I love you, man- funny movie but kinda sad for me

schock77

schock77

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DH and I are kid-free for 2 days and while they're at grandmas we're making the most of it. We saw I love you, man and it was so funny... but also a little sad. I'm one of those folks at that weird impass- friends have moved off, or are single and partying and can't relate to me- married with 2 kids. I have a handful of people I'd call friends, but not a lot, and I'm a very social person so it bothers me.

The group of gals I used to hang with has basically fallen apart- several people have moved away (job transfers mainly) and the one gal who is still here is one that I wouldn't have hung out with if not for the group, you know?

I teach a special needs classroom and although it is in the public school, I have class when others don't and vice versa. So the gals I work with directly are the only ones I really get to socialize with- one is single, no kids and the other has kids my age. Plus my kids go to school with me, not with our neighborhood kids, so even for them, afterschool friends aren't really there. So friends at work are limited too. We don't attend church and no other real "social groups" around.

I don't know why it took this silly movie for me to see how much it bothers me that I miss having my group of girlfriends. :( Anyone else been there?


On a happy note, we did go out with DH's friend and his wife for dinner last night (they have kids too, but older than mine) and it was fun, but still... I miss the girls' nights...
 
I know exactly what you mean! I had a good group of girlfriends before I moved. When I got married, we still hung out, but it was a bit different. Then my best friend moved and got married to a guy in Mississippi (like a 5 day drive from me), and I've only seen her 3 times in the last 5 years. My other friends have moved on as well, one marrying (a jerk, but thats another story) and moving, and the other staying single, but moving. So we are all scattered through Canada and the US, and even when DH and I go back home to visit, I don't get to see my girls. Makes me sad.

Here, where I live now, is the town I grew up in. About 2000 people. I graduated in a class of 36 kids. Most have moved on, there are only about 3 others from my grad class still here. I'm not friends with any of them, and never socialize. I miss having friends so bad. Especially because I'm a SAHM, and find my days so repetative (I love staying home to raise my baby - don't get me wrong - but a mommy needs friends too!!). FINALLY a good friend of mine moved back here, and we do some stuff, but not very often because she is super hectic busy, being a single mom, and home-schooling her 3 children!

So yes, I get where you are coming from, totally! And I feel your pain!
 
Yes, I understand. None of my high school or college friends live close. And there were a few friends I made after I had Garrett. We would have playdates and every now and then go out without the kids. But they all went back to work and we all just got busy.


My mom had 2 really good friends when I was growing up. Our families would always hang out together. I wish I had that.
 
YYYYEEEESSSS! I know how you feel! My hubby and I were the 1st of our "group" to have a baby. Then for the next 2 years, it seemed like the "group" continued without us. Finally they all had babies too, and it ws one big, happy family... BUT those times without them felt lonely and they didn't understand yet what life was like with child. We got through, thankfully. Then, of course, we moved across the state and I never see them now - thank goodness for Facebook! But I do miss them all terribly. I am very alone right now where I moved to... it is extremely rural here (which I love), but miss my friends too. My mother lives down the road, but it not the same kind of friendship, you know?

Anyhoo... I hope you can branch our and find some great people to surround you, you sound like a great person!
 
Well, sadly, I haven't had a good, close friend since high school. I mean a real friend I can hang with. There are a few online people that I talk to almost on a daily basis and there is one in particular who I'm so close to we'd probably be best friends if we lived near each other, but as far as friends that I can have a girls day or night out with...no.
Not for about 15 years. :(
 
Yeah, I totally understand. I had this amazing group of friends before I got married. We were together A LOT and even lived next door to each other. After I got married they stopped inviting me to hang out with them... and some of them were my bridesmaids!!!! :( I don't feel like I have any close friends anymore either.
 
My best friend is my husband and we do mostly everything together. I have a girlfriend who I am close to and she lives really nearby but we only get together a few times a year. We mostly just talk on the phone every couple of days.
 
In the same boat. I moved away from my all friends 4 years ago, and haven't made many friends in my new town. We had a couple we hung out with, but our schedules never work out (my DH doesn't get weekends off, and that is only time they can really do anything)

Also, my kids are really young (2 1/2 and 8 months) so we really don't have a chance to get out much right now.

I miss having real people to talk to about things. I love my internet peeps, but its not the same :(
 
Yup, me too. :( Though I've just found a friend here whose kids are close to my kids, and we've been doing a weekly playdate. The more we talk, the more we click. So I'm hopeful this relationship will start to meet that need for me.

But while I was home in Dec, I got together with all of my college friends; we've stayed pretty close in the ten years since we graduated, but I got INTO A FIGHT w/one of the girls. I was SHOCKED. I didn't even know that normal people in their thirties got into arguments with their bff like that, but I think that may have signaled the end of our tight friendships, even though we made up and everything. :( It leaves this big gap in my heart.
 
Mandy said:
Well, sadly, I haven't had a good, close friend since high school. I mean a real friend I can hang with. There are a few online people that I talk to almost on a daily basis and there is one in particular who I'm so close to we'd probably be best friends if we lived near each other, but as far as friends that I can have a girls day or night out with...no.
Not for about 15 years. :(
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Mandy, this is exactly me. Almost right out of high school, a couple of year later, I started seeing Tony, and well, people didn't like socializing with cops. Tony is 10 years older than me too, so the people he worked with were much older than me for the most part, and right away, I felt very much the outsider. We met when Tony was posted in my home town, but once we transferred, that was the end of that, almost 9 years ago. We've also moved 4 times and that makes things difficult too. The place where we are posted now, the group of cop's wives are just not very friendly with each other it seems, we all have different interests and directions life is going in.

It's hard too, to make friends when your DH has arrested half the people in town (it's a small community) LOL.

Since then, I haven't had a friend I could go shopping with, hang out with, or go for coffee with. I have a fcouple of people online that I love to pieces, but for the most part, it's a lonely life I lead.
 
My best friend lives about 50 minutes away so we have girls night as often as we can. It's not as much as I'd like with our busy schedules but at least we get to see each other. I also have a good group of scrapping girlfriends who we try to get together to scrap about once every other month or so, that is always a ton of fun. They are actually meeting up next weekend but because of my surgery I will have to miss this one.

We also have a few neighbors that we are very close to, have bbqs every weekend in the summer, go out to dinner, even have gone away on a weekend with them which is awesome.

And I've got a new one too since Emily and I are going to get together when we can!
 
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