I feel bad.....(and a random update)

crystalbella77

crystalbella77

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So, recently I was contacted by someone to CT for them. It isn't somewhere that I frequent or anything...so it was just random (though I know people there...so maybe that's why???). Well, I have the worst time saying no to anyone, so I said that I wasn't sure that I would need to think about it and I asked what the specific requirements were.

Well, I haven't heard anything back from them at all. Nothing about the requirements or anything. Is it rude to not say yes right of the bat or something? Designers, would you be offended if you went out of your way to ask someone and they didn't jump at the chance?

I am just having a lot of anxiety about this, lol! I am afraid that I upset someone or something!

PS: and as an update to my bad day last week...my hubby did not buy boots. He wore someone else's all night even though they were too small. And he said he was joking about the four dollars (which I hope he was cause I spent 12 or so this weekend....:unsure: )
 
Oh goodness woman, you absolutely did nothing wrong! I'm sure the designer was glad that you asked about the requirements before just jumping aboard and not being able to meet them.

You're fine, stop stressing!
 
I have been approached to be on CTs, without being told the requirements specifically. I have just emailed them to ask, and gotten a friendly reply each time. I don't think it offends, I don't know, but the designers I emailed seemed nice about it! Perhaps she is busy or didn't get your email?
 
You did nothing wrong. There's no way I'd say yes w/o knowing specifics of what is required by the CT. Don't worry your head over it They have have gone on vacation, may have had an emergency, etc. etc. etc (ask me - I had all that happen at one time last week LOLOL).

You're fine.
 
I wouldn't worry about it..I'm sure she'll get back to you. I've had several times where someone has approached me about CT'ing and their designs just aren't my style at all. I feel bad about saying no, but I don't want to end up required to work with materials that just don't inspire me kwim?
 
Thanks guys....I will just let it go for now....It is not something I want to do right now as I have been holding out for a few specific teams (Hint hint you SSD designers that haven't had calls recently) and I have been so busy lately.....I just don't do well with issues involving any kind of guilt, lol!

Darcy, I hope that things have settled down for you now!!
 
I used to be a designer and I wouldn't be upset if I invited someone and they asked about requirements first. I think that is great on your part that you did ask :)

I just don't seem to have any luck with getting on a CT right now LOL! Hey, if ANY of the designers here need me I'd be more than happy to help out :D I don't have any plans of designing ever again so I would love to CT since I haven't done it for years!
 
I am in the same position Crystal. Someone PM'ed me 2 weeks ago and I responded by saying I would get back to her and then I never got back to her. I feel awful and I hate saying no too but I dont want to say yes and then regret it.
 
~Julie~ said:
I am in the same position Crystal. Someone PM'ed me 2 weeks ago and I responded by saying I would get back to her and then I never got back to her. I feel awful and I hate saying no too but I dont want to say yes and then regret it.
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That is so weird! I know what you mean though...I would just feel even worse if I said yes right away and then was like "Oh no....I'm diggin' these products" :(
 
I have been approached a few times now to be on a creative team for someone and I just wasnt sure I could do their designs justice and then there was one that I absoluteely loved her designs but I didnt have the photos to match them and I was really sorrry for that because I would have loved to have been on her team. When this happens to me I usually am just honest and say whatever reason I dont feel I could their designs justice with my layouts or that my photos just dont really match what I see in their stores. Now as to whether it offended them I wouldnt know. Ive gotten replies back to keep them in mind and if I decided down the line that I would like to join their team to let them know. It is very flattering someone enjoys my layouts that much that they would ask me to join without having to apply. I have a few dream-teams I would love to be on but after applying more then once I just gave up for now. Im sure that she knew you werent trying to be rude so I wouldnt stress to much
 
Hmm... I think I would have a hard time saying no, but I have a responsibility to do so for the designers I'm currently CT-ing for... I love my designers and I wouldn't want to slack off because I couldn't say no, so if you try to categorize that you're taking care of other people you care about by asking questions before you just jump on another bandwagon, that should alleviate your concern some. That's how I'd have to justify it, anyway.

I concentrate pretty much on only SSD designers, I have one other CT I'm on, because the requirements are super low and because I consider her a friend, but otherwise, unless they knew that my SSD CT's came first, I wouldn't be able to accept another team.

(it helps that my outside designer concentrates heavily on her own responsibilities as a CT Member of an SSD designer, lol)
 
In general, I think that you should just give an honest answer and not feel guilty or bad about it. I have turned down a couple CTs lately because I just don't have the time for them and don't want to slack on my responsibilities to my current CTs. I'm sure the designers understand, and would rather have a straight answer than no answer at all.

With your situation, you certainly didn't do anything wrong -- it's perfectly reasonable to ask the requirements before you commit to a team!
 
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