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Hmmm could you take that e-mail and a picture(s) of your parents and scrap that? Sounds like something you won't want to forget about. ...or maybe scrap a happy memory of her and you?

I know what you mean...I lost my father back about 5 years ago (can't remember exactly...my mind has tried to block it out)... I had nightmares about how he died for a long long time. It wasn't until last year and this great group of ladies here... before I was able to scrap a layout with him in it and not break down. Still going slow on it though...and his birthday is the end of the month... I try to stay busy on that day on purpose. {{hugs}}
 
lauren, i honestly cannot imagine. how wonderful that your father is passing on her memories but at the same time i really feel for you!! i promise you i will hugs the ones i love more and i am sending some major love for you today!!!! HUGS!!!
 
Lauren.. I want to share something with you I learned from Dr. Phil (of all people) about grief. His message was poignant to me because I have lived with a lot of pain in my heart since 1/12/04 when my identical twin boys were born/died @ 27 weeks due to TTTS. Okay.. so I was watching 'ole Dr. Phil a week or so ago about parents dealing with grief, etc. Something that really stuck with me was when he said "You must remember the one you lost with joy and not pain. The person who has gone would hate to think that every time we thought of them that it brought us pain. Our loved ones would not want to see us in pain. We must remember the special memories and not just the time of their passing"

So long story short *it's a little different for me because I didn't have but a few moments*.. remember your mom with joy in your heart and try not to allow the sadness to over shadow your special memories. Everyone handles grief differently, but the whole "remember with joy instead of pain" really has stuck with me and has allowed me to release some of my own pain and grief.

Sorry to ramble, I don't even know if I made any sense..

I wish you peace today, on your Mom's birthday. *hugs*

*ps* you could still buy flowers, put them in your favorite vase and know who and why you bought them. In a sense, celebrating.. go out to eat in honor of her, have a yummy dessert for her birthday.. you and the kids could make cupcakes, I dunno.. just some thoughts.
 
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I'm so sorry, Lauren, my grandparents raised me and when they both passed within 6 months of each other, it devastated me... still 7 years later, I have a hard time on their birthdays.

I started a little tradition this year, my boys each get a cupcake on my grandmother or grandfather's birthday and they get to make a wish and blow the candle out, I tell them that the smoke carries their wish up to gramma or grampa up in Heaven. It makes me feel a little better.

(((hugs)))
 
I'm so sorry Lauren. {{Hugs}} I can't even imagine the loss you are feeling.

And hugs to you too Julie. I didnt know your mom passed. {Hug}
 
I'm so sorry, Lauren... I lost my best friend over 13 years ago, and certain days that remind me of him are STILL hard. Your dad gave you such a gift today. He must be a special guy. My parents also divorced when I was five and I can't imagine either one of them doing something like that years later... I hope you're able to do something today that brings you some happiness. I wish I could give you a big hug in person!
 
Aww so sorry Lauren, I know what that's like. I wish I could say it gets easier, some years it is, some not. Celebrate the good memories and enjoy those you have everyday.
 
OH honey! BIG BIG Texas hugs for you!!!

I won't pretend to know how you feel because I can't begin to imagine what it is like for you. However, I sympathize with you and I am sorry for your loss and your pain.

Sounds like an ice cream cone kind of day! :thumbup:

Bless your heart.

Jeanye
 
Hugs, girl!

I lost my mother suddenly just 5 days before her 51st birthday (which also is the week of Mother's Day). Needless to say, May is a hard month for me, and I can relate to the pangs that pop up every now and then.

I think it's kinda sweet what your dad did. My parents divorced when I was 7, and it was a little strange hearing him talk about her right after she passed. You wonder how they ended up disliking each other so much.
 
As someone who's also lost her mom (six years ago come September), her birthday, Christmas and Mother's Day are more painful than usual. **BIG HUGS** Lauren! I love that your dad recounted how they met, just as sometimes my own dad shares what he and my mom used to do on dates or just before they got married.
 
(((HUGS))) Those anniversaries are the absolute hardest! I lost my dad almost 11 1/2 years ago and I still have to have a good cry every once in a while.
 
thank you again *mwah*

and big {{hugs}} to those of you who have lost someone as well.... it's no good and i've forced everyone else in my family to PROMISE me they will live forever! ;) They all pinky swore, so I think it's a legit deal! ;)

ooxoxooxoxo
xooxoxooxox
 
Lots and lots of {{{hugs}}} to you sweetie. Sieze the moment and the emotion and go with it - it will really help I think. That was so sweet of your dad to send along some special memories to you......I'm sure it really opened up the feelings you have tried to shut out in the past. Hang in there! :wub:
 
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