what would you do?

[jessica31876]

I need opinions on this...when my niece comes over to visit I usually take lots of pictures of her and I make layouts with these pictures. I recently started sending them to my sister because she saw them when she was here and said she really liked them. Well she used one of the ones I sent and changed it by adding some pictures in the white space on the layout (which were all pictures I took also) and she is using it in a beauty pageant as a comp card for her daughter. If she wins she stands to win like 500 dollars. She didnt ask before using it and if she paid someone to make this for her they charge between 75 and 100 dollars for the comp cards. I obviously would never charge that much and I really dont even mind her using it had she talked to me about it beforehand. The only reason why she even mentioned it is she wanted to know if I could do it without the wordart on it. My husband says he thinks I should tell her that she should get me a small gift card for one of the stores I frequent (which is basically just sweet shoppe LOL). If you were in this position would you ask for compensation if it was not offered? It was basically a gift but it does kinda bug me that she is basically taking credit for it and will be using it for several pageants until she needs to update the comp card.

 

[Lukasmummy]

I'm not entirely sure what a comp card is I think that it would have been better for everyone if she had asked you to make her whatever she needed though rather than altering a gift you had given her. I'm not sure how I would handle it though I guess it would depend on the relationship you have with her and if you are hurt enough by it to make a fuss. ((hugs)) it's not a nice position to be in.

 

[iJenny]

ugh. thats a sticky situation. I, personally, wouldn't push for compensation. But it might be a good idea to mention to her that she needs to ask you before she uses any of your "stuff" in the future. Make it about the designs and the TOU. Even if that is stretching the truth a bit, at least you don't have to come right out and say she was being rude and incosiderate.

Just my opinion...

 

[LeeAndra]

Is your sister usually pretty clueless abt things or is she someone who feels entitled to things regardless of permission? That would color my response to this: whether this is along the same lines of something she does every day or whether this is just ignorance when it comes to digital scrapping and photography, kwim?

If she just doesn't understand how important this hobby is to you and/or how much work it takes, I would gently explain to her that while you wouldn't mind making comp cards for your niece in the future and don't need to be compensated monetarily, you think of this as your hobby/artform and want to have your permission asked first. Maybe you could liken it to something your sister does i.e. if she's a good baker, you wouldn't just bring one of her cakes with you to a party and not tell everyone SHE made it, kwim? If she's more money-oriented, maybe you could explain that you'd like credit in case some of the other pageant moms like the comp card and want you to do some for their children, too. In any case, I'd tell her that you'd like to make her a revised comp card with all the pictures on it she wants (how good can it look if she slapped some pics in the white space, right??) and then you could add a little trademark or tagline, if that's possible, or maybe a sticker on the back with your name on it. I'm not sure what comp cards are for or what they do, so take that bit with a grain of salt.

If she's someone who just takes advantage of people and situations, I'd be more forceful in stating your dislike of what she did and that you want to make a revised version of the comp card before she uses it in a pageant for your niece. Be sure to emphasize you're not put out by her using it, but using it without asking you first because, again, it belongs to you as your creation just as it would if you were Calvin Klein making a sweater, Target making a toy, etc.

HTH!

 

[Traci Reed]

I wouldn't worry about it too much, and I wouldn't ask for money, but that's my sister and I's relationship, yours may be different so it's hard to say.

 

[jessica31876]

a comp card is basically a photo collage which says the childs name/age/weight/hair color/eye color with several photos of the child. She kept asking me if I was interested in doing it for her friends to make extra money BUT I am not comfortable with the whole pageant scene with all the fake hair and makeup on little girls so I told her I wasnt really interested in it. I know why she did it like this. It saves her from having to actually pay someone to do it for her. So basically if she knows someone who can do something which she would have to pay for otherwise she expects them to do it for her for free. Happens with her car all the time because my husband is a mechanic she expects him to fix her car whenever someething goes wrong.

 

[jessica31876]

ummm yea that is pretty much her exactly!! She once had an accident and my husband told her he would get her the parts at his cost and fix her car if it did not need to be pulled and while he was waiting to get all the parts and have her give him the money our transmission went out and she called and asked if he was working on her car and I told her he was going to get to it but he had to swap out our transmission first so she started crying and got angry saying how she has bills to pay and a child to support and since she had been waiting for him to fix her car he should have to finish her car before he worked on ours.

If she's someone who just takes advantage of people and situations, I'd be more forceful in stating your dislike of what she did and that you want to make a revised version of the comp card before she uses it in a pageant for your niece. Be sure to emphasize you're not put out by her using it, but using it without asking you first because, again, it belongs to you as your creation just as it would if you were Calvin Klein making a sweater, Target making a toy, etc.

HTH!

 

[aggiefamily]

I don't know what I would do. But in the future I would send everything to her at a real low resolution so she can't use it in print items.

 

[emmasmommy]

I agree 100% with Jenny.

 

[scrapperjade]

I don't know what I would do. But in the future I would send everything to her at a real low resolution so she can't use it in print items.

that was going to be my suggestion as well! If she wants them printed, you could maybe order them along with your next order... that way she can't add to them, you know?