What would you do?

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rachaelsscraps

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What would you do? Being harrassed?

I'm getting very ticked!!!! This disgusting a-hole keeps texting my fiance's cell phone saying nasty explicit stuff and we have no clue who it is... besides that his voice mail message says, "hi this is dan..." blah blah blah. Apparently he thinks he's texting someone he knows, but Nick's told him he's texting the wrong number. He messaged back, insisting that Nick is his girlfriend and keeps messaging? WTF?

So we tried to find out his name with some online service and it was money wasted because it came back with a hotel as a name? How can that happen? (I didn't know a hotel can have a cell phone plan? whatever...) But it's a local hotel, which makes me nervous....

I keep telling Nick to go down to the police department and file a harrassement charge because this sick f***er won't stop messaging! I would insist on changing our phone numbers, but since this prick already has it, he can get our info- names, where we live, etc. from some online sources that we tried, I'm sure. So now I don't feel safe! And I have a child and another one on the way.... Not to mention that I work from home so I'm home with my (soon to be 2) kids with some creep-o in the same town.... UGH!

What would you do?! I honestly don't feel safe but don't know what the police could do? HELP! :(
 
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Go to the police. We had a kid calling us at all hours of the day, numerous times a day and we finally went down to the police station and filed a complaint. The police officer talked to the boy (all of 12 y.o.) and his grandmother & it has never happened again. :)
 
This guy sounds older (probably 25-35 years old, and sounds kinda odd) from his voice mail... sounds like someone who could be either crazy or dangerous. I doubt it's as harmless as a 12yo making prank calls. I really don't know what this guy's problem is, but he's been messaging about a week now! Sometimes at 2/3 in the morning even...
 
I'm worried that the police would go talk to him and tick him off! Make him try to find out where we live (if he doesn't already know!)

Although, my (huge!) dog likes to spend most of the day outside, and she really HATES it when anyone steps foot in or near our yard- she may scare him away! Of course I can't rely on that.

Uh, I don't know! I'm so frustrated!
 
Believe me, where there's a will, there's a way. If he knows who you are, he can find out where you live in a few minutes.

Best that the police figure out what's going on. The fact that the number is a hotel cell is very strange. I would think the hotel would want to know too. It could be an employee.

eta: I'm a very no nonsense person...so sometimes when I see things like this, I act...and I don't get overly emotional, even if it can be very scary. I hope they catch the guy, and save your messages so they can be used against him. DON'T delete them!!
 
I'll just echo...THE POLICE!!! And Debra's right....if he wants to find you he will whether the police are invovled or not!!!! Scumbag :glare:
 
Have you tried calling your cell carrier and asking if there is any way to block that number from being able to call you? I have AT&T and they were able to put a block on my phone so that java games and those stupid text message scams (you know where they say text such and such to this # and then you get enrolled in a monthly plan for ring tones, games, celeb gossip, etc) can't be charged to my phone after I got charged from one on my bill that I didn't authorize so I don't see why they can't block calls from a specific number that is harrassing you. It doesn't hurt to try anyway, if not I would definitely file a complaint through the police department.
 
Contact your cell phone carrier and ask their advice...I guarantee it won't be the first time this has happened...they will tell you what they can or cannot do. Then go in person and file a complaint with the police. ...I would start with your cell phone carrier...

BTW you will need to keep some of those text messages as proof to show...
 
We tried calling our cell phone carrier to see if anything could be done- we can block the number, but he wouldn't know about it and would keep sending messages assuming we were getting them (I think)... so what if he was sending something like "I know where you live, I'm coming to get you" type stuff and we never got it?! that's what I'm afraid of....

I'm definitely going to make Nick go to the police, and if he doesn't, I'll snag his phone and bring it to the police myself! This can't continue! I'm sick of worrying about it!!!!

Thank God that Nick has the next few days off of work, though, and his dad is coming over so they can work on our new bathroom- that way I'll feel better with 2 men in the house and not being here alone!
 
I would first notify my cell provider and see about having the number blocked. Second id stop reading the texts he sends. Just delete them as soon as you see them since I assume they show his number? That is how our texts come in anyhow. Third I would keep a record of what he is sending and when and notify the police. Might not be the same situation in your are but my daughter had an adult woman texting her and because I texted her back and told her to stop texting my daughter then called the number to ask her to not text her the police officer we had come to the house said it was mutual and not considered harrassment. He told us that typically in situations like ours if you do not answer the person then they stop really quickly. Of course the guy texting you might have gotten the number from some girl in a club and she purposely gave him a wrong number so he would not be calling HER.
 
Ok, Rachel. Honey, I love you and all, but you came in here asking for advice. And everytime someone give you a suggestion you shoot it down with a bunch of "what-ifs". I understand that you're scared. I would be too. But you have to be rational about this and make some smart decisions.

First, call your cell phone company and have them block the calls. Period. No excuses. There is no reason on earth why you *need* him to text you.

Second, you need to call the police and make a report. At the very least there will be a report of harrassment on this guy. At the very most, they will find him and deal with him accordingly. You can't worry about "what if" the police piss him off and he comes after you. You're letting your emotions run away with you and its only going to make this situation much worse, ok?

I know you're scared, but you need to be rational right now so you can make wise decisons.

((hugs))
 
My first thought is that some girl he met gave him that number on purpose since she didn't want to give him the correct one. I know our cell phone provider allows us to block numbers, and that's exactly what I'd do, and not think about it again :)
 
What Jenny said. Except that I say police 1st, cell company 2nd. Jeezus, girl, get this reported to the police NOW so that it is on record. Ask their advice as to what you should do from there. If, by some chance, you get someone in the police that wants to brush this off as being nothing, insist that you want to file a report and emphasize how threatening and unrelenting this guy has been.
 
....and you don't need the phone to go to the police. Call them. Just dial 911 and tell them you have a non-emergency to report. Tell them, and they will probably send someone out to the house.

I do hope you get it settled soon!
 
Definitely report it to the police ASAP. I can't imagine a department in this day and age that WOULDNT take this extremely seriously. Let them handle it, they'll tell you what to do next.
 
Hi. I haven't read through all the posts, but if the number comes up as a hotel, then maybe he is a hotel employee and the phone was issued from them... inwhich case, he could be in BIG trouble at work too when it all comes to light! Good luck with this. Sorry you have to deal with this at all!
 
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