What is it with guys?

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Twenty nine out of thirty one days of the month I am the one that cooks, cleans, puts stuff away, etc. I don't ask for help. I don't get on him for doing other things. I don't ask for praise when I get something done.

Then, for two magical days in the month, Joel gets a bug in his pants and wants to clean. Awesome. Great. GO FOR IT! But when he does it, he hints around for help. He complains that he's the only one cleaning. He goes on and on about how this house is sooooo messy. (which, it's not, really, compared to a lot of the time. Plus, I've been SICK for five weeks!)

Then, he makes dinner. And I use the word makes lightly. He bought a pizza from the deli. Put some green peppers & ham on it. Cooks it. Then he goes on and on about how delicious it is.

He just said to me, "Sometimes when I talk a lot about pizza. It's not that I really like it that much. It's that I want you to say, "Yes, honey, this pizza is REALLY good!"

:glare::rolleyes:

Who's with me?
 
OMG, my dh does the exact same thing! I do almost all the cleaning, but the one day every once in a great while he does clean, he will make comments about me not cleaning at the same time. Yes cause you always jump up and clean when I do. My dh though when he cooks, he cooks for him and the baby. I am a vegetarian so my food is altered, but he never makes mine for me like I do for him. I make mine while he makes the other ones. Often its just leaving the meat out for me, but I still make mine.
 
I guess I am lucky in that regards! DH helps me a lot! I have a bad back & there's several everyday household chores I can't do & he totally steps in & does them for me! And, usually he only grills! lol I try to get him to cook w/me but it's rare! lol But, he always tells me how good supper is, even if it's not that good! lol I truly am blessed! :)
Sorry, just had to brag on my man a little bit! :wub:
 
It gets better... I know, you're probably wondering HOW it can get better than that... tonight is the Notre Dame game. He invited his friend Matt over to watch a long time ago. Fine, whatever. He's seen me looking bad before. (I've been home sick in my PJs and greasy hair for two days now. lol) Anyway, not thrilled with the idea, but whatever.

Now he announces he's invited ANOTHER friend who I WILL have to shower & *gasp* put a bra on now! LOL
 
Yeah... as much as I love mine (he does a lot of the cleaning and cooking, but I also am a mom and work fulltime so we're even right?)... he drives me nuts with this sometimes.
 
schock77 said:
Yeah... as much as I love mine (he does a lot of the cleaning and cooking, but I also am a mom and work fulltime so we're even right?)... he drives me nuts with this sometimes.
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Yep, I, too, am a mom & work fulltime. When I went back to work at the beginning of the school year, I sat him down and told him, "Remember, when school starts, I need help! lol
 
Then we both need to give our guys a good kick in the rear! :)

Mine had better be good--- he left Thursday for a fishing trip (one kiddo sick already, then the other kiddo and I get strep) so he's coming home to a mess tomorrow. I feel crummy and may go to sleep early! If he says a word, I'll vacuum during football! LOL!
 
Ooooooooo that'll get 'im! (And it gives me a WONDERFUL idea!) But, honey? You WANTED me to help with cleaning, didn't you???
 
lol Some boys need a lot of positive reinforcement :D I love it when I ask DH for more help because, oh I dunno, I've got a full schedule of college courses AND I'm a SAHM AND I'm active in DD's school junk... and he empties and fills the dishwasher once a week. Uh, thanks honey but... uh... I meant like splitting chores a little more evenly. He's NEVER... I mean NEVER cleaned a bathroom since we've been together and he's done laundry maybe a handful of times lmao
 
my biggest problem is when I ask for help, I actually want it down NOW and not 8 hours from now:p but since he just spent 7 months with them as a working full time single parent, while I was deployed, he is MUCH more willing to help when I ask then before I left...I think now that he realizes how much I actually did/do on a daily/weekly basis!
 
*lol*

Yes, DH does this, too. He has his son every Wed overnight, and with the new baby, DH is in charge of his son's care while I manage the wee one. This past Wednesday, he had to take his son to tae kwon do, so all by himself while I was bfing, he thought to pick up McDonald's for dinner. You would have thought he found a cure for cancer.

'Wasn't that good of me to pick up dinner?'
'Yes, dear.'
'I mean, with needing to be at Tyler's class at 8 and us not getting home until 6:30, if I'd made dinner, we wouldn't have had time to eat!'
'Yes, dear. Thank you.'
'And do you see I remembered to get yours with no onions?'
'Yes, dear. Thank you.'

I'm tempted to wake him up at 3 am and have this convo:

'Wasn't it good of me to feed the baby when she was crying? I mean, with me being the only one who can feed her, I just thought it'd be a good idea to do that instead of letting her cry. You see how I didn't let her crying wake you up? Of course, I woke you up to tell you how I wasn't going to have her wake you up, but wasn't that so smart of me?'

Sheesh.

*lol*
 
When DH get a 'cleaning' fit, he usually chooses a messy drawer or cupboard, empties the content in a bag, re-arrange about a quarter of the stuff, then puts the bag with the remaining stuff on a chair or on the counter, forgets about it and comes to me to get positive reinforcement about his cleaning.

Of course, I then have to sort out the junk in the bag, because if I don't touch it, it stays there for days. But DH is happy, cause he actually thinks that he cleaned.

Whatever. :cursing:

But I can't complain to much, because he washes the clothes (I fold them and put them away), he does the dishes and some cooking, and the yard work but I always have to give him a ton and a half of positive reinforcement. :p
 
SmallMoments said:
Yep, I, too, am a mom & work fulltime. When I went back to work at the beginning of the school year, I sat him down and told him, "Remember, when school starts, I need help! lol
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I work full-time, too. I finally had a chat with mine last week that I needed him to help me clean up because our son's birthday is tomorrow and people will be over. He said he would and started to clean the dishes while I decided to check my email. Now mind you he hadn't touched a thing around the house in months and he actually makes a comment about me sitting around while he cleans! I was a bit ticked off.
 
LeeAndra said:
*lol*

Yes, DH does this, too. He has his son every Wed overnight, and with the new baby, DH is in charge of his son's care while I manage the wee one. This past Wednesday, he had to take his son to tae kwon do, so all by himself while I was bfing, he thought to pick up McDonald's for dinner. You would have thought he found a cure for cancer.

'Wasn't that good of me to pick up dinner?'
'Yes, dear.'
'I mean, with needing to be at Tyler's class at 8 and us not getting home until 6:30, if I'd made dinner, we wouldn't have had time to eat!'
'Yes, dear. Thank you.'
'And do you see I remembered to get yours with no onions?'
'Yes, dear. Thank you.'

I'm tempted to wake him up at 3 am and have this convo:

'Wasn't it good of me to feed the baby when she was crying? I mean, with me being the only one who can feed her, I just thought it'd be a good idea to do that instead of letting her cry. You see how I didn't let her crying wake you up? Of course, I woke you up to tell you how I wasn't going to have her wake you up, but wasn't that so smart of me?'

Sheesh.

*lol*
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Oh my goodness! This made me laugh out loud!! I DARE you to!
 
LeeAndra said:
I'm tempted to wake him up at 3 am and have this convo:

'Wasn't it good of me to feed the baby when she was crying? I mean, with me being the only one who can feed her, I just thought it'd be a good idea to do that instead of letting her cry. You see how I didn't let her crying wake you up? Of course, I woke you up to tell you how I wasn't going to have her wake you up, but wasn't that so smart of me?'

Sheesh.
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*snort* :D
 
:w00t: Y'all are making laugh so hard!!! I am fortunate that my DB is not this bad! Maybe it is because we are not married yet! ROFL!!!
 
These are all too funny!

My DH is a SAHD...so he is pretty good about all that stuff. He even does dishes and laundry! But be careful what you wish for...he's still a guy and has "man standards"! I've had plenty underthings turn pink in the wash, LOL!! In his world, leftovers have a much longer shelf life than what is recommended and kids are dressed in the "FIFO" school of clothing management. (that's First In, First Out). Yep - that means on the lucky day where the red and gray shirt pops up with the brown shorts, that's what DS wears to school.

And dinner? Hmmm...if you like frozen pizza and hamburger helper you're IN LUCK!

So I'm stuck in this place where I can't complain because I can't do it myself...but I sure do wish things were sometimes done differently!
 
SmallMoments said:
It gets better... I know, you're probably wondering HOW it can get better than that... tonight is the Notre Dame game. He invited his friend Matt over to watch a long time ago. Fine, whatever. He's seen me looking bad before. (I've been home sick in my PJs and greasy hair for two days now. lol) Anyway, not thrilled with the idea, but whatever.

Now he announces he's invited ANOTHER friend who I WILL have to shower & *gasp* put a bra on now! LOL
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I'd say "I'm sick go to THEIR house...it's not right that you invited someone to our house when I am not feeling good". Make sure you tell him HE is responsible for their own food...clean up and the works!
 
schock77 said:
Then we both need to give our guys a good kick in the rear! :)

Mine had better be good--- he left Thursday for a fishing trip (one kiddo sick already, then the other kiddo and I get strep) so he's coming home to a mess tomorrow. I feel crummy and may go to sleep early! If he says a word, I'll vacuum during football! LOL!
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You go girl! Dare ya! :p
 
g8rbeckie said:
My DH is a SAHD...so he is pretty good about all that stuff. He even does dishes and laundry! But be careful what you wish for...he's still a guy and has "man standards"! I've had plenty underthings turn pink in the wash, LOL!! In his world, leftovers have a much longer shelf life than what is recommended and kids are dressed in the "FIFO" school of clothing management. (that's First In, First Out). Yep - that means on the lucky day where the red and gray shirt pops up with the brown shorts, that's what DS wears to school.
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Ok, I won't say who in the family did this so as not to start something but I've got a story that will at least tie if not beat this one. [He] had the kids get dressed for school the night before and then sleep in them to save time getting ready in the morning.
 
scrap2day said:
Ok, I won't say who in the family did this so as not to start something but I've got a story that will at least tie if not beat this one. [He] had the kids get dressed for school the night before and then sleep in them to save time getting ready in the morning.
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lmao...let me guess, then he wanted praise for [his] great idea, right?
 
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