NSBR: Being A Mom - Help!

LeeAndra

LeeAndra

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NSBR: Being A Mom - UPDATED

I need some BTDT from y'all. I guess I have 2 questions. Be gentle, please. I'm typing this one-handed, so excuse my typos.

The baby is 6 weeks now. She has never liked sleeping in the crib/on her back, but would do so for a couple hours every once in awhile and slept fairly well in her swing. In the last week and a half, she has become fussier than before and will not sleep for more than 30 - 45 minutes anywhere unless she is being held. It seemed to be extra gas so we've given her gripe water & I've virtually eliminated carbonation and dairy from my diet. I guess it's just colic, but that doesn't help me get more sleep or help her get more sleep. We have a wedge to elevate her head, a sleep positioner to help her feel snug, keep her swaddled, & have a heartbeat/womb machine that plays.

There is only a nightlight on at night, and I always feed her in the nursery at night. I feed, then burp, then rock. Once she gets drowsy, I put her down in the crib. She will either lie there for 5 minutes and then begin to cry or fall asleep but wake back up in 30 - 45 minutes and cry. Placing a hand on her, singing to her, or replacing her pacifier does not work. She is still so little that I don't feel comfortable with CIO. I will let her cry for a few minutes to see if she will go (back) to sleep, but I'm not going to let her CIO for more than 15-20 minutes at this point. I will go through the process for 2-3 hours each night of feeding and/or comforting before putting her back in the crib, but then I usually give up and hold her in the armchair so I can get a couple hours of sleep.

I'd be okay if she slept during the day so I could nap, but she won't do that, either. I have a baby carrier, but I can't sleep in it and it takes me twice as long to get anything done. Carrying her in it is like being pg again, and that's not really all that helpful. Kristin (love you, K!) sent me a wrap, but I don't know how to use it yet, and I'm so exhausted that thinking abt having to figure it out overwhelms me.

[DH disagrees with me & thinks I'm spoiling her, but my dr's literature says a baby can't be spoiled the first 3-4 months, so DH can kiss it.]

We are in the midst of a financial crisis, so DH is consumed with that. Although he works from home, he wants me to be respectful of him being 'at work' so he usually does not help from 8-5. He also has activities for his son that he has to attend and a part-time second job that takes 2.5 hours at night. He has tried to help at night, but feels he needs his sleep since he is the only person working and will become frustrated and/or say 'What am I supposed to do with her?' if she continues to fuss after a few minutes. He has taken on the laundry and the dishes to help.

I feel like I'm losing my mind. I understand that this is how babies are and I don't expect her to sleep through the night, but it's starting to affect how I see the baby and being a mom. I don't look at her and see an adorable baby or a gift from God or anything good. My first thought is, 'How much longer do I have until she has to eat again?' and on the rare occasion someone else is holding her, I think, 'Thank God I'm getting a break. How much longer do I have until I have to take care of her again?' I don't really enjoy breastfeeding, but know it is best for her and realize my feelings are colored by my lack of sleep. I don't feel like her mom at all. I feel like a babysitter taking care of someone else's kid and like I'm constantly looking to the door waiting for her real mom to show up and rescue me.

Are my feelings normal? Is there something wrong with me? Any suggestions for getting the baby to sleep independently?

Thanks.

ETA -- Update!

Thank you SO MUCH for your empathy and advice, ladies! I can't tell you how much it meant to me and made me feel better. As if Eliana knew I was at the end of my rope, she slept pretty well last night and this morning. Ha. I looked more into it, per some of your recommendations, and it looks like she has some reflux issues. I haven't had any chocolate or pop and just one piece of cheese for dairy in the last 2 days, and that has seemed to help some with the fussiness. Since last night, I've also been holding her upright for 30 minutes or so after a feed, and that's seemed to help a lot, too. I have a call into the doc/nurse, but at her appt this past Mon, she checked out fine and it doesn't look/sound like the reflux symptoms she's having are severe enough for meds, but we'll see.

Thanks again. I love you guys.

Now if only DH could sell some insurance so we'd have money to live on. No matter what your DH says, DO NOT go along with his taking a commission only sales job. EVER. It sucks. :p
 
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Aw, sweetie. Well, obviously I have no clue! lol But, I just wanted to give you a big (((((hug)))))
 
Awww hugs, hugs, hugs. What you are going through is totally normal. I think the first 3 months with a new baby is sooooo hard. Sleep deprivation can completely change the way you view things, including your baby. It does get better, I promise.

However, it is worth talking to your doctor about it the next time you go. Not just about the baby not sleeping, but how it is affecting you. My doctor was really supportive and great at helping me brainstorm ways to cope.
 
Oh I'm so sorry. I was wondering if she spits up. My baby had colic but also reflux. Well, all three of mine had it. We left the hospital with her on reflux medicine because she would just scream. Granted after awhile it would have been a given fact with the amount she'd spit up. I agree with Misty and talk to your Doc. Good luck
 
First of all big {{{hugs}}} 30-45 minutes is really not enough, you poor thing. Have you spoken to the doctor about it? Of course I can't tell from here but by the sounds of it she still might be hungry? How is her weight? I think some babies need more body contact with their mum then others. With our DD I have used a wrap too but usually more during the day when I was busy cleaning, shopping, etc. DS didn't like to be in the wrap at all.

It takes a while to get into a routine and some babies need lots of little feeds when they are so little as yours. I am sure it will all settle sooner or later. Although this is something your probably don't want to hear ;)

Go to the doctor and tell him about your concerns and sleepless days and nights. He might have an idea and be able to help you.
 
((HUGS))
Being a mom is soooo hard! My daughter slept pretty well, but I do remember being constantly exhausted and sooo emotional! I did not enjoy BF'ing AT ALL and it was - for me - THE most difficult and frustrating part of being a new mom. I kinda had similar feelings to what your describing every time it was time to feed her because it was just so hard and I couldn't get the hang of it (and my daughter was the worst BF'er ever). Being in that constant state of exhaustion (physically and mentally) wears you out FAST. I hope that lil' one sleeps more for you... SOON! :(
 
I think you feelings are completely normal, babies are lovely, but they are really hard work too! Just remember that this isn't forever - she will eventually start sleeping. Have you talked to a health care person about the sleeping issues? My kids were quite good sleepers most of the time, but I have some friends with babies that didn't sleep much, and for some of them giving the baby formula milk in addition to breastfeeding in the evening helped a lot. They would breastfeed first, and then give some milk from a bottle afterwards, and the baby would sleep longer. I don't know how this would work with colic though, as more air gets in when they drink from the bottle, and introducing new milk might upset her tummy. Maybe you could ask your doctor? I also think you should ask your husband to help out more at night - maybe he could help calm her down after you feed her so you could go to sleep? He might think he's the only one working, but it's not like you're lazing around all day, you have a baby and a house to take care of, and you need to get some rest too.

And use weekends to catch up on sleep! Put the baby in the buggy on a saturday morning, and send hubby out for a walk for a couple of hours, so you can get some rest. Do you have any family or good friends that could come around and give you a break for a few hours?

I hope she starts sleeping soon!:hugs:
 
Yes you are 100% normal to have feelings like that but it is a good idea to talk to your dr. about them. Sleep deprivation and Post Partum Depression are huge factors in your thoughts and feelings towards your child and are all 100% normal though if you do have PPD you can get some meds for it if you think its getting out of control and you can get PPD any time in the first year after you have given birth.

I know there are a few ladies out there who have delt with Reflux and they I am sure could help you out more than me when it comes to advice that way.

And hey if you need to call a family member or a babysitter or even a neighbor to watch the baby while you take an hour nap. Nothing wrong with asking for help.

Hugs hope you get some much needed zzzz's soon.
 
yes you are normal. everything you said is all pretty much how every new mom Ive ever known has felt. I dont have any really helpful advice other then to say she will start sleeping through the night very soon. You will start getting more sleep too and everything will start to get a little easier. I know right now its hard because you are soooo tired. It just takes some time to work out a scedule.
 
oh sweetie, (((hugs))). Logan is a couple of weeks older than yours but I totally understand where you are coming from. He hates being put down and only mummy will do to hold him constantly he tolerates other people in small doses of about 5-10 minutes and then starts screaming again. I have to do everything with one hand or while I am holding him. I'll confess he does sleep through the night but only because he sleeps on my chest of in my arms. If you don't really like breastfeeding maybe you could express it and try her on a bottle so dh can help with the feeding sometimes. I refuse to let anyone including myself make me feel guilty about not breastfeeding. I expressed until my milk dried up now Logan has cartons of ready made formula feed because of a problem with our water supply. I do think you might benefit from talking to your doctor but I also think you need to talk to your dh. Explain to him how you feel and let him know you need some help. I didn't do that when Lukas was born and I really regret it because he just assumed I could cope with it all and handle everything because it got done. Hugs Crystal xx
 
I do'nt have anything new to add. :( I just wanted to say that it's definitely normal and it's sooo hard. Big hugs sweetie!!! I hope you can find something to work soon!!!
 
Avery NEVER. SLEPT. EVER. I had heard that newborns slept all the time, but she broke the mold. I was soooooooo tired all the time...doing all the things you said. I finally just broke down and stuck her in the bed with me when she was about 6 weeks old I think. It was the only way to get my sanity back. We moved when she was about 3.5 months old, and she started sleeping in her crib again.
 
LeeAndra - (((HUGS))) I was so there with our 2nd son. No gorey details, but it was SOOOOO hard. I'd also look at cutting out anything in your diet that causes any kind of gas, no broccoli, chocolate, dairy, and all those other foods. You may have a pretty small diet for a little while, but if it's something you're eating that's causing her to be so uncomfortable, then it might be worth putting up with for another month or two till she settles into her skin.

Do you guys cosleep at all? It might be something you look at doing to try to get some sleep. If she's overly fussy and just needs to be soothed...it might do her a ton of good to be near you, even if you pull her crib into the room with you to be near.

Get that wrap out, learn how to use it, and go, baby! I swear it's the best thing ever, especially if you have a needy one that just really needs to be comforted. She's tired and worn out, too. If she's still sleeping in her swing, let her during the day! The more tired they get, the less they sleep from exhaustion, so any way to get her to sleep deeper longer naps during the day might also help her cope.

I also second talking to your OB about the emotions..they can be really hard on you when your hormones are going batty, you're so sleep deprived and you have another one suckin the life out of ya! :D I also second finding family or friends who can come and give you two hours one afternoon to keep her while you try to get a power nap.

I was in the same position as you about DH working. We both felt he worked outside the home and needed to be professional about it, but he was a trooper and would help out. One of the things we did was right after the 7'ish feeding, I would go to bed. DH would stay with little guy into the evening (whcih your hubby could do on nights he isn't involved with his son). It would give me a few hours of sleep when he had the baby, and helped me make it through the night a little better.

OH! D'uh! Have you thought about pumping and beginning to introduce a bottle to her to have DH feed her in the evening , occasionally to give you a break? (it would help with friends/family coming to help out, too). An occasional bottle will let him have some time to bond with her, and feel like he's doing something he CAN accomplish, instead of always getting a fussy baby, and it would give you a break, even for a little while!!

I hope reading through helps you know that you are SO not alone..many of us went through this, and we all came out alive on the other side! I promise, but I do know the frustration of not having someone say - this is the exact moment it will all get better. LOL
 
It IS overwhelming to have a little one, especially the first! And the sleep deprivation really stinks ... I know from experience!

Your feelings are totally normal, and your baby doesn't sound all that atypical, either. I second the suggestion that maybe she has reflux ... that is a pretty common thing and would explain why she only sleeps 30-45 minutes after a feeding. And I wonder, too, whether she's eaten enough ... is she sleepy while nursing? You may need to undress her or otherwise rouse her to make sure she eats enough.

With my babies, I co-sleep out of survival. My DH doesn't (and never has) helped with babies at night. And I've had poor sleepers, so I just bring them in bed with me, making sure of course to follow safe co-sleeping practices. I have a little co-sleeper for Maia right now, so she can sleep right next to me but be safe.

Big hugs to you!!!
 
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Ok first off...I could have written those EXACT same words (well except the financial trouble part, but my husband is an AF pilot and therefore "needs" his sleep). That is the reason we have two kids and that is IT! I cannot do the new baby stage. Sleep deprivation, constant crying, feeling like a bad mother because I wasn't all "ahhhhh" about my baby, everything.

So here's what I learned.
I had an oversupply of milk. DS would feed, get "full" but it was all the foremilk. Then he would get gassy from all the sugary milk and hungry because he wasn't getting any hindmilk. So I learned that I had to feed on one breast for 3-4 hours and not switch sides until my milk wasn't overproduced. (that was what DS#1's main problem was). Also at the 6 week point, all of the colustrum is out of the milk and they have to actually work to poop. This may be part of it as she adjusts to that.

Kyle had silent reflux. It was h-e-l-l on earth for the first 8 months. Instead of sleeping better he was getting worse. Thank God for the one NICU nurse that mentioned one time that he might have it when he was on a ventilator, otherwise I might have never thought of it since he was keeping everything down. He would just throw up in his throat and then swallow it back down. The only signs were his "gulping noise" he made when he slept and his constant crying/colic. And the fact that he was getting worse and worse with sleep and I had to constantly hold/console him. Does she sleep at all on her belly? Reflux babies prefer this and it is accepted by the AMA for them since they have this issue. I'm not saying she has the reflux thing, but it definitely is something to consider. Once we got Kyle on a proper dose of prevacid he was a totally different baby!

And don't discount your sleep deprivation. I went in to the doctor's with classic symptoms of PPD, went on medication, had a reaction to it so I went off of it, Kyle started sleeping more, and my symptoms dissappeared. They use it for torture and to get people to admit to crimes they didn't commit, it is a real factor!!!

Ok I gotta run to a meeting at DS's kindergarten, but if you ever want to chat, just PM me!!!! Hang in there, take it one day at a time. It is OK to not LOVE being a mother, just do the best you can. You WILL love being a mother someday, I promise you!
 
Do you have a swing? My oldest spent most of the night in a swing when he was little. I hated to do it but I also knew I needed the sleep if I wanted to stay sane.
 
I'm sorry you're having a hard time L. Your feelings are totally normal and it sounds like you are in a difficult situation with dh etc. Here are some thoughts...

- you could try formula but IMO it's not the best way to go if she's got colic or a dairy intolerance. You could end up with her needing a very expensive formula. Your best bet is to try and continue BFing - it will get better and you'll feel more of bond to BFing as she sleeps better.

- will she sleep if she sleeps with you? If yes, do it. And if dh doesn't like it, tell him to go fly a kite - you need sleep. Have her sleep next to you and if she wakes she can BF right there and fall back asleep.

- your instincts are right on as far as CIO, 6 weeks is far too young for that. It's fine to let her sniffle and squeak a bit to see if she self soothes back to sleep but at that age full out crying is not a good idea (IMO) and will make her neediness worse.

- what Darcy said above, I wonder if you need to eliminate more from her diet. Sam was extremely fussy as a newborn and it wasn't until later when we found his food allergies that we understood why.

- If she sleeps in the swing you could try more of that during the day.

As tough as it is, you will get through it - she will sleep for longer stretches at some point. Have you tried letting her sleep on her tummy?
 
Yes, your feelings are totally and completely normal. The first few months are so hard and you are so tired and it just makes everything harder. I, too, would count the hours until it was time to b/f again. Stick with it, that, too, gets much easier as time goes by. Co-sleeping does help, if you need to. We did it for a while because my son was never a good night sleeper.

Second, talk to your doctor, it seems like you are starting to get the baby blues or PPD. Good luck and hugs!
 
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I just want to tell you (just like the other mom's here) you are NOT alone in feeling this way.

I 100% agree with Darcy's advice.

I also HAD to co-sleep to survive with both my kids. I was basically a single mom working so I had to sleep and so did they. Both my kids do sleep in beds now so it is NOT a lifelong cycle.
 
LA, sleep deprivation makes EVERYTHING worse. It does get easier. I promise. I felt the same way with all three of mine, especially with Rae, since I had two others to take care of, I was so tired. But one thing I will say...don't give up b/f and expect it to take care of the problem. You'll regret it, because I know it is something you have always wanted to do.

The first three months are hardest. Those who say 6 weeks are wrong. LOL. It takes longer than that.

You need sleep. Your DH is going to have to take a night here or there to help you. He is working, yes, but so are you!!! Someone above mentioned that sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture, and that's just what it is. If you could get a couple of good night's rest, or even a few hours in a row (I used to be happy with 2-3 hours LOL), then it will make it all seem so much better. I know b/f makes it so no one else can feed the baby, I get that, and there are times when I fed the baby and was hardly awake for it LOL. But it was worth it.

Make sure you're eating and drinking enough too.

Hang in there LA. You're doing great. It is hard, but it WILL get better. I promise it will, and I promise all of us moms have been there. ((hugs))
 
I agree with everything that's been said -- this stage is SOOOOOOO hard, especially when your little one is colicky or fussy. And you totally lose perspective when you are that tired and hormonal (or at least I sure did!). I mean in my mind I knew that things were going to get easier, but telling myself that just did not stop me from feeling completely overwhelmed and hopeless and, oh, guilty, anxious, resentful, unhappy, yada yada yada. I was another one who was reluctant to admit that I couldn't handle it and ask for help, but now I think that was really silly of me. Everyone who has experienced it knows how hard it is to care for a newborn 24/7 and I think most friends/family would jump to help out for a bit. ((Hugs))! It will get better!
 
I really have no advice that hasn't already been said, I just wanted to say...you are SO normal. My first was colicky. I was on Lexapro. My husband worked 60+ hours a week. She never slept. We found that she would sleep for 3 or more hours at a time in the swing, so, she slept in the swing quite a bit when she was little. At 3 months, it was like a switch went off. She quite crying (slowly) every night and she started sleeping in her crib, albeit on her stomach. It is definitely NOT easy. **big hugs sweetie**
 
Totally normal... I remember those days too. My second was REALLY tough and even after keeping a food journal, she was still so colicky. Found out it was reflux and they suggested supplementing with Gentlease Lipil. I found when she nursed, she;d spit up and cry for hours... when it was gentlease, not a real problem. I hung in there nursing and doing formual and once her digestive system matured a bit, she didn't react so harshly to breastmilk... I also ended up co-sleeping for a bit (not on purpose but needed to feed and SO exhausted. It preserved my sanity for sure.

Anyway, maybe no real help... but hugs!
 
I haven't read everyone else's responses, but I am sure you have already gotten some good advice...

First, what you are feeling is TOTALLY 100% normal. Does your pediatrician have a nurse's line? My first thought is that she may be going through growth spurt... or that she isn't getting enough to eat and is still hungry. Your pedi, or even a lactation consultant, could help you determine if she's getting enough to eat.

You are definitely doing the right thing by feeding on demand, which is absolutely necessary with a newborn. I know you said that you are not letting her CIO - and although I know that it's a controversial subject, please do not let her CIO. She is way too young to be crying to manipulate. But the fact that you're feeding on demand also means that sleep is taking a second seat, which is where most of the problem is.

My advice is...
1) Sit down with your DH and have a long, hoenst talk. Tell him how you're feeling and that you NEED him to help. Regardless of what he is dealing with, taking care of the baby can NOT be left totally up to you - and it shouldn't be. He might be working from 8-5, but you are working 24 hours a day! You need a break... and you HAVE to have some time to yourself. He needs to understand that.

2) I would try to get an appt, if at all possible, with your pedi - or at least put a call in to the nurse's line and explain the situation. The pedi or an LC can help you determine if there is an issue (something you're eating making her fussy, colic, reflux, etc.) - and even if everything is ok, it will put your mind at ease.

3) Try to get someone to stay with the baby for a couple of hours so that you can have time to yourself... to take a long, hot bath, read a book, take a nap, eat a hot meal, whatever. You NEED to regain your composure.

It DOES get easier. It does. Hang in there! ::HUGS::
 
She sounds exactly like my youngest one, who is now 20 months old. She didn't sleep at night or during the day for more than 20 minutes at a time, and I was a complete mess. It turns out she had reflux and had to sleep elevated, so I resorted to having her sleep in her bouncy chair. It's not the safest place for a baby to sleep (the crib is the safest), but it allowed both of us to get some sleep, if even just for a 3-hour stretch.

I haven't read all of the responses, but it can't hurt for one more person to tell you that the feelings you're having are completely normal! It's so hard being a mom for the first time. If you haven't already done so, definitely talk to your pediatrician about all of this. He/she will have great advice.

Hang in there. It does get easier!
 
What saved me: co-sleeping and breastfeeding lying down, in my bed. We would always fall asleep right after a feeding. Sleep whenever your baby sleeps. Forget the chores.

Post-partum depression can strike if you have no support around you. Even if your DH is working, he must help you so that you can get a minimum of sleep every day. I would certainly see a doctor to see if everything is ok, too.

Good luck and hugs to you! It does get better, but it sure is tough in the first months. :(
 
When Jack was born, I wondered why in the world people ever had second babies. We survived and that is all and we didn't do it very well.

My advice is to SWADDLE. TIGHTLY. It made such a difference to my fussy, CRYING ALL THE TIME baby. Both of my boys slept significantly longer if they were swaddled.

And i recommend the The Happiest Baby on the Block. You could probably google it and watch a video without having to read the book. It helped so much with my awful baby.

Wish I was there to help you out! It does get better, I promise!
 
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Kyle had silent reflux. It was h-e-l-l on earth for the first 8 months. Instead of sleeping better he was getting worse. Thank God for the one NICU nurse that mentioned one time that he might have it when he was on a ventilator, otherwise I might have never thought of it since he was keeping everything down. He would just throw up in his throat and then swallow it back down. The only signs were his "gulping noise" he made when he slept and his constant crying/colic. And the fact that he was getting worse and worse with sleep and I had to constantly hold/console him. Does she sleep at all on her belly? Reflux babies prefer this and it is accepted by the AMA for them since they have this issue. I'm not saying she has the reflux thing, but it definitely is something to consider. Once we got Kyle on a proper dose of prevacid he was a totally different baby!
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This sounds so familiar.... BOTH of mine had silent reflux and it was a nightmare in terms of getting any sleep or time to do anything for the first 6 months, and slowly got better from 6months on and at 1 year it pretty much cleared up They were both on meds for it, Ashley was on Zantac and Curtis was on Prevacid. This is one of the main reasons why we have not had a 3rd because I don't want to go through it all again (there's something like an 80% chance of the next one having it as well :().
Hug LeeAndra, I know exactly how you feel. Definitely talk to your dr about it, because 30-40 min of sleep is not enough for you OR the baby. Good luck and keep us updated!!
 
I forgot to add that getting your dh to help out just a little bit helps so much! My dh worked evenings when our ds was a baby. The 2 nights a week he was off, he gave him a bath at night and got him ready for bed. I was nursing so I still put him to sleep, but that 45 to an hour where I could sit down and scrap or just sit there and talk without being the one to actually do everything for the baby really helped rejuvenate me.

Also, I started to get the baby blues, but one thing that I found that really helped me was to leave the house everyday. Most days I just went mall walking or to Wal-Mart, but it helped so much just to leave and move around. The baby was always soothed by the walking in the stroller motion, too.
 
Oh, sweetie. Big ((((HUGS))))! I felt exactly the same way, so I totally second what a lot of other gals have been saying. Make sure you talk to your doctor about how you're feeling, and not just about the baby's troubles. I didn't and 8 months later was diagnosed with PPD. It's been a long hard road.

I totally recommend a swing! My mom (gotta love grandmas!) had a swing at her house for when grandbabies came to visit that she let me borrow. I think it was by Fisher-Price, and you could turn the cradle so they could swing side to side or forward/backward. He preferred forward/backward and sometimes that swing was the only way I could get him to sleep.

If you even need to talk, send me a private message and we can catch each other on Yahoo or something. Hang in there!
 
as a momma that just had a baby on the boob for like 2 straight hours....I feel where your coming from sweetie!!! :hugs:

I can't give any more advise that hasn't already been given but just wanted you to know that you have a kindred spirit out there that is going through the same thing you are!!! It does get better.....really it does....if it didn't then no one one ever have more then one kids!!! Hang in there sweetie!!!! :hugs:
 
you're totally normal sweetie. i don't have any advice to add, but do consider cosleeping. I coslept w/ both of mine for my sanity. JJ slept in his bouncy seat right next to the bed for MONTHS. was the only way I could stay sane. Absolutely talk to your doctor though. tomorrow. ((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))
 
As everyone else has said, you are totally normal for feeling the way you feel. I felt the same way, and my DH was just like yours. He never helped me (still doesn't lol) so I really felt depressed. ((hugs)) It will get better eventually. :)

Someone may have already suggested this, but you could talk to your dr. about a milk allergy, or sensitive tummy. DS was not allergic to milk, but had a slight sensitivity to it. That in addition to him not getting enough breast milk because of my having so many problems with nursing, made him very fussy and he did not sleep well. I started supplementing with soy formlua after talking the the dr, and he started sleeping well (for a few hours at a time) almost immediately! That was when he was about 3 months old.

ETA, I also agree with trying co sleeping. I was always against it (when I was a naive, non-mom lol), but I feel that when your baby is as young as yours is, as long as you are feeding her, changing her, and loving her, you really can't go wrong. Formula, binkis, co sleeping, whatever. You need to do what keeps you sane. We co slept, used binkis, and DS had formula, and he is now a perfectly healthy-sleeping through the night-full of energy 20 month old :)
 
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