with them and DH and the kids will stay home, lol!
 
i have let people drive my car, though i dont like to. we have full coverage. and it wasn't like i let them keep it; it was my SIL and she just drove it down to the gas station real quick. and it was DH that told her to, lol. i wasn't mad, but i consider my escape my other baby lol. i have no idea if dh would let anyone drive his truck. maybe immediate family. but he just has liability so it would be risky.
 
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