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Okay girlies.....tomorrow is DD's first OB appointment and I am going to take her! Then we are going to have lunch, grab her some Vitamin E oil and I want to buy her a good pregnancy book.

I am so stoked to see her. I haven't seen her since July 17th! And.....I get to see my grandbaby (even if it is digitally....hey, I love digital) too! What an amazing reunion this will be! I am not going to be able to sleep tonight I can already tell.

Any other suggestions to help cut down on stretch marks? Our family gets them REALLY bad! Or suggestions for the BEST pregnancy book you found?
 
I really liked the What to Expect book. With my first, I always read way ahead to see what was happening next. So exciting. And with my second I looked at it once or twice. With my third, I never opened a single book. Not that I'm a pro, just too busy to care. ha! Anyway, I liked it a lot. As far as stretch marks... I don't know. You can do cocoa butter, but I don't know if it helps. In my opinion it's pretty much all heritary. Maybe you can do a few things here and there, but pretty much, if the family gets them bad, everyone will... and if they don't, you won't. Not always the case, but that's been my experience talking with friends and such. good luck!
 
nothing will help.. lol. It's genetic. if they're going to happen.. they're going to happen. no stopping those buggers ^_^

I'm a "just wing it " mom too .. no book advice here
 
I dont think you can really avoid stretch marks. Cocoa butter supposedly helps but I dont think it does (I got stretch marks during pregnancy because I gained like 80 pounds). I think if you really watch your weight gain you can limit the stretching of the skin. As for books its been so long since I had kids (12 years + since I was pregnant). I know there are some cool sites online you can sign up for which will email what is going on with your pregnancy each week that you could have her sign up for.

Anyhow good luck and I hope the day goes really well and you get to see your grandbaby. Is she far enough along to know if its boy/girl yet? Or are you guys not sure how far along she is?
 
Wow, I am glad to hear that What To Expect When You're Expecting is still a great choice! It was the first one that came to mind but, I didn't know if it was replaced by something better since I bought the book um....19 years ago. LOL
 
I really liked Dr. Sears' The Pregnancy Book and The Baby Book with my first one. They are kind of geared toward attachment parenting, which I wasn't into but they had lots of great info on breastfeeding and other aspects of babies.

Have fun tomorrow! How exciting! :)
 
I also saw a journal type book at Barnes and Noble for her to write stuff in. Like food cravings and the first kick and all that. I wish I had done it with mine because now I dont really remember those little things and my kids ask and I cant remember.
 
jessica31876 said:
Anyhow good luck and I hope the day goes really well and you get to see your grandbaby. Is she far enough along to know if its boy/girl yet? Or are you guys not sure how far along she is?
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We will find out tomorrow how far along she is. I am thinking by her estimate of her last period that she is about 11 or 12 weeks.

At what point can they start to be able to tell the sex? Around 20 or so weeks?
 
oh how fun! I don't have anything to add... all great suggestions so far... the only thing I can think of for stretch marks is to drink plenty of water... it won't prevent them but it will help them from getting all itchy.
 
I'm surprised at the OCD people saying they just "wing it." The "What to Expect" book was such a wonderful read for me...every little question had answers. I *needed* to know what the heck was going on with my body and what to expect up the road. For a first pregnancy, it was such a fabulous source of information--> peace of mind.

Of course, that was before the internet became what it is today, so I'm sure all the same info is online now.
 
i checked and it says 18-26 weeks is the best time to tell. Is she hoping for one or the other? With my first I was told it was a boy. I had boys everything...didnt even bother picking out a girls name and then I had my daughter LOL. I was kinda shocked when they said SHE is ok. I argued with my nurse that I was not having a girl and she kept saying that I did have a girl.
 
I'm extremely OCD but you also have to remember that NO baby is alike...none what so ever. All of my kids are completely different so what works for one person with one baby will not necessarily work for another person and their baby. I think there's TOO much information and stories of "what works" that it's overwhelming. You can pick up 3 different books and 3 different authors are going to tell you the "right" way to parent..it's nonsense to me. Have confidence in your mothering abilities and your intuition. Mother's intuition is always best.
 
I read what to expect when you're expecting.. but my kids have never (and probably will never) done anything "by the books". Every kid is different. :)

Have FUN with your daughter NeeNee!! So glad you get to see her!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
I thought What to Expect and The girlfriend's guide to pregnancy were the perfect combination of books. No idea on the stretch marks - I think you can try to use vitamin E or lotions but it's just a genetic thing....I have a girlfriend that had triplets and she had not a single stretch mark until the week before they were born (35 weeks!) and I've known people that got horrible stretch marks with a single baby.....

I hope you two have a good visit and some bonding time.
 
Emmy said:
I thought What to Expect and The girlfriend's guide to pregnancy were the perfect combination of books.
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I second this! And that stretch marks are genetic, unfortunately!

I'm so happy you get this opportunity to be with her for such an exciting appointment!
 
FlirtatiousBrat said:
I think you should buy her THIS

real stories..from real women who have been there!
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Oh Meg! That is a wonderful idea! I have it......I still need to finish looking it all over. So many awesome stories and inspiration in there! She doesn't have her own computer. Maybe I can buy her a copy and print it out for her......in book form.
 
FlirtatiousBrat said:
I'm extremely OCD but you also have to remember that NO baby is alike...none what so ever. All of my kids are completely different so what works for one person with one baby will not necessarily work for another person and their baby. I think there's TOO much information and stories of "what works" that it's overwhelming. You can pick up 3 different books and 3 different authors are going to tell you the "right" way to parent..it's nonsense to me. Have confidence in your mothering abilities and your intuition. Mother's intuition is always best.
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Gotcha! But I read the book for my first *pregnancy*...not for childearing. Things like mucous plugs, delivery poo, and post-partum bleeding would have freaked me out if I hadn't known about them beforehand.
 
yeah I agree that a book with the pregnancy related issues is a good idea..especially for a girl going into this without a clue of what's going to happen with her body. (assuming here..since she is so young)

I just don't agree with child rearing books all so much...lol I've always been a do it my way type of girl though. Some people NEED that direction and methods..

Have fun tomorrow NeeNee!! :)
 
neenee said:
Oh Meg! That is a wonderful idea! I have it......I still need to finish looking it all over. So many awesome stories and inspiration in there! She doesn't have her own computer. Maybe I can buy her a copy and print it out for her......in book form.
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it's BEAUTIFUL printed out :) Would be something she could go back thru over and over
 
neenee said:
We will find out tomorrow how far along she is. I am thinking by her estimate of her last period that she is about 11 or 12 weeks.

At what point can they start to be able to tell the sex? Around 20 or so weeks?
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I think they usually say they can tell the sex starting around 18 weeks or so. I had an ultrasound at 16 weeks 6 days and the ultrasound tech was positive it is a boy. However, I went in for a "special" ultrasound at a maternal/fetal specialist, so I am wondering if maybe she has a better eye then say your ordinary ultrasound tech - since she was/is used to looking for abnormal/unusual things such as birth defects, etc.

At any rate, I think the norm is kind of to do an ultrasound early when your first go in, and then another one around 20-22 weeks. At that second trimester ultrasound is when you can usually find out the sex if you want.

Good luck tomorrow! It will be an awesome experience and great bonding time for the two of you!
 
Congrats! I cannot believe you are old enough to be a grandmother, though. You must have started having kids at like twelve, right?
 
no advice on books, but I did love what to expect when you are expecting and hhad my 1st and last 14 years apart! I am sooo glad you are getting to see her and I hope you guys have a wonderful day together!
 
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