make her stop talking. please.

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emmasmommy

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omg.
this child.
the mouth.
the sass.
...from the minute she wakes up (literally) until the minute she goes to bed...
my throat hurts from yelling.

make her stop. please. :blink:
 
oh my gosh... I was just going to post this same thing... poor Asher gets no sleep from her screaming either... and oh, the drama today!!!
 
I remember that phase :(

One thing that I did that seemed to work (and I still use sometimes even though my boys are 10 and 12) is explain to them that when they speak to me in an inappropriate manner I'm not going to respond. And then I'd just ignore them. Well, I wasn't able to ignore them, but I did make myself not say anything until they spoke to me in a respectful tone. There was a lot of silence on my part some days. Was it less frustrating? Probably not. Did it save my voice? Yes :).
 
yah, i've started not answering her until she speaks nicely to me, but she's the most strong willed, stubborn child i've met. i've never heard a child say 'mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom...' so incessantly. she will literally sit there and say it until i answer. she went on for 5 min one day.
i'd ignore her, but there are other people in this house too. i can't just let her run around yelling like a crazy person.
 
KateD said:
I remember that phase :(
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So it's a phase? Cause we're going on about four years in this phase. It's the main reason I wasn't excited for school to get out this year. Hang in there all you mamas.
 
I.would.go.crazy.

I'm so thankful that I don't have "one of those"...I have no patience at all for that stuff.

I'm so sorry Laura, I hope for your sake it is a phase.

My SIL had a "challenging" child (who is now 16!! wow!!) and I remember back when my niece was 5 or so she was at her wits end. She got a book called "How to parent a strong willed child" or something like that, which gave her lots of great techniques on how to "share" power with the kid (to at least get some of it back).
 
Oh Laura. I am SO sorry! I have one of those too. He kind of goes in spurts though. We will go several days of me loosing my mind and then there will be a couple where he is a bit more chilled out.

I feel for you. Do you want to run away and come visit me? We can listen to music and scrap our day away. I will even buy you strawberry lemonades from McD's! :) Pretty please? I promise I am ONLY doing this to help you. I don't have selfish reasons for wanting to see you at all. I am the angel, remember? :)
 
so sorry Laura. I certainly have had my challenges with my kids too. Mine weren't like that, but being that one is bipolar, we had a whole lot of different things we dealt with (and still do sometimes).

I hope you can find a plan and then be consistent this summer. So much easier said than done...I know!!

HUGS!!
 
I don't have one of those in my house yet. But I do know I'm already dreading that stage. I won't lie, I was one of those children from time to time. VERY strong willed, stubborn and independent. So I know I'm in for a showdown.
My other 2 are 10 and 12 and don't live with us so I only have to deal with them on weekends and a few weeks in the summer.

Hang in there mommas! Just breathe...and go outside and scream if you need to.

I've heard nyquil or benedryl does wonderful things....;)
I'M JUST KIDDING! please no one take that serious lol
 
ugh! I too have one of those girls and oh, boy, there are days when I want to lock myself in a closet for some peace.

I've tried the ignoring, yelling, time out, spankings, taking away things they like...it doesn't work, if it's just one of those days, it's just one of those days & I get nothing accomplished except disciplining the child all.day.long. Super frustrating.

Hope the afternoon brings some sanity. :)
 
I feel ya! I've got my almost 7yo with a mouth/attitude that she is 16, my 4yo son isn't so bad with his mouth but he smarts off every once in a while and my 2yo is in the I'm telling phase and will repeat herself over and over and over until you acknowledge her.
 
emmasmommy said:
i've never heard a child say 'mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom...' so incessantly. she will literally sit there and say it until i answer. she went on for 5 min one day.
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if we did that, my mother would politely tell us that she was not answering to "mom" because she had changed her name. and was not going to tell us what she'd changed her name to.

it worked for me. didn't work for my brother. who was (and is) the king of "mom, mom, mom, mom..." (even at 21).


and i hope you get some peace soon. ):
 
Mine get like that. I make them go outside :p

And I also change my name. If the kids don't knock it off saying "momomomommomomomom", I tell them I changed my name. Then I don't tell them what it is.
 
LOL! I soooooooo had one of these . . . my daughter. Has anyone noticed that it's mostly the girls? I used the "ignore until you can be civil" tactic a LOT when she was growing up, but she was almost as strong-willed as me & it was terribly difficult at times.

HOWEVER, there is hope, ladies! As an adult, Amanda is one of the most remarkable, determined, and self-sufficient women I've ever known!! Sometimes the traits we dislike in a child can serve them well as adults :-)
 
So sorry! Mine had a meltdown at Wal-Mart because she wanted to look at Barbies and there wasn't time. Cried the whole way home (20 minutes) and then another 20 in her room. Amazing.
 
:hugs:

My kids are annoying....god are they annoying but I don't think any of them pulled the mom mom mom mom type thing...maybe kid #4 (a 3 year old boy) does that a bit. But mine are usually to busy bickering with each other to bother me too much.

Maybe you could set up a little system type thing for her....make it a game or something....like make a "talking stick" or something and when she wants to talk to you she has to be holding that stick, maybe it will help make her aware of how often she is "pestering" or if her "mom mom moming" is cause the other sibling to not have a chance to talk....it might help the non talking one to maybe get a word in edgewise. :D

Or go to the craft store and buy some Popsicle sticks and give her like 15 to 20 a day and when she really really wants you attention she has to "give one up" or if she starts the "whining" you make her give it up. Then at the end of the day how ever many she has left she gets that many pennies, nickles, dimes whatevers ect. Maybe she will learn that the reward at the end of the day is much much sweeter then the whining all day long!!!

Nonetheless my friend...I feel for you!!!! Big giant :hugs: to you!!! Just remember summer will be ending before you know it!!! ;) :D :D
 
Omg, that's what we're going through right now... our almost 6 year old talks and talks and asks question after question... I can't answer one without getting another one right after. He doesn't really have fits anymore though, thank God.. but he's a non-stop-jabber-jaws!

And when he starts with the "mommy..." this and "mommy..." that, my daughter gets going too. It's worse when we're in the car, I have to turn the music way up to drown it out! lol... they do it on purpose, too, when I look at them and say "what?" they just laugh with nothing real to say!
 
(((hugs))) Laura! I'm glad I'm not alone. It seems like DS NEVER stops talking. And he is extremely sassy lately. I refuse to admit that it's not a phase lol. It's the only thing that keeps me sane.
 
I feel your pain! My 7-year old DS is like that, too, but he's been getting a lot better lately. Of course, his 5 year old brother has taken over as Chief Challenger to Mom's Sanity and is doing an excellent job. :thumbdown: Ben goes about it in a different way, but he's wearing on my patience every bit as badly as Jason used to. My kids go to day camp a few days a week, but Ben is in preschool 18 hours a week and will only be in camp 6 hours a week. It's going to be a LONG summer!
 
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Mine are 10 and 17. My 10 yo daughter is so sensitive and can be downright mean. What I notice is if I don't respond, it bores her. Also, my 17 yo son has started mentioning to her that she's being over sensitive or mean and she ADORES her older brother so she will listen to him and change her attitude. It's tough with girls but worth it!
 
My oldest who is almost 4 can be a bit sassy. And since she is young, I'm trying really hard to nip it in the bud now. But it's so hard. I find ignoring her is often effective, both with her talking and with outrageous behavior. I also find that if I talk like 5 minutes and let her talk to me about whatever she wants. She mostly just seems to want a little bit of attention.
 
elizabeth, i LOVE the talking stick idea, LOVE. we may try that!!

emma was/is my good one. i ask her to do something and she does it, doesn't question it, just does it. she'd never dream of sassing...believe it or not, she's a lot like i was as a child. madelyn is the complete and polar opposite. i've started implementing time out with her, minus her beloved blankie, but she just cries and cries almost to the point where she vomits more often than not...which in turn makes me even MORE stressed out/upset...just a vicious circle. lol

don't get me wrong, i love the kid IMMENSELY, but it's like, she's too smart (and ornery) for her own good. she makes me laugh when she's sassing and i think that's where we initially went wrong. she thinks she can joke her way out of everything and it's getting to the point now where it's mean and just downright disrespectful.

her preschool teachers are gonna hate me next year LOL
 
emmasmommy said:
elizabeth, i LOVE the talking stick idea, LOVE. we may try that!!

emma was/is my good one. i ask her to do something and she does it, doesn't question it, just does it. she'd never dream of sassing...believe it or not, she's a lot like i was as a child. madelyn is the complete and polar opposite. i've started implementing time out with her, minus her beloved blankie, but she just cries and cries almost to the point where she vomits more often than not...which in turn makes me even MORE stressed out/upset...just a vicious circle. lol

don't get me wrong, i love the kid IMMENSELY, but it's like, she's too smart (and ornery) for her own good. she makes me laugh when she's sassing and i think that's where we initially went wrong. she thinks she can joke her way out of everything and it's getting to the point now where it's mean and just downright disrespectful.

her preschool teachers are gonna hate me next year LOL
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This sounds like Carrie! So smart, so funny, and so frustrating. And you know what, she was going to daycare and the LOVE her, she always gets glowing reports, something about that environment she where she thrives, so maybe your daughter will be the same.

And it is so hard not to laugh because they are crazy funny. I read a great book called The Bright Kid Challenge and it gave some strategies to for dealing with that kind of behavior and the talking stick sounds great. Good Luck.
 
My DD is 6, and while she has always been a really awesome kid, she is a talker. She talks allot, all the time, its non stop. The attitude has been sneaking out lately, and I know I have been quite lucky to have been able to get away with it for this long before having problems with her.

Its frustrating though, for sure. And I swear some days all I do is yell at her. I am kinda glad Im not alone though.
 
Can I just say it's SO refreshing to hear women be REAL about their kids and parenting!! Sometimes I get so frustrated reading parenting blogs that are nothing but sunshine and flowers and portray a parenting world where nothing goes wrong and everyday is full of happiness - GET REAL. I personally think women who say their children are perfect are liars. And I think venting like this is healthy!! I know reading through this thread has definitely made me feel WAY better about my own parenting and my own sometimes bratty child!! LOL. It's just really nice to know I'm not alone!! :thumbup:

I don't have a girl-child, but I was the world's WORST tween / teen girl who ever lived. Seriously. I can't believe the crap I put my parents through with my never-ending attitude and angst. I had a permanent snotty tone of voice for about 5 years and I would get mad and storm into my room and slam my door about a million times a day. One day I came home from school to find that my Dad had taken my bedroom door off it's hinges!! He said until I could learn to close a door without slamming it and stop yelling through the door at my parents, then I didn't need to have one!! ha! Oh, how I hated those several weeks without a door!!! But I learned my lesson and I don't think I've slammed a door since then!

My 4-yr-old son has suddenly developed quite the attitude lately and we have had several "talks" with him about the need to speak to us respectfully. He's been spending a lot of time in time out lately!! His favorite thing to say as of late is "You're a mean Mommy" or "You're a bad Mommy". I was kind of OK with the mean Mommy, I'd just explain that it was fine if he thought I was being mean or if he was mad at me, but it wouldn't change things (if he wasn't getting his way or whatever). But when the "bad Mommy" came out, that was it. It is hard sometimes because he's so darn cute when he's mad - hands on his hips, eyebrows drawn together, scowling, trying to make his voice all deep - I have to wonder if that's what we look like when we scold him? Because where did he learn that!? But man, it is getting frustrating. He's young enough now that's we're trying to just talk with him and explain that sometimes his words are hurtful. We also try to explain that it's OK to be mad or upset with us, but we're in charge and he still has to listen to us and mind us. So far though, none of this seems to be working all that well!!
 
mummytothree said:
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My kids are annoying....god are they annoying but I don't think any of them pulled the mom mom mom mom type thing...maybe kid #4 (a 3 year old boy) does that a bit. But mine are usually to busy bickering with each other to bother me too much.

Maybe you could set up a little system type thing for her....make it a game or something....like make a "talking stick" or something and when she wants to talk to you she has to be holding that stick, maybe it will help make her aware of how often she is "pestering" or if her "mom mom moming" is cause the other sibling to not have a chance to talk....it might help the non talking one to maybe get a word in edgewise. :D

Or go to the craft store and buy some Popsicle sticks and give her like 15 to 20 a day and when she really really wants you attention she has to "give one up" or if she starts the "whining" you make her give it up. Then at the end of the day how ever many she has left she gets that many pennies, nickles, dimes whatevers ect. Maybe she will learn that the reward at the end of the day is much much sweeter then the whining all day long!!!

Nonetheless my friend...I feel for you!!!! Big giant :hugs: to you!!! Just remember summer will be ending before you know it!!! ;) :D :D
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I like this idea for many things, thanks for sharing!
 
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