Ok, I have a vent...

Okay, so here is my 2 cents. I am a half and half girl. If I really love a layout I will post in Sweet layout lovin. If I am on the fence I don't. And then I go through and start commenting. And I comment the ones that I like. So, if you posted one that doesn't appeal to me am I supposed to make stuff up? I can't imagine anyone holding some sort of grudge. This is pretend life here people. What can you take from someone else here? What can you ruin? I think it is ridiculous to get upset with anyone around here. If you don't like thier style you don't like thier style. You should not be forced to leave a comment. As long as you comment some of the people in the thread before you.
I mean, honestly, who wants a stupid, generic comment. We all want to know WHAT was good about it. Not just "hey nice lo"
And I know that after I post, I have never refreshed to see who posted after me and checked to make sure they left a comment. That just seems petty. I feel silly enough that I am asking for love. Love should not be forced. KWIM?
 
heatherdumas said:
Okay, so here is my 2 cents. I am a half and half girl. If I really love a layout I will post in Sweet layout lovin. If I am on the fence I don't. And then I go through and start commenting. And I comment the ones that I like. So, if you posted one that doesn't appeal to me am I supposed to make stuff up? I can't imagine anyone holding some sort of grudge. This is pretend life here people. What can you take from someone else here? What can you ruin? I think it is ridiculous to get upset with anyone around here. If you don't like thier style you don't like thier style. You should not be forced to leave a comment. As long as you comment some of the people in the thread before you.
I mean, honestly, who wants a stupid, generic comment. We all want to know WHAT was good about it. Not just "hey nice lo"
And I know that after I post, I have never refreshed to see who posted after me and checked to make sure they left a comment. That just seems petty. I feel silly enough that I am asking for love. Love should not be forced. KWIM?
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Umm...wow! Ok, now you've made me feel like a piece of crap.
 
That is not my point. My point is that people have different taste. I leave love on your layouts when I see them. I just hate that people get so upset over these things. There is so much going on in the real world, that if someone doesn't love my layout that is not the end of the world. It was still fun for me to do.
 
And for the record, I am NOT holding a grudge. Plus, if you post in the LO lovins thread you are SUPPOSED to comment on the LO above you. And I don't EVER give comments that aren't genuine.

Heather, your entire post has hurt my feelings and I don't mind telling you that. I feel like I just got chastised by my mama. Plus, I feel like you're saying that I am a petty person.
 
I get where Heather is coming from though. If someone genuinely doesn't like my LO, I don't want them to leave a "nice LO" comment on it just because they're supposed to. I'd much rather receive genuine comments, and I think that's all Heather was trying to say.
 
it true that this is such a small thing in the scheme of things and while i feel that if you play you should play correctly and fairly...no one is ever gonna be perfect. people will get looked over, etc. lets just all do the best we can do and not really worry about everyone else. if we don't get the comments we expect lets go out and kill a man. jk. really...we can use that energy for good not evil. leave the evil to 'chimp with gun'.
 
I agree, Heather, that it's probably better not to get upset over online stuff, but I don't think everyone views their interaction here as "pretend life." We are all real people who "talk" and support each other every day. I "know" people's husbands and kids and their struggles, and all of those things are very real, and my feelings for those people are real, even though I may not see those people in person. So, I don't think it's ridiculous that you might have your feelings hurt by something that happens here.

Also, while I don't leave comments on every layout on the page, the rule of the game -- if you choose to play it -- is to at least leave a comment on the LO directly above yours. It's not optional depending on whether you really like the layout or not! If you don't want to leave love for layouts you might not love, then just don't play.

I agree we don't want to hunt down the offenders and hurt them, because everybody does have an off day or some other excuse, but I think it's useful to be reminded once in a while to play by the rules.
 
When I play, I always follow the rules. I always comment the person above me. And I say pretend in the kindest way. I love my friends here. But I can't say they post on all of my layouts or that I post on all of thiers. They are real to me, and I care about what happens. But I would think that the person Paula is talking about is not one of her friends, or that friend would not intentionally hurt her feelings.
 
lauren grier said:
also... while I usually go back through and comment on as many as I can-- life does happen, and I know I've been a dillweed and accidentally skipped over posts before.. just because I'm a spazz LMAO. So ....... yeh. there was no point in adding that.. I was just sayin :p
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Dude, this is me. If I've skipped someone, it was completely unintentional.
 
Well, I didn't read through all these posts (just this last page), I have to get started making dinner but I wanted to just reply to say this has happened to me before too, Paula, so I know how you feel. I try not to let it bother me but it can't help but be a bit upsetting.

My thought is if you can't take the time to post a comment on a LO then don't play the lovin's game until you have a few minutes to comment. And it's not just here that this happens. I'm sure it happens any place that has this game. I've only played here, DST and MSA and it has happened to me at all of them. I always leave comments normally on the whole page in the thread that I am on and then some...it's a game that I chose to play because it is fun...I mean, you get all kinds of inspiration looking at all the LOs.

There was only once, maybe two times, that I had to go back a little later on and post comments and that was only at DST because their site has been wacko so much lately...it freezes in the commenting process and jumps to some screen that says the server is busy. So, with a situation like that I have no choice but to do it a little later.

Paula your a dear and I love your LOs, so don't take it personal when this happens. As far as people skipping LOs that aren't their own style or taste doesn't make sense, even if the style isn't something of your taste there is always something that can be picked out in a LO that you can say is the nicest thing on the page. I don't know, I just never thought of this game as a pick and choose what LOs to make comments on.

ETA: Opps, this got bumped over to a page later so when i mention what happened it was from the previous page. Also, I know that life happens (and maybe someone posted at the same time as you and missed it), and I'm sure all of us realize that, but I "think" what Paula is saying is that for it to happen THAT many times, is a bit much, and why I simply said, if you can't comment don't play until you can.
 
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I upload my LO, post my link and comment on the link right above me... game over. I don't keep track of who is or isn't commenting on my pages... I just enjoy reading the love and appreciate every word.
 
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