So here's my scrapping dilemma...

Valgal

Valgal

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I was just about 1/2 way through my PL album. I hit week 26 and the <cough cough> other relationship started and I stopped scrapbooking. So I've missed 6 weeks, including this one. And it's really all one big blur anyway, especially the last month.

I thought about making a title page that basically says weeks 26-31 and just filling up several pages with photos and no journaling. BUT... the whole point of this album was to be raw and honest and have it be a REAL representation of me. Should I even dare to put some scrap therapy type pages in after those? And from here on out, I'm going to be moving and doing who knows what and it feels weird to scrap that stuff. Or would this make the most interesting album in the history of scrapbooking?

GAH! Opinions? Should I just ditch the whole thing?
 
I don't do PL. But I think you should definitely make some scrap therapy pages, maybe just not for the PL album. LOL

Maybe just some pages of photos and the weeks would suffice??
 
PL is about 'life' so I'd include it in some way. As for how... I'd think about who the book is for and who's likely to read it. If its just you, I'd say cover it however you like. If the kids might look at it and its a bit sensitive I might take a different approach. Good luck!
 
I think it really depends what you'll want to be reminded of down the road, and it may be hard to know when so little time has passed. If you already know, then scrap or don't accordingly. If it were me, I think I'd do a few pages on the normal stuff that has been going on and mention a few of the facts, like the decision to divorce. Then I think I'd do a few scrap therapy pages about the affair, my feelings about all the changes, etc. By making those separate you have the option of including them in the album or not, depending how you feel about it later. As for moving and other big changes, I think those are perfect things for a PL album.

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When my ex and I split up, I did a separate art journal scrapbook with all the ooshy-gooshy emo pages. I did continue to scrap my regular life and covered moving back to my hometown, temporarily living with my parents, and getting my own place.

Your kids are obviously old enough to know what's going on so it's not as if you need to scrap it in order for them to remember what happened or not scrap it hoping that it will be something that's a blur for them, KWIM?

I don't know that a PL album is the place to get into the nitty-gritty of the affair and breakdown of your marriage but I do think you should include the facts as that is your real life. You can talk about going through a rough patch, big changes coming down the road, having 'the talk' with your husband, etc. in a way that is respectful to the father of your children (and your children themselves) while still being authentic and embracing your truth.
 
Could you hide the journaling? I did that a few times where I chose an accent card that fit the theme but then wrote on the back so it wouldn't be seen. I knew it was there but no one else would.
 
These are good ideas, girls. Especially making those extra pages that could just be removed if I change my mind. I think I'll do catch up pages with just pictures, and then add some, to quote LeeAndra, ooshy goosy emo pages. Maybe even just some artsy pages and quotes that reflect what I've been feeling and thinking.

I originally intended this album to record the kinds of things that I wish I knew about my grandma and great-grandma and great-great-grandma. Aside from the black and white photos and recipes. Like, what did they ACTUALLY think about their life and do everyday? My dad told me the other day that my grandma had an affair and now I'm really wondering what that was like for her.
 
I know it's hard to figure out what to do scrap-wise when life falls apart, so I'm sending you hugs first of all. :hugs:

I agree with what the other girls have said about "keepin' it real" in your PL pages. When I did PL last year, I always tried to be honest and scrap the bad stuff too because hey - that's life, and it's not always pretty. Be as honest as you feel like being. You may find it cathartic to get some of those feelings out.
 
kendallt said:
I know it's hard to figure out what to do scrap-wise when life falls apart, so I'm sending you hugs first of all. :hugs:

I agree with what the other girls have said about "keepin' it real" in your PL pages. When I did PL last year, I always tried to be honest and scrap the bad stuff too because hey - that's life, and it's not always pretty. Be as honest as you feel like being. You may find it cathartic to get some of those feelings out.
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I remember you struggling with either scrapbooking your ex, or including those pages in your printed book or something. Am I remembering correctly? If so, what did you decide to do?
 
Valgal said:
I remember you struggling with either scrapbooking your ex, or including those pages in your printed book or something. Am I remembering correctly? If so, what did you decide to do?
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Yep, you're remembering correctly. Honestly it just took me several years (about 3.5 to be exact) to get to a point where I felt okay with going back and scrapping memories that included my ex. (That being said, I am still on the fence about whether to print some of the "lovey dovey" pages I scrapped of just my ex and me, but I have no issues with scrapping family pages that include my daughter). It did take a while to get to that point though, and I'll admit that I still sometimes get the tiniest twinge of nostalgia when scrapping old pages when we were still a family. But, I think that's totally normal. These guys were a part of our story and our family for many, many years, and it's disingenuous to pretend otherwise.
 
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