MIA but not forever...(long post)

Thank you all so much. It is hard being in TX and the rest of the family is in Virginia/North Carolina. I was so ready to come after being gone for over 4 weeks but it was sad leaving everything. My brother and sister are close to each other and spend a lot of time together. I am still at the point where I cry all the time when I talk about her or think about her. She kept telling us at the end she just wanted to go see Jesus. <3 I know she is pain free now and no longer suffering but I still need my mama. I have an amazing relationship with my mother in law but it still isn't the same.One day at a time right? :) One day at a time.


I spent some time at her house before I left going through some photos and random boxes in the basement. It felt weird being in an empty house...I expected her to walk in. My dad came by and we had a moment talking and remembering her. I found some middle school scrapbooks that she had made. She met my dad in 7th grade and they started dating. She kept slurpie cups from when they would go get them at 7-Eleven. He was shocked she had kept them all. There are so many little things she kept from her childhood. My siblings will probably want to throw it all away. I just hope they don't and wait for me to clean out her house.
 
I am so sorry for your loss Kimberley. What you went through is similar what I did with my dad in 2022. He got leukemia and was gone within three weeks from when we found out. Everyone says it will get easier but I still miss him so much. We were very close and I still have moments when the grief hits me so hard and all I can do is cry.
Just a year later I also lost my mom (a sudden death - no illness) so life has been hard.
 
I'm so sorry. I lost my mom to leukemia when I was 22, and it was absolutely devastating. The most helpful thing anyone ever said to me was, "When my mother died, I cried everyday." And I was thankful that someone else acknowledged that part of it. She's been gone almost 27 years, and sometimes, I still cry everyday. It doesn't go away, but it will get a little better, a little easier, a little less raw. But take all the time you need to grieve and cry and work through it. Another thing that helped me so much was to just talk about her all the time, to anyone who would listen. Her illness and death were swift, sudden, and unexpected, and the trauma of that experience stayed with me for a looooonnnnnggggg time. I needed to talk about it a lot, and the most helpful friends in my life were the ones who weren't afraid to listen.

Big hugs and prayers to you. I'm really sorry you're going through this.
 
I'm just catching up now and am so sorry Kimberly. I'm grateful that you were able to help her out so much, I'm sure she was very thankful for that as well, even if she could not communicate that to you.

I lost my mom to cancer in 2011 and I agree, those ups and downs are hard to handle. I too know that she is no longer in pain (and she shared with my sisters and I that was very ready to meet the Lord), so that helped ease the pain a bit. Even after all of these years, I still miss her, and the tears still come pretty easily. A month or so before she passed, she reminded my sisters and I that she will always be with us and when we miss her, we should put our hand over our heart and know that she's right there.

A friend posted this poem on FB today and I found it ever so true.

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I'm praying for you and your family and sending you gentle hugs Kimberly.
 
Kimberly27 said:
Thank you all so much. It is hard being in TX and the rest of the family is in Virginia/North Carolina. I was so ready to come after being gone for over 4 weeks but it was sad leaving everything. My brother and sister are close to each other and spend a lot of time together. I am still at the point where I cry all the time when I talk about her or think about her. She kept telling us at the end she just wanted to go see Jesus. <3 I know she is pain free now and no longer suffering but I still need my mama. I have an amazing relationship with my mother in law but it still isn't the same.One day at a time right? :) One day at a time.


I spent some time at her house before I left going through some photos and random boxes in the basement. It felt weird being in an empty house...I expected her to walk in. My dad came by and we had a moment talking and remembering her. I found some middle school scrapbooks that she had made. She met my dad in 7th grade and they started dating. She kept slurpie cups from when they would go get them at 7-Eleven. He was shocked she had kept them all. There are so many little things she kept from her childhood. My siblings will probably want to throw it all away. I just hope they don't and wait for me to clean out her house.
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Thank you so much for updating us! I know my Mama said she was ready to go many times. In fact, one Saturday when she woke up, she declared it was the day she was leaving us. Note: It didn't happen that day.

Continuing to pray for you as you walk down this road.
 
Cheryl Ashcraft said:
Thank you so much for updating us! I know my Mama said she was ready to go many times. In fact, one Saturday when she woke up, she declared it was the day she was leaving us. Note: It didn't happen that day.

Continuing to pray for you as you walk down this road.
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My mom was in the hospital when she passed. We did know it was coming. We were in Florida and my aunt and uncle were there with us. My aunt and I were with Mom on the afternoon of the 23rd when Mom made a comment out of nowhere "My mom passed on the 26th" (November 26 1971). My aunt and I thought nothing of it. Well, Dad and I got the phone call around 6:30 a.m. on the 26th that she had passed. She held on those couple of days and passed on December 26th.
 
I'm so sorry Kim. The immediate grief does get better with time and you learn to live with wonderful memories and teachings. But when you have a mother you adore, you will always feel the loss. I lost mine almost 2 years ago now although I lost her slowly first to Alzheimer's. The last few weeks were excruciatingly difficult though. I was missing the mom she was so badly that year before she passed as her decline had become so much worse and I hadn't seen her in person due to covid in too long. But like you know your mom is no longer in pain, I know my mom no longer need to live a life in a way she would have hated for herself.
 
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