the "comments" from non-scrappers

I wasn't aware I had to be a 50s housewife before I was allowed to scrapbook. :p

I'd try to give her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she's just joking but yeah, sometimes people just don't think before they say things. :thumbdown:
 
Brook I have never gotten a comment like that and If I did especially from a former co-worker I'd totally delete it and then delete her.

Why even go through the irritation of someone like that... blehhhhh
 
Yowch! I've never gotten a comment like that.

I would totally snark with a passive-aggressive comment. Or post Jacinda's comment (the first or the second, lol) and then move her to my "ohhhrrrrrmm" friends list (yes, it's really labeled that way) where they don't see anything at all. "Friends" like that can totally hang out with my MIL who's in that list too.

And Brook, I wanna be FB friends with ya! :)
 
I've never gotten that kind of comment too!
I think she isn't worth to be you friend and since she is a former co-worker, not a close friend at all. You could just delete or block her.

If you don't mind having some strange Thai characters popping up once a while, you could friend me as well, lol.

http://www.facebook.com/may.scholz
 
MayS said:
I've never gotten that kind of comment too!
I think she isn't worth to be you friend and since she is a former co-worker, not a close friend at all. You could just delete or block her.

If you don't mind having some strange Thai characters popping up once a while, you could friend me as well, lol.

http://www.facebook.com/may.scholz
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I would enjoy having a few more SSD FB friends! I've got a couple. I might send you a request too!
 
Oh my - I have never had that happen. All my comments are always very nice and make me blush, lol. I think it would really bother me deep down if someone said something so harsh. My first instinct would be to go all angry in a reply comment, but then I'd probably delete it and go for the snarky angle (the more calm you seem -- the more it looks like you're laughing at her -- the better in my opinion, lol). But yeah - after I was done, I'd delete her asap. I don't keep that kind of negative around ever!!! (I personally love Jacinda's replies, lol.)

And if you want another friend (or anyone for that matter) - I love having scrapping friends on my facebook :) It's nice having people that truly get it as friends sometimes :) www.facebook.com/jeniecemoody
 
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What?! That's just rude. Sorry. :( I've never had that type of comment, but more than once I've received comments like, "So, are you going to be adding more photos to this later?" They don't get the "art" of it and didn't understand why my photos didn't fill the entire page. Hellllooooo... it's called composition and white space! :rolleyes:
 
Wow. That is so rude! I'd throw her off my friends list!
A lot of my close friends and family don't really get scrapbooking. I used to show them things but they'd just say: oh, nice and I felt like they just said that out of sympathy, you know?
There are a few friends that truly admire my pages and often say they wish they could do that for their kids, but they always claim not to have time for it...
Oh well, it doesn't bother me anymore. I love my pages and I love looking back at them. I know I will always love looking through my books and I'm sure my kids will too. That's all what matters!
 
That's just terrible and sad. She's probably feeling guilty because she isn't doing any of those things or enjoying a hobby. Maybe she needs to find a hobby herself, other than bashing people on FB!

I wouldn't be afraid to unfriend or unsubscribe people on FB who just bring stress to your life...it isn't worth that at all!

http://facebook.com/dailydwelling
 
wow, how rude, and annoying. I wish I could be passive agressive, I probably would tell her to feck off and mind her own business :thumbdown:
 
Poor you, it's not nice when people are so rude. I've fielded a few similar comments recently with my cards. Some of my work colleagues think that because I live with my parents that every minute that I'm not at work is 'me' time and 'no wonder you have time to make all these cards, you've got no kids to be looking after or home to keep clean'. What they don't realise is I get up early on a Saturday and Sunday morning to make my cards as that is the only time in the week when I can craft. When I'm not at work I have school planning and assessmentts to do, housework, cooking and chores, I'm remodelling my own house that I bought in November, running the online ribbon shop that I partner with my Mam, look after my doggie, contribute to a few design teams and generally keeping busy. They are the ones that sit in the staffroom and tell me all the things that they've watched on television and how much cleaning they'll have to do at the weekend as their houses are a mess.

It's hard to know what to do because comments like that do hurt, I'm just a nice person generally and I'm not good at retaliating. Just try to rise above it :)
 
I've never had a response that rude, but I have had negative comments. Usually I get the whole "I wish I had time to scrapbook" comment which irritates me but I don't think people usually mean it in the way it's taken. I love Jacinda's comebacks though. :)
 
My SIL makes passive aggressive comments about 'wishing she had all that time' to do something like that occasionally when I post layouts.

I always want to say something about how if she cut back on the time she spent laying in her tanning bed & going out drinking with her friends she'd have as much time as I do.
 
I've never got comments like that and if I ever did I'd tell them to shove it where the sun don't shine!!! It's none of anyone's business how you use YOUR time!! I find that people who "attack" like that are the ones lacking something in their life so they must attack your choices to make up for it!!! IF you don't want to be mean like I would be then you could be a little "funny" and post this on her wall....

Hey [insert name} I found your nose.....it was in my business"!!!! :D :D :D
 
mrshobbes said:
I would totally snark with a passive-aggressive comment. Or post Jacinda's comment (the first or the second, lol) and then move her to my "ohhhrrrrrmm" friends list (yes, it's really labeled that way) where they don't see anything at all. "Friends" like that can totally hang out with my MIL who's in that list too.
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My MIL is on that same list! Haha.
 
Wow, thanks for all the support you guys!! :wub: I love this place!!! You are all so great. :)

I messaged her privately this morning. I basically sent a brief message along the lines of: "I know you probably meant to be funny & teasing but it came out rude & mean" and then I deleted the whole conversation from my album's comments. But not before I took a screen shot of it. LOL. ;)

I can't un-friend her. Not only is she someone I frequently see (she currently works at my church believe it or not) but my mom is somewhat friends with her. She would be very vocal to my family and friends at church if I un-friended her. She will probably say something about this whole thing to my mom as it is. She has a.... strong personality. :p I am going to change my settings to filter things from her view. I don't need anymore of her sarcastic biting comments in my life! :D
 
I'd love to be everyone's FB friends from the Sweet Shoppe! You can find me on Laura, Tara or Amber's lists. Or traci, or kristin....LOL.

Anyway, ignore people like that. You're capturing your family's memories and that is priceless. if your laundry sits another day....SO BE IT
 
I can happen to be very snarky if I'm attacked like that lol... my comment would have been along the lines of -- assuming she was posting during work hours

"Did you check the mail, file some papers and get your bosses coffee before you hopped on facebook to see what I'm doing? Besides my FABULOUS husband doesn't mind so neither should you. get a life."


That is SO rude of her. I can't stand negative people. Seriously how much time does she spend watching TV, on FACEBOOK, reading or whatever she is in to besides being all in other peoples mix?
 
It makes me sad when a woman feels the need to criticize another and make her feel inadequate! You are leaving a wonderful gift for your children and future generations! And you are a better person for those you love because you are able to find time to do something you enjoy!

Everyone has something - be it TV, or working out, or sleeping, or going out drinking. We all have the same number hours in the day, don't hate me for the way I choose to spend mine! :hugs:
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Just because I have a hobby doesn't mean I constantly shirk my responsibilities. Sure, sometimes I do! But her comments were way off today. Couldn't be more wrong.
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I have encountered this sort of thing before and from some of my closest friends. I get a lot of "where do you find the time?" comments. In addition to scrapbooking, I also do birth announcements and invites for friends although less now that most of my friends are done having babies.

I work full-time and commute 3 hours a day (there and back) and I was staying up late on the weekends to scrapbook and do other computery projects. I commented on being tired to my closest friend and she basically told me that maybe I should drop the hobbies since obviously they aren't very good for me. She doesn't get the scrapbooking or my rabid love of taking pictures (though she is often the beneficiary of my obsession since I always take lots of photos of her kids at events and she often doesn't even bring her camera). I have even stopped showing her my layouts or books since she doesn't seem to care. When she told me to drop scrapbooking, I was so upset - somehow I don't think my beloved creative outlet is what is damaging to my health...perhaps it is my stressful job and waking up at 4:45 every day!!!

I don't share layouts on Facebook because there are just too many people on there that are more acquaintances and my layouts feel too personal to share with them. I don't even like that they see my commments on scrapbooking Facebook pages!!
 
I got some of those types of comments when I left work to be a SAHM. I'm a very nice person, but if someone wrongs me like that, I give it to them. lolol She may want to pay more attention in church the next time she's there, and I'd tell her so. She could put up any fuss she wanted in church or otherwise, but I'd calmly stand my ground and let her know that her hateful, judgmental comments are her own issues she needs to deal with.

I'm sure your mom would understand if you unfriended her. No one deserves that kind of hate in their lives. {{big hugs}}
 
Wow. How incredibly rude. I am super sensitive so I would have been very upset by it. Looks like you handled it perfectly Brook!! Good for you!! :)
 
iScrap said:
I got some of those types of comments when I left work to be a SAHM. I'm a very nice person, but if someone wrongs me like that, I give it to them. lolol She may want to pay more attention in church the next time she's there, and I'd tell her so. She could put up any fuss she wanted in church or otherwise, but I'd calmly stand my ground and let her know that her hateful, judgmental comments are her own issues she needs to deal with.

I'm sure your mom would understand if you unfriended her. No one deserves that kind of hate in their lives. {{big hugs}}
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I was thinking the same thing. I don't care where I know them from or who they're friends with, I don't keep that kind of negativity in my life, period. I lived too long keeping various people around because I felt like I had to for one reason or another. It was quite liberating when I stopped putting them ahead of me & my family and started focusing on what I needed (and I mean that - what I NEEDED) to be happy. Scrapping is a HUGE part of me and I won't give it up for the world! :)
 
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They see me rollin'. They hatin'. They try to catch me ridin' dirty.
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Okay, I admit I didn't read through this whole thread, but this totally cracked me up! :p I think those kinds of comments usually stem from jealousy. Don't let it get to you! Just keep making those fabulous pages for you and your family. There's always gonna be haters. Just let 'em hate! LOL

ETA: If you (or anyone else) want to add me on FB, feel free! I love my scrappin' peeps! :)
https://www.facebook.com/kendall.tubbs
 
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I'm glad you contacted her about it. That was totally inappropriate. I would have came right out and told her she was rude too. I don't have much tolerance for that kind of behavior. I'm glad you resisted the urge to be snarky to her, good for you!
 
Oh, I'm sorry you got such a rude comment and now are actually spending your energy on dealing with it Brook.
I get those sarcastic "where do you find time for it" or "if I only had so much time", too. I'm considering to start to reply: "Well, I won 10 hours more a day in a lottery, you know. I'm sorry you didn't participate."
 
This thread is great! I'll admit there are times when I want to scrapbook when I should be doing other things. But, overall, my family isn't suffering because of this hobby. I cook dinner, I play with my kids, the laundry gets done (just not folded - lol).

I recently had a friend tell me that when she sees my pages on FB, it makes her feel bad because she doesn't scrapbook. I had to laugh because this is a girl who is VERY involved in a lot of things. She has a successful photography business and a regular spot on a local tv program, etc., etc., etc. So my response to her comment was to kind of laugh and tell her that she does plenty of things that I don't do and she doesn't need to feel guilty about not scrapping. And, then she said, "Yeah. But, what you do MATTERS."

So, just remember that. Yeah - it's a hobby. It can be time consuming. But, in the end, you are preserving memories for you and your family. And, that matters.
 
I'm pretty damn serious about scrapbooking being the MOST worthwhile hobby. It's the only thing that preserves and shares your LIFE with people you love now and in the future. I learned the hard way having a father die from Alzheimer's how much history can be lost. I still regret that I wasn't a scrapbooker before my FIL died so I could get his amazing history from him first-hand.

So someone like that would be unfriended, or at least blocked from my layouts, pretty quickly.

I don't get that from others, most are just jealous. ;)

And oh yay - more FB friends! :) (my link is in my siggy)
 
Oh yeah - my FB link is in my siggy too. I love having my scrappy friends on FB. :D
 
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