I am soooo mad at my DD!

My daughter is so self motivated. She has managed two pizza places once got an order for 100 pizzas to be delivered to a public school. She did it almost on her own. She went out and got the pharmacy tech degree through her job and she aced that test on her first try. They told her she is the first to do that for their company. She wants to be a nurse now. So I do not really worry about her. She does not lack drive or initiative at all. My middle son wanted to move to Alaska and work in wildlife management and law enforcement. Probably become a game warden or something. He didnt get that chance.
 
I didn't catch reading through... the classes she took... are they good subjects for her? Or new to her?

My first year was HORRIBLE... I was an honor student in high school and found school really easy... then I got to college, declared a major that was on an accelerated course (huge mistake) and found out that what my high school teachers told me that what we were doing in HS was "just like what you will find in college the first year..." Bull! It was the first time in my life that I got D's in science and math - I always got A's in school for those areas... by the time my second year came, I dropped that major and took classes I wanted to take to find out what I wanted to do and I got my good grades back. Granted that first year really took a toll on my GPA in the end, but I was happier and I graduated in 4.5 years with just 4 credits short of a double major.

I hope she finds her groove. One thing to note - I had a couple of college friends who started at a 2 year uni - really a community college - and then transferred to a 4 year and they struggled all over again that first year... just something to be aware of - I know that doesn't happen to everyone... just putting it on the radar.
 
Honestly, I think it's maybe a little unfair to compare your grades and experience to hers considering you have so much more life experience than she does, especially considering your military background has probably prepared you pretty well for handling new situations.

I was a straight-A student in high school, never even had a C before, and I ended up with C's in each of my first 2 semesters and again the first quarter after I transferred. It wasn't that those classes were harder than anything I'd taken before. It just took time for me to learn how to balance studying, friends and handling everything else as an adult. But eventually everything clicked and I started making the Dean's List and went on to graduate with honors. I'm sure my parents weren't thrilled in the beginning (and neither was I really) but I can't imagine what I would have done if they'd made me pay for everything over grades. Now if she's not even trying that's one thing but I'd probably give her at least one more semester to show improvement before doing anything drastic.
 
thank you guys for all the advice and Lynnette, you are so right that I have so much more life experience and I can juggle alot of things at once that she has never had to worry about. Iam hoping by having the summer off and being pretty motivated about the upcoming classes next year, that she will definetely "gorw" a little more and buckel down more in the fall. :) One thing I do know, that regardless of what she decides to do, she defeintely doesn't want o be living at home by next fall 2013! Having 3 younger siblings can definetely be motiviation to move out :D
 
My biggest fear is that his degree, a BA in creative writing will mean he will live in my basement for the rest of his life. :D He wants to be a writer and while I encourage him, I wish he wanted to be a food scientist. The ones I work with are make 80,000 right out of college.

Just to alleviate some fear, I have a degree in CW :D I worked in publishing for a decade and got kinda burned out, but it paid well (but nothing to make you rich). But it pushed me to try all kinds of writing and editing and now I also do corporate training and crafting training manuals. My college years were some of the most fun, but I'll admit I learned a whole lot more once I was out there "in the wild," lol.

It's good though that you are letting me try things his way BUT also let him know he's gotta take some responsibility, lol.
 
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