Events you have a hard time scrapping

Valgal

Valgal

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I'm pretty much finished with 2015. There are a couple pages I haven't gotten to yet because I started my December Daily album. One of them is Johnny's accident in May and I keep putting it off. I scrapped several recovery pages and things of that nature, but it won't make sense if I don't do a page explaining what actually happened. It's actually kind of good that I've waited awhile because new details kept coming out every few months. It's kinda tricky when the only witnesses were a bunch of teenagers. (if you weren't around in May, my son was run over in the high school parking lot)

I can't even quite pinpoint WHY I'm anxious about scrapping it. Maybe I'm afraid it will be like reliving it or something? Anyone else had trouble scrapping something or felt anxious about doing it and kept putting it off? I would just leave it out but it was kinda of a significant even this year and would be really odd to exclude it!
 
I scrapped our car crash in 2011. It was actually quite cathartic to have it all written down and recorded. I wrote it just like a journal page. When our insurance wanted the story of exactly what happened, I sent them copies of my layouts, and the very next day they paid out on the policy.



 
I can understand why that would be difficult. I don't feel any pressure to scrap specific events, which probably makes me the exception rather than the norm. I typically only scrap what's going to be a positive creative experience for me (not to say that scrapping something bad that happened can't be). I'm also not much a journaler, so it's very rare to find commentary on my pages.
 
jacinda said:
I scrapped our car crash in 2011. It was actually quite cathartic to have it all written down and recorded. I wrote it just like a journal page. When our insurance wanted the story of exactly what happened, I sent them copies of my layouts, and the very next day they paid out on the policy.



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What a story! I like how you laid it out, especially with the little bulleted points at the end. I have a feeling I'll experience some closure when I finally do it.
 
We threw my grandmother a surprise 80th birthday party a few years ago. It was the first time our entire extended family was together, and the first time her five granddaughters had ever been in the same room with one another. We took lots of photos, of course, and it was one of the best nights of her life.

She unexpectedly passed away 3 months later.

Between the party and her death, I did manage to create a handful of layouts with the photos I took but since then I have been unable to make any of that night. I have tried, but the pages never quite come together.

My grandfather (really, her best friend and no relation to me at all but we have adopted him in as a grandfather-figure to the kids) was diagnosed with cancer last year. He is doing much better than expected but still working through treatment. I am determined to finish the rest of the photos/pages so I can have them printed into an album for him for his birthday in September.

I think part of my hangup is the unresolved grief I will have to deal with but also wanting the pages to be 'perfect' when it's much more important that they are done. I hope that by setting myself a hard deadline and reminding myself of my grandfather's condition that I can push through & get it done even if it's not exactly how I would want it to be.
 
Yes, this happened to me when trying to finish off my 2014 album (which is still unfinished due to not getting the important final layouts done). I had a difficult twin pregnancy, riddled with complications, and then my boys were born 10 weeks early. I still haven't found the right groove to actually scrap both the pregnancy and birth story, mostly due to the emotions still being raw a year on.
 
One of my kids has a genetic disorder. Beginning at 10 months old he started getting diagnosed with things like low tone and a motor planning disorder, and when he was 6 we got his autism diagnosis. That led to genetic testing and a diagnosis when he was 7. I think I came to terms with both of those diagnoses relatively easily; I felt like the diagnoses themselves were an explanation for everything we'd been dealing with all his life, and putting a name to it was a good thing because it helped guide us in helping him and knowing what else might come up.

Scrapping both diagnoses was a whole different story. My hangup is knowing that he (and others) will see the pages. When things were fresh I couldn't have journaled them in a way that I'd feel comfortable with him reading. I finally did scrap the genetic disorder, but I ended up doing it as a timeline from birth to age 7 that showed all his individual diagnoses culminating in the genetic diagnosis that was the underlying cause of all the others. I still haven't figured out how to scrap the autism diagnosis.

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This happen to me that's why daughter's 3rd photobook was still not printed because there are a couple more pages that I can't scrap yet like when my father passed away, a couple of scenes and events where some people I used to have a good relationship were included. Since it's a photobook, I have to be specific with my story, but most of the time when I'm scrapping, the emotions take over and I have to stop so I just make sure to jot down notes on every events so I could make my story for when I'm ready again.
 
cherrygutz said:
This happen to me that's why daughter's 3rd photobook was still not printed because there are a couple more pages that I can't scrap yet like when my father passed away, a couple of scenes and events where some people I used to have a good relationship were included. Since it's a photobook, I have to be specific with my story, but most of the time when I'm scrapping, the emotions take over and I have to stop so I just make sure to jot down notes on every events so I could make my story for when I'm ready again.
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That is exactly what I did. Several weeks after it happened I typed out in a Word doc the basics of the event, mostly fragmented sentences just to get it all down. Then I'll actually word it as the story when I make my page.
 
My nephew was killed in a car accident in October. I am really struggling now to scrap any page that includes him. I have tons of pictures of him through the years and would really like to scrap them but I can't. At least not yet. It is hard because I pulled up some Christmas pictures that I really wanted to scrap of my kids, but he was there that day and I just couldn't do it. I know I can scrap them like I would have at the time with the voice of the past but right now it just bothers me too much.
 
Sherri Tierney said:
My nephew was killed in a car accident in October. I am really struggling now to scrap any page that includes him. I have tons of pictures of him through the years and would really like to scrap them but I can't. At least not yet. It is hard because I pulled up some Christmas pictures that I really wanted to scrap of my kids, but he was there that day and I just couldn't do it. I know I can scrap them like I would have at the time with the voice of the past but right now it just bothers me too much.
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Oh my. That would be very difficult, I'm sure. :crying:
 
rach3975 said:
One of my kids has a genetic disorder. Beginning at 10 months old he started getting diagnosed with things like low tone and a motor planning disorder, and when he was 6 we got his autism diagnosis. That led to genetic testing and a diagnosis when he was 7. I think I came to terms with both of those diagnoses relatively easily; I felt like the diagnoses themselves were an explanation for everything we'd been dealing with all his life, and putting a name to it was a good thing because it helped guide us in helping him and knowing what else might come up.

Scrapping both diagnoses was a whole different story. My hangup is knowing that he (and others) will see the pages. When things were fresh I couldn't have journaled them in a way that I'd feel comfortable with him reading. I finally did scrap the genetic disorder, but I ended up doing it as a timeline from birth to age 7 that showed all his individual diagnoses culminating in the genetic diagnosis that was the underlying cause of all the others. I still haven't figured out how to scrap the autism diagnosis.

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Yes! Scrapping something that the person will read is hard. We have an adopted son with autism. I did scrap a page about it but it was definitely spun in a positive light. The difficulties we've had with him are very much a part of our lives, but would hurt him immensely to read. It's a balance, I guess.

I started digi scrapping in late 2011 and am current to 2015 and have worked backward through 2007. I've not yet gotten to my kids' early years. And my youngest son's first year was really rough until we got a diagnosis for his rare disease. Enough years have passed that the page I'd scrap now will be very different than the one I'd have scrapped 14 years ago! My advice would be to scrap the event - just tell the facts if the emotions are too painful. You can always do a reflection page later - how far your son has come or something to that effect. I'm sure you will never forget how hard things were. But sometimes we need to remind ourselves of how blessed we are even through he tough times - I love that the car accident layout talked about that (I forget who did that one, sorry!).
 
I have a hard time scrapping deployments. I feel guilty documenting what my husband missed. I've yet to scrap a lot of the last deployment and I've barely touched this deployment. My goal with 2016 is to go back over the last year and scrap at least one layout per child, per month that hubby was gone.

I also have a hard time scrapping celebrations such as birthdays, Christmas, anniversary, family get-togethers and what not. There are SO many photos that I don't want 12 layouts but want to include as many as I want to tell the story, WITH journaling. I really do struggle with this area.
 
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