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scrapperjade

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Okay, so I'm at a loss. A woman I know from work found out she was pregnant after much trying (for years), and her so-called "friends" were not supportive of her pregnancy (even though she's married and is 38). Some told her to her face not to get attached because if she didn't miscarry, it would have Down's!!! Another told her that she wasn't fit to be a mother! A lot more was said, but it makes me so angry, I can't talk about it. I have NO idea why these people were saying that - she is a very kind, loving, giving & self-sacrificing person (she adopted her nephew & neice at the age of 18 because she loved them and couldn't accept that they would go into the system).

ANYWAYS, me and another girl at work were the ONLY ones happy for her and supported her as much as we could emotionally. I hoped against everything that she'd carry that baby full term. Tonight she came in and told me she lost the baby on Sunday, broke down and sobbed (and said that everyone but her got what they wanted - how sad is that?!?!). There I am, bawling along with her. Thank goodness no other customers were in because I was as much of a wreck as she was.

I want to get her a gift to support her and let her know that I'm thinking of her. Another girl at work wants to pitch in too. We all love Liz (the one who miscarried), and she needs our hugs and thoughts now more than ever.

Does anyone have some good suggestions? I was thinking maybe a GC to a spa to get some pampering done, like a pedi or a massage? What about a foot bath thing that bubbles? Suggestions??
 
Before I was even finished reading, I thought that girl needed some pampering! So, the spa GC sounds perfect. I can't imagine the pain and hurt that she is feeling right now. Thank God she has a couple of good friends, like you, that can be her support during all of this.
Another good idea is maybe take her to lunch or dinner and let her just have some "girl" time without work or baby talk (unless she wants to talk about it) on the agenda.
Sounds like you are are the right track!!! :) :thumbup:
 
Oh my goodness. I was heartbroken just for the way people were treating her (besides you and the other woman) and then to read that she did have a miscarriage. Poor thing. Prayers for her and I'm so glad that she has a good friend in you.

I remember a similar post from a while ago where I think it was Lena who recommended this site:
http://www.labelledame.com/

I thought that some of the jewelry was precious.
 
Definitely some pampering is in order. Most of all though she needs people like you.

I personally would talk to those negative people, particularly those who said something about her not getting attached because she might miscarry - these negative thoughts said to her (or even to her back) probably stressed her out even further and that may have helped set her up to miscarry. But that's just me, maybe because I've known too many people who've had miscarriages and know the effects of negativity on their pregnancies. Makes me mad.
 
I have a bracelet that was made for me after my 4th miscarriage and I LOVE it. It's pearls representing tears and then birthstones for the month they were due and the month I miscarried. I definitely recommend jewelry for remembrance... and for immediately, a spa trip rocks! I just know that when I miscarried I always felt really gross and not so womanly, I needed some pampering to help me feel womanly again.
 
I would do a GC for a spa day, and then maybe make up a gift basket full of fun girly things - like special soaps, lotions, candles, journal etc... The jewelry that was already posted would be a great idea as well.

I am so sorry for your friend. She will be in my prayers.
 
I think its lovely that you want to do something for her, and that your being so supportive. I bet anything she'll be touched by anything you get her.

Speaking as someone whos gone through a miscarriage, the best thing you can do for her is let her talk or not talk - whichever she wants. And not just now. Shes probably going to feel crappy for a long time. I know i didnt start feeling better until i got past the baby's due date. I really appreciated the people that realised that.
 
When my sister lost her baby after giving birth extremely premature, I bought her a heart shaped necklace with a small cross on it that I had engraved with the baby's name. She wore it everyday for years, it helped her feel close to the baby afterwords. She said it was perfect and really helped. So I think a rememberence or some sort would be a great idea.
 
I think everyone has made great suggestions.

I have to say what horrible people her so called friends are. She's lucky to have you.
 
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