SAHMs: How long are you home alone with the kids?

we are all up between 6:30AM and 7AM. Dh and the girls get ready and DH fixes breakfast and then puts the girls on the bus at 8:20AM and he leave for work then. It's me and the 2 boys till about 3:45PM when the girls get home. DH can get home anywhere from 5PM till 8PM. Most nights he is home by 6PM. So anywhere from 8.5 hours to 12 hours I'm home with the kids. After he gets home it's dinner and usually playing with the kids. Then at 8pm he puts the girls to bed and I put the boys to bed.
 
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It just depends. During busy season, he travels some (like now) and it's hard. He can be gone for a week (M-F) at a time. Sometimes it's only for 3-4 days. If he's not traveling, he leaves home around 7:30 and gets home around 6. He's a governmental auditor and travels all over the state. :( I have it made during off season, though, b/c he's home a lot--he works from home some and plays from home some. ;) When he does go to the office, it's usually only from like 9-4.
 
Mine leaves around 7am and comes home around 5-ish. But he usually goes straight to the computer or straight to the kitchen to start dinner.

It's really hard for me... mine are 2 and 10 months, so they're constantly on me alllllll day.
 
My husband works out of town. He leaves early Monday morning and is home at the earliest Thursday night. He usually gets home Friday morning and sleeps that day because he has worked and drove through the night to get home. Some weeks are good and some are bad.
 
Since May 20 last year up until next Wednesday...I've been with my kids alone 24/7 7 days a week lol. Yeah..it makes for some seriously LONG days. But he's in Mississippi, and he's comin' home!!! lol
 
My kids are up early (5.30-6am) so I head out to the gym at 5am and am home just after 7am. DH feeds the kids and gets them dressed so they are all ready for me to come home have a shower and take the eldest to school at 8am. DH leaves within minutes of me arriving home. DH then gets home usually no later than 5.30pm and we all have dinner together. He then showers/baths the kids while I clean up dinner. All the kids are in bed by 7.30-8.30pm.
 
He leaves at 6 AM on Monday and gets home at 7 PM on Thursday evening. Not the easiest life but we've been doing it for a year now and I'm getting used to it.
 
My DH is deployed to Iraq and has been since last July. He is due home in August. I am thankful that my kids are not little anymore. I am not sure if I could handle 3 small children with him being gone for a year. It is hard enough as it is. My kids are 10, 14, and 17.
 
DH leaves anywhere between 7 and 8am during the "off-season" and gets home between 6 and 7pm. During "busy season" he could leave as early as 6:30am and won't come home until between 10:30 and midnight. He's an auditor for a Big 5 accounting firm and so he has one REALLY busy season a year and maybe 2 more kinda busy seasons depending on clients:)

It was so nice when we were renting the apartment attached to my inlaws' house because I could take JT there to visit and have some grown up talk. However, I've survived 2 REALLY busy seasons since we moved a year and half ago. I just scrap a lot at night after the kiddos go to bed. JT is up around 7am and Isabella is usually up by 8am. They both go to bed around 8:30pm.
 
My hubby is a truck driver so this varies. With his newest job he still goes out of town but not as long of hauls as his previous job(s). But IF we happen to get lucky and he is home he is usually up and gone before we get up and he usually isn't home until an hour before he has to go to sleep to get up to do it again.
 
DH generally leaves around 7:30a & gets home at around 6:30p most nights & takes over parenting as soon as dinner is over. The boys are in bed around 8pm. He left this morning at 4:30a & probably won't be home until after 9p, that happens a couple times a month.

It got easier on me once DS1 was in pre-k 3 mornings a week and I had a little breathing space but those first few years were hard. One thing I did was accept I did not have to be playing with the kids all the time. They could entertain themselves in the room with me for 30 minutes while I am on the computer.
 
Mormishmom & Jennifer - I just wanted to say that I feel your pain.

My DH recently left a big 5 company for private. and it's been INSANE the entire time we've been here. I think he's going nuts going to the same office every day and the busy season hasn't stopped yet - hahaa.

However, because of the past busy seasons - I don't complain too much when there are 3-4 weeks in a row of 15-18 hour days. At least he's no longer sleeping at his office, getting ready for the next days client ;)

Ok - so JB (my DH) leaves the house around 6:30 (we live like 10 minutes from his office) - and on a normal day, he gets home after 8. However, he's a total workaholic. And I knew that when I married him. I understand the sense of accomplishment gives a huge rush. I also understand that my husband has a HUGE problem with delegating responsibilities - haha. He needs to utilize his (rather experienced and talented) staff. (haha - I'm friends with 2 of them. even they have said as much)

...I haven't left the house without children in more than 3 weeks...
That makes for craziness.
 
It's nice to hear I'm not alone!! DH leaves for work at 7:30 and is home by 6:30 - we wait for him to have dinner (the kids get a big afternoon snack), the kids go to bed at 7:30 and 8:00 most nights. After they're asleep, DH works from home on his laptop a few days a week for another 2-3 hours. Sometimes he has to go in on weekends, sometimes he has really late nights, and every other month or so he's gone for a few days on a short trip. I shouldn't complain, but I wish he was home ALL the time. I'm crazy about him. And I get bored all day. I get into different projects and crafty things, and being creative in the kitchen but it's all just a distraction from wanting to be with him, which I can't do, because he's gone.
Oh, can I add we don't have a second vehicle, so if I want to leave the house I have very limited options. There is a small stripmall with a library, grocery store and dollar store a few blocks away. We're there at least once a week, and a playgroup near by just so I can have a small amount of adult conversation!
 
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My hubby usually leaves here around 7:20am and gets home around 6:30pm on average. Sometimes later, sometimes earlier. It all depends on what job he's at during the day. Once we move though it'll be later as he'll have to commute an hour home a lot of the time.
 
About 5 days out of 7 since he works away from home. Usually 2 nights during the week he is here to sleep, but its after the yougest went to bed, and he has to leave early - like this morning he had to leave at 3:45 AM.
 
It's interesting to see everyones schedules. I was off work on maternity leave from October 2008 until this past month and I loved it!!! I miss it already.

DH has 2 jobs. so our schedule was:

Sat-Wed: He would leave at 6am and be home by 4pm or so.
Thurs: He would leave at 4am and be back by around 1:30 or 2pm.
Friday: Usually works both jobs - so he's gone from 4am until midnite or later.

that left us pretty much all afternoon together, we have dinner together 6 nights a week, and he can go to soccer practice Wednesdays. He misses Fridays and Sunday games though.

Now - I'm back to work so our schedule is pretty much:
Weekends - he leaves at 6am and comes home by around 4pm
Mon-Wed: We're all out of the house by 5:30am. We drive to work together and pick up the kids and are all home around 5
Thurs: he leaves at 4am. I go in to work late - after the kids are in school. he picks them up and is home with them from around 2:30pm. I get home around 6pm.
Friday: He leaves at 4am. I leave the house around 6am. Usually he works both jobs --- so I get the kids around 5pm - and then head to soccer practice.

I like our schedules now much more than when we were first together and i worked mornings and he worked nights.
 
My DH is usually out of the house 7.30 and home just after 5pm - and in theory takes over with Alex until bathtime which we share.

DH is hopefully going to be offered a new job soon (fingers crossed), but with all the positives that will bring it, will add to his day - probably 45mins to an hour at both ends. Weekends are precious together time during daylight hours - though we some how seem to spend most of it cleaning, tidying etc.

We're a one car, one motorbike family - so like others, if the weather makes riding unsafe or he has to go direct to a meeting, I'm stuck.

Now Alex is 6, I obviously have more time to me - but the school hours just race by! It was very tough being a SAHM when he was little - I worried for my own sanity sometimes :blink:, so I'm sending love and hugs to all who are at home with their little ones now, especially those with no family near by, 'cos that really does make it all the more stressful and lonely.... I been there.
 
DH used to work 4 days a week:
Friday daytime 5 AM - 4 PM
Saturday, Sunday & Monday nights 5 PM - 4 AM.
I so miss that :( We were able to go out on Friday nights, and Sunday morning we would go fishing when he got home, and he still had tuesday, wednesday & thursday off.
 
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