Needs some thoughts and prayers guys!

amystoffel

amystoffel

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Not many of you here know about my "family" life. But I am a wife of someone in law enforcement. It can be really rough sometimes, worrying about him and wondering what each day will bring his way.

He's been offered a job working security for Hurricane Ike. The money is amazing...$7000 for two weeks. But it's dangerous. We could really use the money because we are behind on some stuff and it's tight right now. He wants to go...and I'm torn.

Help?
 
{{hugs}} That is a tough decision. I would probably let him do it. Let us know what you guys decide
 
If things are tight, I would let him do it. But I am also not the one who has to deal with worrying about him. So if that's too much, maybe things just have to be tight for a lil while longer.
 
that must be wicked stressful... 7k is a lot (dur) and if it will really help you guys I'd probably do it.. ((hugs))
 
oh Amy, that is a heart wrenching decision. Obviously there are pros on each side :) But the worry would be overwhelming! I'll keep you and your family in my t&p and keep us updated!
 
I don't advice to offer, but I will give you a big {{{HUG}}}. Good luck with your decision and if he decides to go, lots of keep safe vibes :)
 
((AMY!!)) i would let my hubby do it if money was tight, i think. :blink: sorry honey...i honestly don't know what you should do. pray about it and if you get any peace at all, go for it. i'm thinking of you guys! what does dh say?
 
Let us know if he goes so we can say some extra prayers for him. I'd be scared to death too if I was you, but sometimes we just have to take a few risks. Hang in there!
 
thanks you guys. I know I need to let him go...its just scary! keep us in your prayers and dont be surprised if I'm on here constantly for a couple of weeks!
 
{{{HUGS}}} I don't know what to tell you either. I think you have to decide between you what would be best for your family and your stress level.

My DH is a firefighter and there are times when I'm listening to the scanner and they go on a medical call that I would prefer them not to (like a crime scene with potential criminals still at large) and I have to tell myself that they have the training to deal with stuff like this and that his Captain will do everything he can to make sure they are safe. :(

I will keep you in my prayers though!
 
ACK! Like Melissa said, not a decision I would want to make and I don't envy you. I guess I'd have to go with my gut on it. Good luck! And we will all pray for him while he's gone if he goes!
 
That's so tough! I don't have any good advice but I'm sure whatever you choose will work out!!! It's so not fun to be worried though! Hugs!
 
If my hubby wanted to do it, I would let him. Of course, I would be worried, etc. but I would support him in it. But maybe after being a corrections officer for almost 8 years, I look at things differently. Sending P&PT to you and your family!
 
Amy, you and your family will be in my prayers and that of our church. Your husband is a brave man to want to go, and your are to be commended for letting him go. Even though he is getting paid big bucks and that helps you out, what he is doing will be helping those who can't help themselves. God will keep him in his care and he WILL come home safe to you. Keep your chin up and don't let him see you worry.
 
It's always bittersweet when Jaime goes on missions because he gets extra pay which is really nice, but he's in danger. BUT, it's what they do and we as the one at home keeping the fire burning have to have faith that it's all going to be OK. I know it's hard, but I think he should do it. He'll feel bad if he's not there helping out. It's hard to understand, but our guys need to feel useful somewhere other than home.. and these situations really do a lot for more than just their wallets.
 
Amy, my DH is a cop, he's a Mountie in the RCMP.

If he wanted to go, he would go, I wouldn't think twice or question it. I feel like that this is just part of his job, and I accepted long ago, that there would be things he would need to do, that would be dangerous, and that I wouldn't like. I can't question it, I just go with it. When we met, I relalized that if I was going to be his wife, I would have to deal with it, and accept it. He can't pick and choose what situations he gets in (unlike this situation for you). It takes a very special person to be the wife of a cop, firefighter, corrections, military...because often you are left alone to hold down the fort, while they're off solving society's problems and saving people's lives.

My DH is a big guy, I know he is trained well, and I know he is smart and wouldn't put himself in danger.

I guess after almost 13 years, I accept the job for what it is, and don't really bat an eyelash over these things. It's his job. It's what he does. People say to me "don't you worry about him when he's at work?" but I always say, that if I worried every time he went to work, I'd be in the loony bin.

Good luck deciding, but I know if my DH was in that situation, he'd already be on his way there. ((hugs))
 
That is such a tough decision!!! {{{{Big hugs}}}} I will be thinking of you guys and hoping that he stays safe if he does go!!!
 
I'll be thinking of you and your family Amy! You know, when I worry about DH on his missions, training, deployments etc. one thing that always eases my mind a bit is to remember that he and his guys are so well trained at what they do. They are committed to staying safe and keeping each other safe. There are always going to be the things out of our control, but I know that he will always do anything to do his job well and stay safe.

I know it will be impossible not to worry, but lean on those who support you and know you'll have lots of people thinking about you and holding you in prayers. ((hugs))
 
What wise words from all the wives of those who protect and serve. I think tho I'd worry too, I'd say,"Go."
You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
 
That is a tough one but I totally agree with what Becca said too. I hope everything works out for you and DH and I will be thinking of you both!!!!
 
I am sure for him it is instinct to volunteer to help. He wouldn't be in law enforcement if he wasn't that kind of guy. I think you need to let him do what he feels he needs to do which is to let him go and help! If he doesn't go he will just be thinking about it the whole time and likely feel disappointment in not going.
 
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