I can't take it. Seriously.

I like the idea of going away for the weekend, or planning it anyway. And when you tell DH your plan, he is sure to ask why. Then you can say that you and your son need a break from BIL snapping.
 
my sister is alot like that. my youngest especially she likes to harp on him. He tells her off himself though. (not being mean or mouthy just basically saying she is not his mom and that she doesnt have the right to talk to him the way she does) Im sorry you have to deal with it. I bite my tongue alot when it comes to family members. When it is in your house though you should not have to. Even though you said you do not want to you might need to talk to your husband about it
 
that's ridiculous. This is your SON's home, not your BIL's home. Your son should be able to relax and enjoy being at home without someone threatening him all the time.
 
:( Awww Nikki -- that sucks!!
Since when did allowing him to stay with you
give him permission to become authority to your
children...... nothing I can't stand more than someone
else telling my kiddies what to do. :(
 
Thanks so much girlies! I knew I could count on you all to help me work through this. :)

I'm going to do my dishes --- blah --- and then go to bed so I can try to talk to Dusty before he passes out. If not, I'll talk to him about it all tomorrow!
 
nikki, do not stand for that crap. EVER. your home, your rules. if he doesn't like it, he can go...ummm...i don't know...get a job?!?!?! wtcrap!!! if you don't wanna tell him, i will. put him on the line. :p
 
I am sorry you are dealing with this Nikki. I have to say that I'd definitely tell him that he's lucky you are letting him stay and to either shut his mouth or you'll shut it for him! I had to deal with this for a year when my mom was living with us, it drove me batty, she wasn't mean she just felt she had to repeat everything I said to my kids and that was bad enough but threatening to cut a tongue off, that is just not nice. I'd tell him I'll cut something of his off if he even says that again! Sorry! I hope you can get rid of him soon.
 
Thanks so much girls! I absolutely love my home here and each and every one of you! It means so much to me that you took the time to send encouraging words to me.

:)
 
I haven't read all of the responses, but Nikki, you NEED to put your foot down about this! NOBODY but you and DH should be disciplining your kids (of course there are times that if you are not around and the kids do something really bad, I can understand a word of caution or mild discipline from an adult who is around - but who has PERMISSION to do so, but this doesn't sound like this is the case for you right now).

And you need to talk to DH. I know you don't want to burden him, but how would he feel if one day you just blew up, freaked out, and kicked his brother out, and all the while he thought that everything was fine? He's going to be hurt, confused, upset, most likely feeling all these things because he didn't know that there were problems you were covering up. Talk to him. It will make you feel better, and he will be able to help you deal with BIL.
 
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The fact that no one else but you all will take him in, says to me that you are not the only one who feels this way about him.

Your DH isn't home to see him interact with the boys & he needs to know whats going on in the house. Don't view it as dumping on him or burdening him. You are just informing him what is going on during the day, just like you tell him what the rest of the family has been up to and letting him decide what he thinks about it.
 
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