NSBR-mommy help needed....

hollyxann

hollyxann

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Ok I need some help. Kennedy has some what regressed in the potty department. She will pee in the potty all day long but for whatever reason is scared or something of underwear and pooping in the potty. I'm a firm believer of them doing it in their own but I'm starting to get tired of waiting. She is 3...will 4 in February. I just don't want to force her but I have no idea what else to do. Someone help! (I thought girls were supposed to be easy to train)
 
My older daughter did the SAME thing. She would hold it for DAYS... sometimes weeks to avoid going in the potty. I remember taking her to the doctor because she was giving herself bad tummy aches by not going.

I hate to say it, but based on the advice of her pediatrician, what worked for us was the threat of using suppositories to make her go. We only used underwear (no pull-ups or diapers), and she didn't want to feel dirty in her underwear. So, I had to just be firm with her and tell her if she didn't go, we'd have to use the "poopy medicine." Then, I'd just make sure to give her plenty of time in the bathroom... we'd sit in there and read books or whatever while she tried to go.

She still hated it, but eventually, she DID start going, and it wasn't an issue anymore. (admittedly, I DID use the suppositories a time or two with her, so she knew what it involved)

I'm not sure that Kennedy is to that point, so this very well may not be the advice you're looking for.

(and FYI, my daughter was still doing this when she was nearly 4, so I understand the frustration there for sure).

This makes me SO excited to start potty training Chloe. LOL
 
I tried to potty train my son from the time he turned two. I didn't expect it to happen. I just wanted him to get used to the idea. At first he'd pee and not poop. Then the opposite. Then he stopped all together. The month before he turned four his daddy told him if he would use the potty poop and pee he could have a pool. That day he started and never had a accident again. I told my husband if I would of known that I would of did that a LONG time ago.
 
Keira didn't completely potty train until about a month after she turned 4. It took a while to get the pooping thing down, and then she wore pull-ups at night and then we moved to Michigan after she turned 4 and she never needed a pull-up again.

She'll get it, it'll just click.
 
My daughter seemed to not be interested AT ALL in potty training. Not that she couldn't figure it out but it was more like she didn't give two hoots about it. We tried doing a reward system, making potty time *fun* etc. None of it made her want to even bother.

One day around Christmas time we were out shopping and she seen this little fake Christmas tree that had the colored lights on it and wanted it SOOO bad. So I told her if she would start using the potty that we would get it for her. I told her she had to use it consistently for at least a week. From that day on she used the potty without fail and we went back later to pick up her new tree (which she still has).

I guess if you can tell that she is really ready but just refusing you might have to test out a few things to find that right thing to get her to want to use the potty. Good luck!
 
she's still afraid of undies even if she picks them herself? The thing that worked with Marcus was getting a gumball machine from toys r us for him and giving him a coin to get one every time he went potty. he only got a coin when he went potty, not just for sitting on the potty.
 
Ugh....Mattie was the same way. She'd hold her poo for so long that she'd end up with a huge ball of it by the time she finally released it. So gross....and painful for her!!

I don't really have any advice for you other than to just be patient. My daughter has always been one to do things on her own time.
 
i started potty training my son around 3 and he didnt like it what so ever. Within the week after he turned 4 that boy was potty trained. Just be patience have lots of patience.
 
I trained my kids really young, so I don't know if this'll help, but my son had issues with poop and I would just put him in a diaper during nap time, and that's when he'd go. Once he was regular again, I would have him pay attention to his belly to tell him when to go to the toilet. It's a stinky mess, but it's over eventually. Good luck!
 
Libby Pritchett said:
My older daughter did the SAME thing. She would hold it for DAYS... sometimes weeks to avoid going in the potty. I remember taking her to the doctor because she was giving herself bad tummy aches by not going.

I hate to say it, but based on the advice of her pediatrician, what worked for us was the threat of using suppositories to make her go. We only used underwear (no pull-ups or diapers), and she didn't want to feel dirty in her underwear. So, I had to just be firm with her and tell her if she didn't go, we'd have to use the "poopy medicine." Then, I'd just make sure to give her plenty of time in the bathroom... we'd sit in there and read books or whatever while she tried to go.

She still hated it, but eventually, she DID start going, and it wasn't an issue anymore. (admittedly, I DID use the suppositories a time or two with her, so she knew what it involved)

I'm not sure that Kennedy is to that point, so this very well may not be the advice you're looking for.

(and FYI, my daughter was still doing this when she was nearly 4, so I understand the frustration there for sure).

This makes me SO excited to start potty training Chloe. LOL
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Ditto everything Libby said.

When my kids hit 3.5 they both regressed when it came to #2. If I knew they were purposely not pooping I would tell them they need to learn to listen to their bodies and if they couldn't they would have to get poopy medicine. They were never a fan of it... oh the memories. Not ones I enjoy looking back on. LOL. :blink: But all it took was once and they were back to doing it all by themselves until the next time. Isn't being a mother SO FUNNN??? :mellow:

This is what we used after advice from several other mommies: pedia-lax.
 
my youngest is the same age as yours, and did exactly the same thing. it was really annoying, because i KNEW she could do it - she'd been doing it. it was a struggle for her for a few weeks, but then i told her that she couldn't go to her preschool unless she pooped in the potty. took care of that! now i just need to figure out a way to stop the pull ups at night...my other 2 never needed them!
 
Well... J was five before we got him trained... And he will still regress up to a year laterwhen it comes to number two. He would just go a little and it would stay in his crack.. Never go in the toilet... For him, I hnk has to relate to his food allergies...

Potty training.. One thing I would never ant to go through again! Lol!
 
It's weird because she has pooped in the potty before but just all of a sudden she doesn't want to. She knows all her friends are "big kids" and poop and pee in the potty and wear big girl panties. It's just frustrating and annoying knowing she knows how and can but pretty much won't. We've tried everything with potty charts, rewards, "potty pennies" aka m&ms or something like that but she is just stubborn.

I will have to look into that book and start figuring out some sort of other plan of attack.
 
I tried that doll too!
I am absolutely stuck with Jamie. He turned 4 in June & still is not potty trained. We've bribed, we've threatened, we've talked at length. I can't put him in preschool until he's potty trained. He's so independent with everything else. I just don't get it. Brody was potty trained by 3 and that took about 3 months.

dana said:
my youngest took a while with pooping too ... it was so frustrating! the thing that worked for me seems crazy - but i bought this story book (Princess Potty) and i swear she starting going in the potty after that! she loved to say "Yoo-hoo, yoo-hoo, I need to poo-poo!" - i also bought 'everybody poops' but she didn't care for that one.

http://www.amazon.com/Princess-Pott...qid=1407842776&sr=8-1&keywords=princess+potty
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Has someone said something to her to make her afraid? Maybe another kid? I know my cousin's boy was 4 and fully trained for a year and then some smart aleck kid told him that there was a poop monster in the toilet that eats the poop and if you don't go fast enough, he'll eat YOU! That kid was SO scared that he didn't go on the toilet for six months. He'd hide in the house and poop or he'd poop in the backyard!!! Poor soul.

The other thing I though of was maybe she had a BM that hurt her (hard, constipated?) and she doesn't want to be hurt again?

Good luck.
 
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