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emmasmommy

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what's one thing you do that you consider a fault?
like me, i tend to have diarrhea of the mouth....and it sometimes gets people irritated with me.

what's something you do that is just who you are, and sometimes don't even realize you're doing it?
 
In certain circumstances I take over. When I see a job not being done properly I jump in and do it myself. That can annoy people sometimes.
 
second-guessing and changing my mind and asking for advice and then not taking it because of second-guessing..
 
On the same lines as you Laura, my mouth gets me in trouble. I am very blunt and just speak my mind. A lot of times it surprises me that people equate it with being mean. I don't think of myself as mean, so that bothers me, but I just can't help but say what I think and I don't sugar coat it. Life is too short to spend a lot of time trying to figure out the perfect thing to say when the truth works each and every time.
 
Loriebug66 said:
On the same lines as you Laura, my mouth gets me in trouble. I am very blunt and just speak my mind. A lot of times it surprises me that people equate it with being mean. I don't think of myself as mean, so that bothers me, but I just can't help but say what I think and I don't sugar coat it. Life is too short to spend a lot of time trying to figure out the perfect thing to say when the truth works each and every time.
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girl. we are SO one in the same.
 
Well....lots of things.

Right now, the biggest one I'm working on letting self-doubt 'make' my decisions...worrying about everyone else's feelings and not taking care of me.
 
I cuss. And I fidget. Like annoyingly fidget. And I'm a very expressive enthusiastic talker. And when you get me talking I don't shut up.

So basically.... talking to me is like talking to someone on speed. I'll be moving, picking at things, flinging my arms around, and unable to shut up.

The more nervous I am the worse it gets.
 
that I don't say no enough (basically im too kind and let others at times take advantage of me)

that I am unorganized
 
I can be waaaaaayyy too sensitive and it gets in the ways of meaningful relationships. :/
 
Because I say what I mean-all the time-It is hard for me to understand that some people don't. I'm terrible at reading between the lines!
 
I don't follow through.

I have these great ideas and plans, but they never get finished, and I really, really hate it. I think there's this amazing woman inside of me, but I make her play on the computer all day long instead of doing all of her amazing things.
 
Like Kellie, I tend to forget to follow through or even get scared to follow through.

And I hate that I often care too much about what people think :/ (why do you think I admire Traci and Laura so much? They rawk in my heart)
 
mine is probably my lack of self confidence or my overabundance of self doubt..and it rolls over into other aspects of my life like friendships and job opportunities
 
I have this really dry humor that doesn't always come across that well. And I'm really reserved in groups so people often think I'm stuck up.
 
I always tend to be the voice of reason and I think it's annoying when others are trying to just have fun. But I swear the older I get, the worse it gets. (and I think it's usually because I'm the sober designated driver when we go out)
 
I'll sit on the bench with you Laura and Lorie... I try to be better about it and bite my tongue at times but I speak my mind. Although I do try to make sure it isn't insulting to the person I'm actually talking to :D
 
I feel like I don't know how to act in public, anymore... :D Since leaving my career 5 years ago... now I'm around kiddo 99% of the time... so when I'm around others - and add on that I'm so incredibly shy and getting worse the more I'm not around people... I get so nervous that either I freeze when someone talks to me... or I say something that sounds stupid. :o I also have a very odd sense of humor and can find the funny in the worse situation... and I laugh/joke when I'm very uncomfortable... yeah... I'm a whole ball of mess... :mellow:
 
geez reading these makes me realize my other faults too haha

Like Jenn I'm a know it all and tend to stick my nose where it doesn't go...AND like Marla (in fact my dh and I just had this conversation last Sunday) that I can come across stuck up b/c I'm shy..
 
I don't spend my time well and procrastinate a lot. I doubt myself and my decisions all the time. And I can be too nice and not say no enough :glare:
 
Jenn Barrette said:
*sigh* I am a know-it-all. I tend to give advice and my opinion on things whether it is asked for or not.
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*sigh* Yes, this. I try to do better and keep my mouth shut but it just bursts out of me. And I use sarcasm and humor to cover up the fact that I am a self-conscious, insecure person on the inside. :crying:
 
I am opinionated. And perfectionistic.

So things should be done a certain way *ahemmywayahem* and when they are not, it annoys me and/or I can't understand why someone would do it any other way because OBVIOUSLY I have thought my way through, have experience doing it this way, etc etc.

;)

Hubs and I drive each other bonkers on a regular basis b/c he operates so much differently from me and always does things slower/less efficiently/more 'whatever happens, happens.' than I would or would like him to e.g. it does not bother him that he might not eat lunch until 2 p.m. because it takes him 60-90 minutes to get ready to leave the house to go to the restaurant to eat. :p
 
Oh, and to be clear....I don't think my "know-it-all" attitude is a problem; I think others may believe it to be one though!
 
I take too long to tell a story. I like to start with details and work through the whole thing. But half the time my rude friends interrupt me (I guess I'm boring), and I never get to the end. :p

And other times I'm too blunt. Like yesterday at a football game party we were at, someone asked me if 2 kids who grew up with our kids could go to Grad Night this May even though neither of them graduated from our school (one is in REHAB for crying out loud and one chose to drop out and get his GED - their choices, no one made them do those things). I said, without hesitation - NO. And I think it made her mad. (I'm on the committee.)

Oh, and see my second paragraph proved my first paragraph. :blink:
 
Mine is I let my sarcastic humor hurt others. Mainly because I don't know when to turn it off. Like if something serious is going on, I want to lighten things up and those times I just need to shut it and let it be serious.
 
Well, gracious, I have things in common with most of you. :)

I am not sure that others see my downfalls (besides my husband, really, and he gets the unrefined me!) because I have a thick filter when I am in public and therefore am constantly thinking ahead to how what I say or do might be perceived by someone else. I suppose that in itself is a downfall at times. I don't always say what I want to say because of how it might be taken.

Online my filter is different. I tend to be a little more open with what I say but I still reign myself in a whole lot. Also, like Mary, I tend to take too long to tell a story. My posts can get quite long sometimes when I'm telling a story so I have to stop myself, go back and delete and keep it short and sweet. I also tend to relay personal experiences in my posts. If someone asks a question or shares something with me then I tend to want to share my experiences with them when it isn't always what they are asking for. Sometimes they don't want to hear my crap. LOL I have to remind myself to not get so personally wrapped up in every answer I give.

In general, I am rather introverted. I wouldn't call myself shy, but I can be perceived as shy (or stuck up) at times because of my introversion. I don't say something when I don't have anything to say. I don't make small talk a lot. I think things through before I say them so my silence while I am thinking or because I don't have anything to say can be taken wrong. Once I get to know someone that changes and I am quicker to speak and able to just chit chat more and therefore I seem more friendly. I've had to teach myself, over the years, to engage in conversation even when I'm not really interested (like with the cashier at the grocery store) so that I am not mistaken for rude or stuck up. I live in a small town and there is nowhere within a 60 mile radius that I can go without knowing someone and quite often it is someone who knows me, in some fashion, through work or my kids. I feel like I have to uphold myself to a certain standard or reputation because I am someone who is representing our school district and our community. I never considered myself a community figure until I ended up in a focus group with several very prominent members of the community and realized, that, wow, they considered me important enough to invite into the group...

Way more than you wanted to know, eh? I have some diarrhea of the mouth too. ;)
 
MommaTrish said:
I cuss. And I fidget. Like annoyingly fidget. And I'm a very expressive enthusiastic talker. And when you get me talking I don't shut up.

So basically.... talking to me is like talking to someone on speed. I'll be moving, picking at things, flinging my arms around, and unable to shut up.

The more nervous I am the worse it gets.
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Oh man, I think you just nailed my problems on the head and explained them perfectly! :thumbup: The worse part is the more emotional I am the more my accent comes out. Then nobody seems to understand a word I say. :blink:
But when I get nervous I talk more or become a giggler if I have nothing to say. Its embarassing! :o
 
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