aagaahagahhahagagagaghhh...MEN!!

Whose responsibilty is it to check the pockets of said pants?

  • Wearer of said pants

    Votes: 105 91.3%

  • Launderer of said pants

    Votes: 10 8.7%
  • Total voters
    115
Traci Reed

Traci Reed

Well-known member
So my husband is looking everywhere for his brand new iPod..on my desk, making a huge mess, in the bedroom, etc. And I say "I hope it wasn't in your pants I just put in the washer." Which is immediately MY fault and he gets mad at ME about.

FYI, we've been together 7 years and I've NEVER checked his pants before washing them. Ever. Sorry, I'm a frenzied mom with too much to do and I don't have time to babysit the crap YOU should be taking care of. As a result, numerous things have been washed (and ruined).

He, on the other hand, feels that it is NOT his responsibility to empty his pockets when he takes off his pants, it's MY responsibility to check them when doing laundry. Thus everything that's ever been washed and ruined is NOT the result of him not taking care of his stuff, it's the result of ME not checking HIS pants.

So I'm frantically searching the laundry and find....headphones. OH SH!T!!! Gahhhhh it's going to ruin the weekend, he's gonna think it's my fault, he's SUCH and idiot...yadda yadda yadda..is running through my head. So I call him and tell him that while I found the headphones, I did not find the iPod in question in the washer or dryer (yay!) and did he know where it last was. And instead of THINKING about it, he says "Wherever my headphones were is where my iPod was."

I say. Well, unless the dryer melted and then evaporated it, IT'S NOT THERE.

And hang up. So I'm storming around the house looking for this thing all over. And find it. On my desk. Nicely wrapped up where he left it. Oh and LOOKED for it, for 5 minutes.

#@$#^%&*&^(%^&$$^Q%#^&*%^&$%$$$#%^%&

MEN!!!!

Share with me your "MEN!!!" Stories so I don't feel like I have the ONLY moron.

And where do you fall on that debate. Is it the person who owns the pants' responsibility to empty the pockets or the person who washes the pants?
 
Well, DH is the one that does the laundry and he never checks the pockets. ;)

But hey, I can totally relate, since he is always losing things and blames it on me! :blink: Um, it's not my fault you can find your wallet/keys/whatever. :cursing:

Men.
 
Well, my rule of laundering is "finders keepers." If I find a $50 in the dryer b/c it fell out of your pocket, too bad, so sad, it's mine! But if I ruin something of your's because you left it in your pocket (really hasn't happened much around here) it's also too bad, so sad.
 
I can't answer the poll since you didn't give a both option.

That said, it is more the wearer's responsibility than the washer's. Andrew does the wash here and always asks if we've checked pockets and then does it himself anyway.
 
man, the money I have collected outta the pockets of the 5 other people's pants that I wash has been awesome! hehehe
I check the pockets, but if you left something in there, too bad for you. Ok, well, the one time Des left $100 in his pants I returned it, cause I knew it was for something specific.

Oh, and argh men moments ... Des ate his dinner in our room the other night after work (so he could talk to me cause I was already in bed). He took the TV tray from the living room up to our room. And he at least brought it back down ... and left right in the kitchen/dining room, where I blindly walk through on the way to the bathroom first thing in the morning, before I turn lights on (I get ready downstairs so as to not wake anyone up before I am ready to wake them up). Yup, smacked right into it. Thankfully I caught it before it crashed to the ground, but I swore quite loudly at him when I walked into it.

Oh, and dishes ... don't get me started. He doesn't EVER rinse things off, and often leaves food in pots, bowls, on plates, etc. Drives me up the wall. Supposedly I have nothing better to do than clean up after him, never mind our children.
 
My rule is, if you leave in it your pants, it becomes mine when I find it in the wash. I have a change-jar that has probably $20 in it from finding money in pants. BUT... I will say that I check my boys' pant before washing them. But they're 4 & 7. Not 32!!

Ugh. Sorry T. Men are dumb.
 
DH and I both say it is the owner of the pants who is responsible for emptying out pockets. The only time I check pockets is if when I grab them I hear a crinkling sound like paper/receipt/money. Many things that shouldn't get washed in my home. But we don't normally keep electronics in our pockets, so.
 
Im in the middle. I say both people should check. They should make sure nothing is in the pockets but if they dont then I check. (oh and BTW if the leave MONEY its mine LOL...hey they shoulda checked right?) so once they learned they lost their money they started checking more. Now I would not keep alot like if it was anything more then a couple bucks it would go back to the rightful owner but anything less is mine.

My husband has been home for about 13-14 months straight with me everyday. I live in the middle of nowhere and nobody is hiring around us so I am stuck here. We do not have the money to go out so needless to say he is really getting on my last nerve. It is not exactly one single thing...its a whole bunch of things.
 
My answer to the question is both...

If they are in the laundry basket then they should already have been checked and it's not my fault if there is stuff in them.

However if I pick them up off the floor, then it's up to me to empty them because he didn't empty them as he was probably planning on re-wearing them (hubby wears a uniform for work so in evenings he wears reg clothes for just a short time, therefor they get worn for several days before being put in the laundry basket - unless they get particularly dirty).

So there's my answer, if they are in the laundry basket/hamper then that says to me that they are ready to be washed as-is.

As for pain in the butt husbands - mine automatically thinks it's my fault if something's not working. Can't be his fault, or a deffect, etc... somehow I'm the one that touched it and did something to cause it to malfunction. UGH! If it's my fault I'll admit it (frying my laptop, yep that was all me), but if it's not my fault it, it's extremely satisfying to prove him wrong... lol.
 
More the wearer for sure!

Maybe both could check, but if something like an ipod got washed, it would definitely be the wearers fault!!

I'm sorry Traci.
 
There is no BOTH there is one person on which the blame WILL reside whether they like it or not...lol
 
Well seeing as I washed and dried DH's MP3 player a couple weeks ago, I would definitely says it's the wearer's responsibility, LOL!:p For what it's worth, while he didn't actually accept reponsibilty, he also wasn't mad!
 
I voted wearer..but I do check them before I wash them..DH ALWAYS leaves $$ in his pockets :) Finders Keepers baby!
 
Ha ~ Too funny ~ Thought that might be the name of your new kit!

The wearer!!! We have had to buy new uniforms because of pens left in ABU (military uniform) tops - and had to replace a washer because of various tools/nuts/bolts left in pockets!!!! TOTALLY HIS FAULT!!!!!!!
 
The wearer definitely needs to check their pants!! When I'm sorting and starting a load of laundry, I don't have time to go through all pairs of pants to make sure they're empty, ya know?
 
after washing/drying several packs of gum, pens, crayons, lipsticks etc etc I just got into the habit of checking. It just was not enough to trust they checked when so much was getting ruined by the stuff they leave in their clothes LOL Crayons and pens were the worst but gum can be particularly sticky/messy!!
 
This sounds like something that would happen at my house!!!!!
DH and I share the laundry responsibilties so we both do our own clothes to keep the fighting at a minimum. This helps then if something gets washed its the wearer and washers fault. Since we started that now the worst that has been washed was a chapstick. (I was dd clothes and I do need to get into a better habit of checking pockets.)
 
my DH does his own laundry...I take care of me and the kids and the towels, etc. I'm not sure why we do it this way - just always have (14 years)...hee hee! That being said, I make my almost 10 yo responsible for checking her pants before throwing them into the dirty clothes - nothing like a little chapstick all over the place!

I'm with Meg though - cash is only exception of things appropriate to be left in the pockets:)
 
I definitely say the wearer - even if it was me that left the now shredded tissue in my pocket. And finders keepers for sure!

I will also add that I think its the wearers responsibility to ensure the dirty clothes get into the laundry basket in the first place! I am so tired of being blamed if a certain shirt isn't washed 'cos its been dumped on his side of the bed - which is total no-go zone as far as I'm concerned due to the scary number of toxic socks etc over there - ugh. There are limits in all reletionships....
 
100% wearer. I never use my pockets, so I never remember to check them. Things get thrown in my purse before my pockets. Plus? I rarely even remember that I put a load of wash in, and then it's 4 hours later and I'm going to bed and think "(%$)@#! Laundry!! Jordan would be screwed if I was also responsible for checking pockets :p

I want to know why men are not capable of doing something by themselves, that we handle perfectly well on our own and without complaint. I said ALL WEEK that if Jordan got the boxes out of the attic, I would put away the Christmas stuff. Boxes that I managed to carry across the house and up the attic stairs all by myself, but which he required my help to get down. THEY'RE EMPTY! How friggen hard is it to get the dang boxes out, when I've felt like crap all friggen week. And then it can't be when I'm not doing anything, they have to come down when I'm in the middle of something, and then he gets mad that I don't want to help.

The dirty dishes drives me INSANE. He will constantly leave a dirty dish on top of the counter RIGHT ABOVE the dishwasher, and then forget about it and go to bed. But if I do it once (because sometimes, I just don't check the dishwasher when there are 894302809 dishes on the counter that aren't mine), then it's "you never pu thte dishes away! Why can't you put the dish in the dishwasher?!!?"

Men were put on this earth to boggle our minds. I'm 100% sure of that.
 
ColleenSwerb said:
The dirty dishes drives me INSANE. He will constantly leave a dirty dish on top of the counter RIGHT ABOVE the dishwasher, and then forget about it and go to bed. But if I do it once (because sometimes, I just don't check the dishwasher when there are 894302809 dishes on the counter that aren't mine), then it's "you never pu thte dishes away! Why can't you put the dish in the dishwasher?!!?"

Men were put on this earth to boggle our minds. I'm 100% sure of that.
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John is exactly the same - and he seems totally incapable of stacking them too, but happily spreads them across the surface and even over the top of the cooker! How difficult is it???
 
Oh. My. Word. I have had this SAME conversation with my husband I don't know HOW many times. It's totally HIS responsibility to check his pants!!!!! I wouldn't expect him to check MY pockets!!
 
I think if my DH were to put his pants in the laundry hamper, then it's not my responsibility if something was in there and got washed, BUT, if I were to go around gathering clothes for the wash and they were on the floor in his room, then it'd be my responsibility to check them.

DH blames me for everything. The kids hurt themselves, it's my fault. They get into something, it's my fault, etc. Ugh.
 
kresta said:
Well, my rule of laundering is "finders keepers." If I find a $50 in the dryer b/c it fell out of your pocket, too bad, so sad, it's mine! But if I ruin something of your's because you left it in your pocket (really hasn't happened much around here) it's also too bad, so sad.
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Woohoo...that's my rule too girl!
 
Hmm, I guess I solve this problem by making my DH do his own laundry. LOL! So if something bad happens, he has no one to blame but himself.

I really think if you're expecting someone else to do your laundry, then the least you can do is make sure your laundry is ready to go - pockets checked, sorted, etc. There's no way I would be hunting down clothes to wash but I'm mean like that. :D If it were me doing the wash, I'd probably still check the pockets just because I wouldn't want any of MY clothes getting ruined by something left in a pocket. But if his iPod or phone got ruined because he couldn't be bothered to keep track of it - yeah, not my problem.

ColleenSwerb said:
The dirty dishes drives me INSANE. He will constantly leave a dirty dish on top of the counter RIGHT ABOVE the dishwasher, and then forget about it and go to bed. But if I do it once (because sometimes, I just don't check the dishwasher when there are 894302809 dishes on the counter that aren't mine), then it's "you never pu thte dishes away! Why can't you put the dish in the dishwasher?!!?"
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LOL! My DH actually took the time to SORT the dirty dishes that were on the counter. Like he put all the big plates together, the little plates together, and the bowls stacked. Umm, the dishwasher was clean at the time. In the time he wasted sorting the dishes he could easily have emptied and loaded it. He's usually really good about those sorts of things but that one really boggled my mind. :blink: :D
 
Ok maybe we're just weird, but this has never ever come up..... I mean, the fairly obvious answer is that you check your own pants. Why on earth would I check the pants pockets of a grown man?? And I know that DH would answer the question in the same way, because they're his responsibility. I refuse to wash clothes that are left lying around, I will only wash stuff that's IN the laundry basket. So if he has put his clothes in there, he's ackowledging that the stuff he puts in is ready to wash, and I just put it in the washing machine. Maybe I'm mean, but if some of his clothes require washing inside out, etc, then that's his responsibility too - in our house you put the clothes in the laundry basket in the condition that you want it washed. I have too much else to do besides turning pants inside out and checking all the pockets :D. That said, I would check kids pockets, because they're just kids after all!!
 
I vote wearer. I used to pick my DH's clothes off the floor and wash them and that is how his phone ended up in the wash. I just assume he has checked them. The rules is our house are "if it is not in the basket or hamper, I don't wash it" and "check your pockets". I'll assume that if he put it in a hamper it was washed. That way it is his own fault.
 
So I asked my parents (who have been happily married for 30+ years) this same question and they both had the same exact answer:

It depends.

If the clothes were put into the dirty clothes bin by the wearer with stuff in the pockets - it's the wearer's fault. If the washer hunts down clothes and decides they need to be washed without consulting the wearer, it's the washer's fault.

:D
 
I always sort the dirty dishes like that. It makes them easier to wash but we dont have a dishwasher either. By sorting that way I can wash them the way they go into the strainer.
Nettio said:
LOL! My DH actually took the time to SORT the dirty dishes that were on the counter. Like he put all the big plates together, the little plates together, and the bowls stacked. Umm, the dishwasher was clean at the time. In the time he wasted sorting the dishes he could easily have emptied and loaded it. He's usually really good about those sorts of things but that one really boggled my mind. :blink: :D
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I voted the wears responsibilty but that only holds true of anyone over the age 7 in our house. I do check DS pants (he just turned 5) but only his!!!
 
jessica31876 said:
I always sort the dirty dishes like that. It makes them easier to wash but we dont have a dishwasher either. By sorting that way I can wash them the way they go into the strainer.
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Yeah, we have a dishwasher and never in the 7 years we've lived together had I ever seen him do that before. It was random. :D
 
yep...been there, done that. The last time I washed my DH's Blackberry was the final straw. I told him not to lecture me, and that I was never washing a single article of his clothing again unless it was in the laundry basket of dirty clothes, and that he had better check the pockets himself because I won't be. Hello....carpenter pants???? I can't be responsible for checking all those pockets.
 
I have strict laundry policies in my house. If people want their laundry done, they must abide by them. :D

The wearer is definitely responsible for emptying their pockets and it is their fault if something valuable gets washed. [I do often double-check, but I don't tell them that!]

I am a believer in the "garbage in, garbage out" theory of laundry and recently reiterated with my family that if their laundry goes into the laundry hamper inside out and with socks all wadded up, that is exactly how they are getting it back. Clean, but still inside out and wadded up.
 
Patrick is not happy with the results of this poll. He says he needs to be friends with the ONE sane person on this board. I told him that 1 vote was probably a mis-click *snicker*
 
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