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I feel for you (hugs)! Tristan turned 4 in July and he still has accidents. He was really resistant to training. We had been using pullups for a quite a long time but he treated them just like diapers. Finally at the beginning of the summer, I took away the pullups completely and that did seem to help. He had no problem with peeing in the potty but he still gives up problems with poop accidents. His last one was about a week and half ago he pooped his pants at the park and we had to leave and come home. That was pretty traumatic for him. He LOVES the park more than anything and having to come home after only 45 minutes just about killed him! I've suspected he doesn't want to stop playing to go to the potty. It's been really frustrating. I'm just crossing my fingers that our incident at the park was enough to get him to stop pooping in his underwear!
 
I would consider taking him to the doctor to have him checking out. My niece was still peeing the bed at night at that age and finally at like 7, my sister took her to the doctor and she had some pills that helped her. Now the youngest niece is having the same issues.
 
We are having the same thing here. Jake has been going in the potty for a long time and all the sudden he keeps peeing his pants. He told me he wants to be little again....???? So even when we go there with the "big boys and babies talk" he says he wants to be a baby.
 
Bree had huge issues with Mason. He pooped his pants until just before kindergarten and she and her DH had tried EVERYTHING. They talked to the doctor and he had all sorts of answers and suggestions for them.

One of the huge things was that it hurt. Because he was on a lot of meds for his cancer, it constipated him, poor little man. He chose to do it standing up because it hurt LESS for him. Frustrating yes, but understandable. Then I think it got to be a habit, and the doctor said it was a control issue. As in, Bree took him to the hospital 1x a week, where he'd get blood tests, poked, prodded, sometimes lumbar punctures and mini-surgeries, things he had NO control over. He didn't want them happening yet they didn't give him the choice.

Well pooping he HAD a choice over. He could CHOOSE to do it in the potty or in his undies. FINALLY it clicked with him when he was going to start kindergarten. He had been so excited to go to school since he was like 2! Bree just told him that the teachers wouldn't clean him up and would send him home and he wouldn't be allowed to go to school if he was pooping in his pants. That was pretty much all that did it. He chose to go to school, and chose not to poop his pants anymore.

Maybe your little guy is having control issues too? Sorry I'm not much help. I'm dreading the day pt starts in my house... yikes!
 
Nikki, I am so there with you. PW turned 4 this week and it is a constant battle. He always tries to hold his poop in and then hides in the bathroom until he has it "held in" and then comes out, "No, I didn't need to go"

We have accepted this is how it is right now. We totally encourage him to sit on the potty, give him books to read, etc. but he is stubborn and doesn't like poop, so he doesn't want to poop. He also has a very limited diet - he is SO picky - he refuses to eat any veggies, fruit, or meat except bacon and chicken nuggets. He lives on noodles, yogurt, rice, peanut butter, and carbs. So his diet totally doesn't help the issue!

I don't know how to help but you are not alone!!!!
 
I think it's one of two things...I think I read (sorry it's along thread :D) that he has never gone an extended period of time with out accidents right? If that's the case it sounds "medical" to me and I'd schedule a trip to the doctors. He may just not feel that urge or his muscle just might not be "strong" enough.

The second is what Jaedyn suggested...he has very little control over the things in is life, but by god he can control where he poops and since he knows it drives you up the wall to poop in his pants that is exactly where he is going to do it!!

And neither of those things are your "fault" and make you a failure as a mother so stop beating yourself up girl!!! My advise....take a trip to the doctor's first...if everything checks out fine then start ignoring him and his poop accidents....if he know they are no longer a big deal then he will stop. Just strip him down, wipe him up and re dress him. Wash the undies or throw them out (which ever is easiest) all with out saying a word to him...I mean really just IGNORE him. Pretty soon when he puts 2 and 2 together and he know he can't get a reaction out of you he will stop.

Big hugs sweetie....BIG GIANT HUGS!!!!
 
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