Sharon Kay
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When the boys were young, they had to "earn" the right to play on the computer or even video games ... they had to do their schoolwork during the day and homework at night, as well as their chores ... in return they would receive poker chips (X amount for a good report from teacher that work was done; X amount for each homework page finished; X for picking up room, etc.) that when redeemed would give them 10 minutes of computer or video game time. ...in order to redeem, however, their work had to be done for that day as well.
Generally they saved the chips up all week long and cashed them in on the weekend ... each boy had a different colored chips so no stealing or "borrowing" your brother's rewards.
This worked great as an incentive until dh decided to screw with my system ... he got upset over something and took away their whole week's worth of tokens at the end of the week for one wrong doing (it wasn't his right to mess with my system!!!) ... and they totally shut down on me then. grrrrrr I was so pissed at dh ...
I think I would ask the military if there is any supports in place to help your child(ren) deal with dad being gone ... there might be something available ... or maybe some counseling that insurance might pay for?? I'd ask ... maybe just maybe there is something. Could there be another family in your husband's unit that could be going through the same things ... maybe getting the kids together would let your son know that he's not the only one.
{{{hugs}}} ... our family appreciates your husband's service and your sacrifices ... my bil was activated a couple of days after Christmas and is now over in Afghanistan ... I think he is supposed to be back in April or May.
Generally they saved the chips up all week long and cashed them in on the weekend ... each boy had a different colored chips so no stealing or "borrowing" your brother's rewards.
This worked great as an incentive until dh decided to screw with my system ... he got upset over something and took away their whole week's worth of tokens at the end of the week for one wrong doing (it wasn't his right to mess with my system!!!) ... and they totally shut down on me then. grrrrrr I was so pissed at dh ...
I think I would ask the military if there is any supports in place to help your child(ren) deal with dad being gone ... there might be something available ... or maybe some counseling that insurance might pay for?? I'd ask ... maybe just maybe there is something. Could there be another family in your husband's unit that could be going through the same things ... maybe getting the kids together would let your son know that he's not the only one.
{{{hugs}}} ... our family appreciates your husband's service and your sacrifices ... my bil was activated a couple of days after Christmas and is now over in Afghanistan ... I think he is supposed to be back in April or May.
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