Advice on Toilet Training 3yo. Boys

Leah

Leah

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I need some help girls - some thoughts, ideas or suggestions.

I am having a h-e-double hockeysticks of a time getting my DS to use the toilet on a consistent basis. He turned 3yrs. at the beginning of March.

Now let me tell you, he's one smart boy. He knows EXACTLY what's going on and what is expected of him. He goes to preschool and knows that there are no "accidents" at preschool. But as soon as he comes home...it's fair game!

Pee is not so bad, but poop?! OMG I am so sick of rinsing out poopy gotch!

I have tried EVERYTHING! And I mean everything. I've tried rewards and all the hoopla, I've tried firm. I've tried using a timer. I've tried giving up and hoping that it'll just click. I've tried making him clean up his own poop - out of his gotch, wiping his own bum, picking up any poop that lands on the floors. I've tried taking away prized possessions - which really he doesn't have anything in particular.

Nothing, NOTHING phases this kid.

I do not want to be one of those parents that has one set of rules for one thing/or one place, and a different set of rules for home. For example, gotch at school, diapers at home. KWIM?

But I am right out of ideas here. This is not something I've experienced as a child care provider, or with my own girls.

I know that this is probably normal and I know that he won't go to kindergarten in diapers, but I need something to go on here.

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I'm not gonna give any advise since training my 3y/o boy involved lots of showers with mommy (who was 7 to 8 months pregnant at the time) getting peed on quite a lot of times!!! :blink:

I'll just wish you lots of luck and tell you that what ever you have to do is well worth it!!! :D :D
 
One of mine was extremely difficult to train that way. My advice:

- choose a plan of how you will respond to accidents
- inform mr. man of your plan and let him know there will be no diapers
- print out a calendar for yourself and stick it on the fridge, mark the days off with an X as they go by

and the key ingredient to it all......

DO NOT change your plan or your response for 21 days.

I, of course, don't know how it's going for you but if you are anything like me you start strong last 3-4 days and then think this is INSANE and you switch to a new tactic. This doesn't work with a truly strong willed child - hence the consistency for that long. Mine finally cooperated on day 19. :)
 
Emmy said:
I, of course, don't know how it's going for you but if you are anything like me you start strong last 3-4 days and then think this is INSANE and you switch to a new tactic. This doesn't work with a truly strong willed child - hence the consistency for that long. Mine finally cooperated on day 19. :)
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Day 19 haha - figures huh? LOL

I've even tried being Naked and then my carpet pays dearly (and I've already cleaned it once professionally and had to rent a carpet cleaner not 1 month later). :(
 
I agree with the previous posts. I teach special needs preschoolers and am happy to say I've trained TONS of kids. Of course, those kids couldn't be naked as they weren't at home, but Azin and Fox has a book called Toilet training in less than a day (it's OLD too) and it's got great strategies in it. It's intense- basically hang out in four hour blocks in the bathroom- but works. Take a long weekend and you can get it done. :)

And just turning 3, I'd say the fact that he's not doing it at school is fabulous! Hang in there!
 
We tried our triplet boys just before they turned three. Did the whole boot camp potty training and everything and pffft, they were just not ready. Only a couple months later and voila, they were able to PEE OUTSIDE and it opened a whole new world to them. Peeing outside was the big ah-ha fun for them here.

Just remind him about once and hour to GO TO THE BATHROOM and make sure he goes. Make sure it is a long pee, otherwise he will not empty his bladder all the way and have to pee again shortly.

And good idea with having him clean up his own messes. I would give my guy a towel and tell him to clean it. Also he had to "help" with the laundry aspect of it as well, pull clothes out of the drier and sit with me while I folded, etc. Not in a trouble type of way, but just in a no fun, it is way less work to just pee/poop in a toilet type of thing.

I know it is hard, good luck!
 
L.J. took FOREVER!!!!! and still has the occasional accident and he'll be 4 in June. Honestly I started him too young...if I had to do it over again, I would have left him in diapers until he "got it". I know not what you want to hear, but I really would have done it differently.
 
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