So ticked off....(long vent)

crystalbella77

crystalbella77

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Ugh...I am just soooooo fed up with some peeps right now. We have certain family members that are ALWAYS sick. Always I tell you! We go see them and then within a few days we all end up sick. We have specifically told these people that we want to know if they are sick before we go down there. They just inform us that we are sheltering our kids too much and they need to be exposed to some things or they will never be able to fight things off. For 1: We take our kids out so that is stupid. Just because we don't want to hang with people with the flu or something doesn't make us bad parents. I always thought the opposite was true. :glare: for 2: It's not normal for little kids to be sick ALL THE TIME. Not just once or twice a season but like constantly. It's super hard on their little bodies. :(

So...we get down to said peoples house last Sunday and their kids were sick. We promptly asked about it and we were told that it was just a minor thing and not even contagious anymore. :thumbdown: Omg my kids are soooooooo sick. Ezra is like coughing and throwing up. Gabe can barely even move he says it hurts so bad. :( Stella is fine. she like never gets sick, but my poor boys. It's really bad!

These are close family members too. not like distant cousins. how are we supposed to avoid them?! I told Garret that I will not be going to their house again this winter and I didn't care what he had to tell them. this is insane and it's not normal. :( it's just upsetting and I needed to vent. *Cry* It's 1:30 and they are both up and down and having the worst time. Garret is working nights so it's just me for a few more days...*sigh* Anywho, I feel a bit better now...so thanks for letting me vent. :unsure:
 
Yea I would not want to purposely expose myself or anyone else to the flu or a cold but most of the time you are the most contagious before you show any symptoms of being sick. If I know Im coming down with something I try to avoid anyone who does not live in my house. I figure they (meaning my kids and husband) would have been exposed already to whatever I have but that does not mean everyone needs to. Plus who wants to visit when they are sick anyhow? When Im sick I try to just rest so that I can get better quickly. Sorry your little ones are sick. Hope they start feeling better really soon!!
 
Oh you poor thing.

One summer went on vacation with family and they gave us water bottles (which apparently they had used). My sister got so sick that I had to nurse her for the rest of the vacation & we had to take her to multiple doctors. Then I got it. Also ended up with multiple doctor visits, antibiotics, steroids -- and had to miss work for a week after my vacation (which didn't make me popular at work, either).

This is also close family -- and it seems like two to three days after we see them I'm sick again.

I'm so sorry for you. I hope your kids get better very soon.
 
Goodness gracious that is ridiculous! You are not sheltering your kids by keeping them away from people who are sick!!

I hope your kiddos feel better soon! It is not fun when your babies sick :(
 
Oh, honey. I am so sorry! You are definitely in the right for wanting to keep your kids away from other sick kids!
 
Aww! :( I hope the boys feel better soon...and Miss Stella doesn't get it! THat's just rude. I have a family member who pulls that all the time and it drives me NUTS. You're not sheltering your kids at all. I know that. You're an awesome parent Crystal. Forget the haters :p
 
oh that's so annoying!! my SILs and i have a rule that we don't get our kids near each other if there is fever or if anyone is throwing up ... we've already had so many sicky germs spread around that we've all learned our lesson ... sorry your kiddos are sick :( poor little guys!!
 
Thanks girls! I am so relieved to know that I am in fact the normal one like I always thought! :p

Ezra was up all night. Gabe says he is feeling better today so I hope he really is!! Crossing my fingers that today is a better day!
 
Kids are "accidentally" exposed to enough - there's absolutely NO REASON to intentionally expose them to anything! You're spot on, sister!

sorry you're going through this :unsure:

Night time is always the worst when kids are sick; it seems like those nights will NEVER end!
 
That is just so wrong that a family member, who is supposed to care about you and your loved ones would say that! I would avoid their house for a while and be completely straightforward with the reason. We hit a string of illness and then lice in December-January and I never exposed my kids intentionally to nieces and nephews. Hope the kiddos feel better.
 
That is such a shame... I'm so sorry that your kiddos are so sick! You are definitely not wrong to purposely keep them away from sick people. IMO kids get exposed to enough stuff that you can't control!

As for the always being sick part... I will say that I'm the type of person that has a permanent cold (nothing severe) for most of the winter. As I've been told it has to do with my allergies and it just makes me more prone to colds. That being said, I normally try not to expose myself to other people when it is bad (coughing, fever, or more flu-like symptoms).

Hope that the boys are feeling better soon!!!
 
Thanks girls. Seriously I am really beyond frustrated!

I understand having a sniffly nose or cold/allergies, most of the Winter or a season..but this is not like that. :( It's like we get down there and the kids are hacking like crazy (they are 7-almost 2--there are 4 of them) so no one covers their mouth or anything. Like it's real sickies. :( I feel bad for those kids being so sick all the time!

I am hoping this doesn't stick around long and cross your fingers that Stella doesn't end up sick too!
 
Big hugs!! I hope your kiddos are feeling better soon! I understand your frustration. My sister and her family are always sick, I mean ALWAYS. Everytime we hang out, my girls end up sick. We avoid them as much as possible and she knows we purposely avoid them because she never tells us when they're sick.
 
That is just flat out WRONG of that family to intentionally expose your family! WRONG. I got to the point of refusing to visit certain family members in the winter because of this exact thing. Not covering their mouths ...excuse me but that MOTHER is to BLAME (and I mean BLAME) for that!! A little one can be taught to cover...I know I have raised 3 children and know as toddlers they could understand covering their mouths. ...but you should not have to walk into unexpected illnesses. I would tell that family straight out ... no buts about it ... you will see them in the Spring when they get rid of it all.

Oh and you might ask them if they have "volunteered to be germ collectors from the local hospital" ... and if not ... why don't you suggest for them to VOLUNTEER to go weekly so their children can be "exposed to all strains and varieties of illnesses so they can get their immune systems up to all possibilities"??? Maybe this EXTREME example might show them how stupid they sound.

I had to refuse Christmas Eve at MIL's house one year if my niece was there because they suspected she had Chicken Pox and I wasn't ready to give my baby chicken pox exposure!!! ... they did have her come earlier in the day and then leave ... otherwise they wouldn't have seen their oldest grandson on Christmas Eve that year. I started standing up for that crap IMMEDIATELY after my first was born ... and so now they know not to mess with me in regards to "exposing" my children to anything!! The kids get enough "accidental exposure" at school and out in the stores and such ... they don't need intentional exposure.

Good luck ... it will be harder to BREAK that insanity since you have put up with it awhile...
 
Not cool...I had a friend that did that to me and it was so frustrating. Lucky for me, she moved away. Your situation with it being family makes it harder. Hope your kids feel better.
 
That is just weird. I would avoid them, too. I mean, yeah, kids are gonna pass things around, but if its all the time, it would tick me off. Who wants their babies to be sick?
 
I don't blame you at all for wanting to stay away so your kids don't get sick! It's normal to not wanna hang out with sick kids, it's not like you're wrapping your kids up in a bubble, geez! It doesn't sound like they take your feelings about this seriously, so I'd stay away from the for a while too! Sorry you've gotta deal with this, and I hope the boys get to feeling better soon!!!
 
Yuck! That would make me crazy! I took the kids to gymnastics today, and one of the kids in Benjamin's group was SOOOO sick, she was hacking and snot flying all over the place. I cannot understand people not keeping their kids home when they are that sick! My point is, you're exposed to enough unintentionally, they should know better than to have people over when their kids are sick. If mine are sick, I warn everyone! If they decide to come then, that's their problem, kwim?

I hope they're feeling better soon!
 
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