Inlaws. Grrrr....

junebug

junebug

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i think i told you guys awhile back about the problem we had when my BIL moved out. that they got their final electric bill and it was $500, and think we should pay atleast half of that. for those that don't know i'll recap. i can't remember the exact day they moved out, it was around the end of august/beginning of september. the electric was their responsibility; we split the bills, they paid that, the water softener, property taxes and we were paying gas, cable, phone, internet, house insurance. and the electric was in their name so i couldn't transfer it til they called them first, and once they did i called and set it up in my name. but i had to wait on them to make the first move, so it was around the middle of September before they got around to doing that. well last week, Katina, BILs GF called and wants us to pay half of that. chad and i both agree that thats not fair; one months bill is around $150, so how is it fair that we pay half of a $500 bill when that bill was their responsibility in the first place, and they just sort of left unexpectedly? so tonight i get a phone call from my BIL, and he just starts ranting and yelling at me tell me that he's been nice and i've seen nothing yet and that we racked up that $500 bill. i was trying to get a word in but he just kept cussing and screaming at me, so i said "F you" and hung up, lol. so now i'm afraid of them coming over here and starting crap. i'm sort of scared of him; he has depression and anger issues like my DH but way worse. i have 3 kids here, i don't need him coming over and yelling and screaming and causing drama. i'll call the cops on his ass. if he wants to come over and talk like an adult i'll sit down and come to an agreement of some sort, but we should not be entitled to pay for that bill, maybe a small portion but not half. besides, we have our own bills to pay! and its christmas, should i not get my kids christmas to pay their bill? i'm soooo mad. i have spoke to my mom and dad and other people and so far no one agrees that we should have to pay anything. they still have stuff here, like we are their storage unit. i can't even get into my garage without stepping over boxes of their stuff. granted we have stuff in there too but its MY garage, lol. i'm just afraid of him coming over here. he's got a horrible temper.
 
Call your DH to help you. If your BIL comes over, tell him he may come in if he behaves and talks normally like an adult. Take a deep breath and stand your ground! Have somebody else there, a friend or a family member - hope it helps!
 
lauren grier said:
I wouldn't talk to him period.. or let him in your house. DH can handle it.
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That.

The bill is in his name, he's responsible for it. If you had a written or verbal agreement that you'd pay part/half, then I'd tell you to pony up the money, but it doesn't sound like that's the case here.
 
DH won't talk to them on the phone. i take care of everything. but if he comes over here, DH says he'll step in. i will call 911 if it gets scary. i know that BIL has a gun too. seriously, i wouldn't put it past him to bring it if he gets mad enough. thats what scares me. his GF has more sense, so maybe she can calm him down, but she wanted us to pay half too. but we didnt have any agreement; when they lived here that was their bill, the whole thing. they left very suddenly and didnt bother starting the transfer til about 2-3 wks after they left. and we moved in to help them cause they were struggling.i wouldn't mind paying a small amount, but DH doesn't want to pay any. and we really don't have it, being christmas. there's more going out this month on presents, lol.

thanks for agreeing with me, lol. i know we are in the right. just hope they don't try to sue us or something.
 
Angie4b1g said:
Wth Dh won't talk to him on the phone? Isn't it HIS brother? I'd be telling him to deal with his relative. :p
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i know, my DH is very stubborn. he doesn't do anything. i'm not exaggerating. he sits and plays WoW all day, or sleeps. he has his PTSD as an excuse to ignore everyone and waste his remaining life playing a video game. :thumbdown: i pay all the bills, do all the shopping, everything. i'm practically a single mom. the only time he leaves the house is for a doctors appointment. he's been like this for the last few months. he's gotten worse and i can't seem to get him out of this slump. he takes his meds, they just dont seem to be helping. he's been on so many we're losing hope. i'm used to it. hate living like this but i'm used to it.
 
If the bill is in their name & there is a history of how you all divided the payments, with them paying the whole bill, I wouldn't worry about the suing. I'd be more worried about the anger issues & the gun.

So what sort of time period is this bill for? If the bill is usually $150 it sounds like they didn't pay it for a few months (or ran the air conditioner with the windows open for a month) If some of it is for the couple of weeks you were there alone maybe you could offer them $40-50 as a token
 
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