aagaahagahhahagagagaghhh...MEN!!

[mrs_jb]

Oh Traci that really stinks that he's blaming you for it at all... YAY that you found it though!

We have HUGE issues with pocket contents, as my DH always leaves CHAPSTICK in his pockets. Do you know how many clothes have been ruined by melted red chapstick? UGH! I've made a rule that he is only allowed to use clear kind now, which are better when washed, but still leave behind a residue. Ugh.

 

[mrs_jb]

I am a believer in the "garbage in, garbage out" theory of laundry and recently reiterated with my family that if their laundry goes into the laundry hamper inside out and with socks all wadded up, that is exactly how they are getting it back. Clean, but still inside out and wadded up.

I am a believer in this too Dawn. Once after my DH and I were first married he got all his shirts back inside out and all his socks were balled up and still grass covered... He learned! LOL

 

[rochelle789]

So I asked my parents (who have been happily married for 30+ years) this same question and they both had the same exact answer:

It depends.

If the clothes were put into the dirty clothes bin by the wearer with stuff in the pockets - it's the wearer's fault. If the washer hunts down clothes and decides they need to be washed without consulting the wearer, it's the washer's fault.

I like this - personal responsibility on both sides!

 

[profiler_mar]

Patrick is not happy with the results of this poll. He says he needs to be friends with the ONE sane person on this board. I told him that 1 vote was probably a mis-click *snicker*

I'm with you girl, totally his fault! And I am sure that one vote WAS a mis-click!

 

[rach3975]

If they are in the laundry basket then they should already have been checked and it's not my fault if there is stuff in them.

However if I pick them up off the floor, then it's up to me to empty them because he didn't empty them as he was probably planning on re-wearing them

This, exactly. When I put in laundry, chances are good I have an unsupervised 12-month old and 3 year old upstairs. I have to get it in the washer and get back up ASAP. No way am I going to stand at the washer checking pockets!

DH does most of his own and some of the kids'. In general he's better at keeping the house clean than I am. But he can walk right past a crying baby and do nothing, and I'm lucky if he does 30% of the kid-care when he's home with me.

 

[xboxmom]

Ok I am dork I hit the wrong button on the voting thing. I ment to say its the responsiblitiy of the damn person who wears the pants to clean their $hiT out of them before they get washed. I too have washed and ruined many things over the years and it makes me SOOooooooo mad! Our laundry issue is this.

My husband has recently started wearing a button up shirt to work almost everyday now. Before it was just t-shirts and jeans but now that he is a manager he wants to look the part. However my husband will not wear a single button up shirt unless each and everyone of them are ironed and hung up so he has them all to choose from. I have told him time and time again that I am more than happy to iron the shirt of his choice on the day he wants to wear it. I would be so happy to only spend 5 mins ironing a single shirt than spending 1 or 2 hours ironing all of them at once. This has causes numerous fights and I am still ironing the damn shirts!!!!!!

 

[ColleenSwerb]

PS~We also do our own laundry. He doesn't like the dryer sheets, and I inevitably "do it wrong", so we do our own. He's also responsible for ironing his own clothes.

Kim, if he wants all his shirts ironed, he can damn well do it himself!

 

[Emmy]

Definitely the wearer's responsibility.

That being said - I might as well check DH's pockets since I have to check all the kids' pockets.

The big thing my DH does that drives me nuts is leave garbage on his plate. I will come out to the kitchen in the morning and there will be a big bowl from when he made popcorn after I went to bed. In the bowl there will be the unpopped kernals and a couple wadded up napkins. Because apparently that's part of doing the dishes.....emptying out the garbage before I load them to the dishwasher. :glare: He also puts his empty pop cans and beer bottles with the dirty dishes on the counter (stacked right on top of the usually empty ready to receive his dirty dishes dishwasher) cause again - apparently all trash must go through *my* precious hands before it can leave us.....:blink:

 

[g8rbeckie]

However my husband will not wear a single button up shirt unless each and everyone of them are ironed and hung up so he has them all to choose from. I have told him time and time again that I am more than happy to iron the shirt of his choice on the day he wants to wear it. I would be so happy to only spend 5 mins ironing a single shirt than spending 1 or 2 hours ironing all of them at once. This has causes numerous fights and I am still ironing the damn shirts!!!!!!

Two words, sister: DRY CLEAN.

for some reason, because I have boobs, I pay TWICE what a man pays for dry cleaning. So even though DH does the wash, he puts wrinkled pants and shirts in piles for me to put away late at night when I finally make up to our bedroom for the night. I occasionally take a big ol' pile of stuff to be drycleaned, curse at the bill, and then suck it up for a few more months until I get fed up and dry clean again.

But if I was a dude and got those $1.59 shirt deals - I'd be all over long-term dry cleaning!

Edit: oh, and I should probably add for those of you who don't know, that DH is a SAHD!

 

[NettieB]

I have strict laundry policies in my house. If people want their laundry done, they must abide by them.

i'm with Dawn - it's maybe because i married "late" - but for taking DH's name, there were a few stipulations - the Laundry Rule being one of them. Kinda grateful, as my aversion to dealing with laundry has only grown with time.

Usually if there's a goof I can look him straight in the eye and say "I'm doing the best I can". Not much he can say after that, now is there.

 

[MamaBee]

Well, my rule of laundering is "finders keepers." If I find a $50 in the dryer b/c it fell out of your pocket, too bad, so sad, it's mine! But if I ruin something of your's because you left it in your pocket (really hasn't happened much around here) it's also too bad, so sad.

This is my rule too!!! I also have the rule... you complain about the way I do it, guess what... you do the laundry!

My hubby just got home from work and I asked him... he said it's the wearer's responsiblity... that being said... we've had keys, cufflinks, tissue (that one drives me insane)... gum... kiddo is still too young to understand what pockets are for and until the time he puts something creepy crawlie in them, I'll be checking until he starts doing laundry...

 

[NettieB]

Kim - if he's that visual - iron them all, take a picture of them, make him a sheet with the photos, and put the sheet in a protected cover in the closet with the shirts.

He can look at the sheet, choose a shirt, and then you iron it day of - he gets his little boost, you get your sanity.

Chica, ya got 5 kids, hubby needs to meet ya in the middle here.

 

[xboxmom]

Yeah I agree! Like I said I am happy to do it I just don't want to iron them all at once. I think that is totally meeting in the middle but apparently not. Grrrr Men drive me nuts sometimes!!!!

 

[ColleenSwerb]

Reminds me of our friend Josh. His sister is spending the weekend at his place while his family is in town (we all went out last night to watch football). He was telling her that she would sleep on the air mattress downstairs, and then when he left for work he would wake her and she could go upstairs to his bed. Jordan suggested "be a man and sleep on the air mattress yourself, why does she have to get up?" To which Josh answered that he has to pick out his clothes in the morning. Hello, pick them out the night before! It's friggen casual friday, pick a pair of jeans and a polo and let your sister take the bed! Nope, he couldn't do that. Just couldn't do it.

SO insane.

 

[loralyn]

DH does his own laundry....only because he got fed up with missing socks and my haphazard schedule. For the kids, my policy is that it is the wearer's responsibility to empty pockets and any $$ I find is my 'tip' for doing the laundry

 

[suze]

Wash your own crap.... The end.

 

[isaacsmom]

Well, I voted launderer only because my rule is whatever I find is mine. Once I found $100 in his pocket. Too bad so sad. I went shopping!

And if I wash something that was in his pocket and ruin it, that is still his fault, so maybe I voted the wrong way. Men are so irritating sometimes!

One of my biggest irritations is when he is looking for something and can't find it, he goes like a tornado tearing everything up in his quest. Regardless of whether he finds said item or not, he rarely puts everything back in its place! Grrr!!!

 

[newfiemountiewife]

I do all the laundry. I do not check pockets, and any money I find becomes mine by default. LOL

If he leaves something important in his pocket, tough tamales. And if he leaves money, all the better for me

 

[tlcaudle]

I always check the pants pockets, my daughter likes to put weird things in her pockets, like rocks, and sometimes I even forget to empty mine when I take them off. Of course, I also think the wearer should empty too, but I always check just in case,

 

[Julie Billingsley]

LOL Traci I just asked my 18 year old and my husband and we all agree it's HIS fault and now he should do his own.

 

[newfiemountiewife]

I definitely say the wearer - even if it was me that left the now shredded tissue in my pocket. And finders keepers for sure!

I will also add that I think its the wearers responsibility to ensure the dirty clothes get into the laundry basket in the first place! I am so tired of being blamed if a certain shirt isn't washed 'cos its been dumped on his side of the bed - which is total no-go zone as far as I'm concerned due to the scary number of toxic socks etc over there - ugh. There are limits in all reletionships....

Gah, I always leave tissues in my pockets. I teach figure skating part time, so I am in the rink and of course that means cold/runny nose. So I always have tissues, and I always wash them out. It's MY fault, because it's MY clothes, and I have to deal with the mess that follows. I hate washing out tissues!

 

[nonnie]

Wash your own crap.... The end.

THAT is the BEST!!!!!! :thumbup:

 

[Sweeet]

LOL, love this thread and I KNOW not 'all' men are the same, but um.....what's the saying? "bird of a feather......" Seriously, I could submit a list, but y'all's are so very familiar to mine! The one that peeves me the most is IF I'm not at home for an hour and he is so called 'watching' our DD...he doesn't make the effort to changing her diaper, yet has the gall to complain if I or anyone else doesn't make the attempt in time to change her!!!! OY!

Same here, FINDERS/KEEPERS...I voted the wearer should check, but I also check and have found some goodies along the way, even in my own pants LOL!!!!

 

[mrshobbes]

I voted wearer. And asked DH and he agrees. But then DH is the one who does the laundry here, and both of us do our own ironing.

 

[Stacey42]

I just put the clothes in the machine. Responsibility for emptying pockets, unballing socks & sleeves & putting it in the hamper is solely on the wearer of the clothes. Anything that comes out in the wash is mine to keep, including money.
If you drop all your clothes on the side of your bed when you undress at night & leave them there they will never get washed because I do not go looking for laundry & how do I know they are not clean clothes you pushed off the bed rather than fold before sleeping the night before.
DH and I have lived together since 1991. He still cannot rememeber these simple rules

 

[Lyd]

How did I miss this thread all day yesterday!?

I pretty much get blamed for everything that goes wrong around the house. DH never "says" anything, but the stone cold irritated silence speaks volumes!

And, DH never does ANYTHING in the kitchen to help. And, what really drives me crazy is that he always leaves stuff on his plate - chunks of tomatoes, clumps of rice or potatoes, sauce, etc. etc. And, then he plops his plate down in the sink without scraping off the big clumps. He doesn't put it in the side of the sink where the disposal is, he puts it in the side where all the clumps fall off and get caught in the drain so I have to dig them out. SO GROSS!! And, to me, that's common sense! Scrape off the big clumps - they don't just dissolve! Better yet, eat them while you're eating the rest of your dinner.

HUSBANDS!!!!

 

[Sharon Kay]

It is soooooooooooooooooooooo THEIR responsibility ... in fact just Wednesday I think it was ... the 21yo ds (of course denying it ...but it was "his brand" of pen) left an ink pen in his pockets. RUINED the ONLY nice pair of pants my youngest son owns ... and my favorite jacket that my mom bought me from QVC ... it's mint green and fuzzy and so warm... with now big NAVY splotches all over it.

...and a few other things like sleep pants for the boys ... but that is not a big deal as they are dark and hard to see it on them...

...we have found out on numerous occasions that Nintendo game boy cartridges seem to wash and dry quite nicely ... lucky for the boys because I was not going to replace them!!

 

[Sharon Kay]

I get told that everything out of place in the house is "mine" ... so I think I will CLEAN OUT AND THROW OUT THE STUFF OF **MINE** that I don't want to keep ... think that will teach them??? I'm thinking it is about "lesson time" this next week... {insert evil laugh here}

 

[KirstieGai]

I don't check pockets either, I've also trained my kids to check their own also. DH always forgets and I can get pens, bolts, note pads in the wash.

 

[mrshobbes]

I get told that everything out of place in the house is "mine" ... so I think I will CLEAN OUT AND THROW OUT THE STUFF OF **MINE** that I don't want to keep ... think that will teach them??? I'm thinking it is about "lesson time" this next week... {insert evil laugh here}

I have to say, my mom did that--and for me and my brother at least, it worked. We really had to keep our rooms tidy because if things were out of place or a mess she'd simply throw 'em out

 

[starxlr8]

While I would like to vote wearer... the launderer is also the protector of goods. After ruining far too many clothes from grease stains when the wearer had chapstick in the pocket, this laundered made the executive decision to always check.

 

[meganmecrazy]

Grrrrrr. My husband is constantly leaving crap in his pockets and he doesn't check them when he takes them off. I. can't. stand. it.

 

[alien21xx]

OK, I was gonna vote the launderer, coz my bf does all the laundry around here (isn't it easy to get men do whatever you want as long as you're not married yet? ) but I voted wearer instead, because whenever I leave stuff in my jean pockets and it destroys the washing machine (happened some time back with coins), then yes it's my fault, and I owed him money for destroying his washing machine.

These days, I bring my clothes to a laundromat and let him do his own laundry.