breastfeeding moms help!!!!!!!!!

nehmelman

nehmelman

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I have a question, how if at all did you get your breastfeed baby to take a bottle. My daughter is almost three months old and I have to go into work on monday and she isn't taking to well to the bottle. My mom is watching her but I don't want her to get upset about trying to feed her. I got her to take a bottle from me on sunday but she hasn't taken one since. Hubby gets too frustrated and won't help me because he says I am spoiling her and it is my fault she won't take the bottle.

I have no clue what to do my first daughter wouldn't breastfeed at all, so this is new to me.

rachel
 
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Have you given her any bottles since she was born? If not - iwould start now and give her a bit. Now, someone else should give the bottle not you! We did that with my baby (he's six months and I've been back to work for about 1.5 months now).

Let me tell you that it is HARD! DH was the one that stayed with him the first days (he happened to have a slow week) and it was a battle. The first day he told me the baby was not having anything to do with the bottle. and i had previously left him for a few hours and he'd done a little bit of bottle feeding. He cried so much he tired out and fell asleep. Once he woke up he was super hungry and he took the bottle. By day 3, it was much easier.

Now, not sure if you will be doing both. I am. And the first weeks were hard on the weekend. My supply had decreased and he would NOT take the bottle from me. He was fine w DH or with the sitter - but not with me.

Thankfully, now at six months, he is fine. He takes the bottle fine -- even from me. He nurses on the weekends and between that and solids we sometimes don't need to do bottle feedings :thumbup: and he's back on track on Mondays with bottle during the day and no bottle if I"m there.

Good luck... be prepared for a hard few days -- but it'll work out :)
 
We never had to go the route of the bottle in this fashion, but for all of our friends who did, the biggest thing they did was hand the bottle to the new caregiver and walk away. Go away from the baby so she isn't trying to go for you, and they'll begin to take a bottle better because you're not there. So have your hubby feed her w/o you near. Don't bring the bottle, don't be in the room, just let him get the bottle, take it to her, and feed her.
 
Mason wouldn't take a bottle and needed to be supplemented (I wasn't producing enough milk for him), it was really hard! Around 6 months, we took him to my parents and left him there overnight to go to a wedding...gave my mom bottles and formula. Because I wasn't there and he couldn't smell me (or my milk, lol), he did take a bottle, and it wasn't a battle at all after that.
 
My second DS rarely had a bottle (by his choice) until I had to go back to work when he was 9 months old. I was really worried about how he'd do, especially since he'd also be transitioning to daycare at the same time. It worked out just fine.
 
Yep I agree, def let somebody else besides you try to feed her. Also-we had to use a couple diff brands before we found a bottle and nipple that my kids actually liked. Good luck!!
 
O.k., this happened to me. Believe it or not, my dd did not like the taste of the formula we bought. Once I changed formulas, she was fine. Try that?
 
I was REALLY REALLY lucky that Ava took a bottle without a problem. She was 4 months old the first time we tried her on it (DH and I were going to Phantom of the Opera and my mom was babysitting), and she sucked it dry before I could get the camera, lol!

What are you giving her? We didn't give Ava formula until she weaned herself at 6 months. Up until then all the bottles were breastmilk. I didn't have a pump, so I'd hand express - usually right after I had a hot shower & the milk was flowing, lol! Maybe that will help!

And as for DH's comment - you are NOT spoiling her. Not taking a bottle is NOT a sign of spoiling. She's just used to the comfort & smell & loving of you. A bottle is cold, sterile and not what she's used to. Give it time and be patient! Try other bottles & nipples. Try having DH give it to her when you KNOW she's hungry. I've also heard that if you give the person feeding her a shirt of yours that hasn't been washed since you last wore it, they can put it against themselves while feeding the baby. Because it has your scent, they may be more likely to take the bottle because your smell comforts them.

I hope she catches on soon! Little ones are so sweet, but can be so trying!!!
 
Definitely have someone else try, and you leave the house, so you don't get upset when she cries.

We did pumped breast milk instead of formula, and that worked better also.

I had to do 9 different bottles before Rae liked one. It was frustrating!
 
I wish I could help... but my 11 month old still won't take a bottle. He's a boob or nothin' man. =(

Poor little bugga.
 
I want to wish you luck! Feeding transitions are so tough on everyone involved!
My son didn't have any trouble with taking a bottle (unfortunately he was a preemie and the stupid nurses in the NICU kept giving him bottles when I told them not to, that I wanted him to nurse only- but they didn't listen so he never nursed, just took bottles... I had the opposite problem as you)
 
I am trying to still breastfeed that is what is so hard it is so easy to just give her my boob and give up. I am pumping my milk to give to her, not giving formula. I have advent bottles because that is what I had when I was trying to breastfeed my other daughter and that is what the hospital recommended. I think they are too hard, my second daughter won't take a pacifier or anything so I don't know what kind of bottle to try, I had some platex bottles and she didn't like them either, I think I have one other type around her that I can try. It is just so hard, I don't want to go back to work anyway and this is making it even harder.
 
We used the Playtex with the drop ins, but you can get loads of different kinds of nipples you can try, like we had to. My last kid was the most stubborn LOL
 
I actually had one of the platex ones with the drop ins and tried it because the advent ones are so hard, my hubby feed her when he got home and she took it finally, I will need more drop ins but she will take the bottle with that nipple, thanks for the advice.

rachel
 
nehmelman said:
I actually had one of the platex ones with the drop ins and tried it because the advent ones are so hard, my hubby feed her when he got home and she took it finally, I will need more drop ins but she will take the bottle with that nipple, thanks for the advice.

rachel
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YAY for your little one!! I'm glad that she finally took it! Ava used the Playtex drop in bottles, and I always bought the silicone nipples instead of the yellow latex ones. I got them in the Variable flow (yellow box) because they don't leak!
 
nehmelman said:
I actually had one of the platex ones with the drop ins and tried it because the advent ones are so hard, my hubby feed her when he got home and she took it finally, I will need more drop ins but she will take the bottle with that nipple, thanks for the advice.

rachel
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This is the bottle I used for both my breastfed babes while I was working.
 
My three breastfed little guys never wanted the Advent nipples. They were just to hard. I always used drop ins and I would not have problems. :)

Good luck!
 
My son would not take a bottle from me, but had no problem taking it from whoever was watching him. I was lucky to stay home with him most of the time, but when I did work (part-time), dh was the one with him. He said he would just take the bottle, no big deal. But when I tried it once, he ate the bottle, but freaked for like 30 minutes before I b/f him properly and then he was happy as could be. lol Stinkers. We used the Medela bottles that went with my pump.
 
I cant be of much help as all my kids took fine to a bottle. My first 2 kids I exclusivly bottle fed then my last 3 I breast fed up until they were like 7 months old. With my last son I got a horrid UTI that went into my kidneys and I was forced to Pump and dump for 3 weeks while taking this medication to rid me of the infection. But my Son didn't mind the formula or the bottle one bit. We did however have to play around with different nipples. By a few different kinds some kids like silicone some like the ugly brown ones some prefer the different shapes that are out there. Play with it. Use your Milk and hopefully you can find something that works. Maybe have the bottle wrapped around a shirt or something you have worn so it will smell like you. Having kids is basically trial and error because they are all different! GL!
 
The first time I left Isabella with my inlaws a few months ago I left a bottle, just in case. She hadn't had one since she was first born and I was in ICU and she had to be in the nursery. She refused to take it. Then, we took a road trip last month for my brother's wedding and to keep her entertained in the car I let her nibble and play with a sippy cup. She loved it! (she was 4.5 months old) So when I left her with my mother-in-law 2 weeks ago, she totally took the bottle and loved it. I pump, so she was glad to get the milk. I used the Nuk bottles because she uses Nuk pacifiers. My friend swears by the First Years Breastflow Bottles because the nipples are so pliable and breastlike.

I went back to work after I had my 3 year old when he was 3 months old and he refused a bottle up until the day I went back. But my MIL gave it to him and I wasn't around, so I guess he figured he better take what he could get. LOL
 
I gave Peyton the silicone nipples that are just like the soothie pacifiers...
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these are AWESOME!!!! my little guy had to take a bottle by 8 weeks because I went back to work...
 
I started with those soothie ones as well and now it seems he likes the Nuk ones better ... but still takes the soothie ones as well.
 
I haven't read all of the responses, so sorry if I'm repeating. Your baby will eventually take a bottle no matter what. Even if they dislike it, eventually they will get hungry enough to take it (maybe not from you, but definitely from a caregiver).
 
xboxmom said:
With my last son I got a horrid UTI that went into my kidneys and I was forced to Pump and dump for 3 weeks while taking this medication to rid me of the infection.
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Oh, my gosh, that would have killed me! 3 weeks worth of hard earned milk poured out. I dumped 1 bottle once and just about started bawling.
 
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