I hate you Mommy!

I have learned that anytime they say "I HATE YOU MOM(MY)", it means whatever I am doing is SPOT on...hence their anger.
It's OK mom...they don't mean it.
 
Give it a few years and like me, you'll be rolling your eyeballs when they tell you this.
 
ce tells me he hates me .. and is going to cook me up for dinner because he wants me to die... . ^_^ that one is fun lol.. just ignore it
 
Well, it's weird, K used to say it but we told him once in his rational time that it hurt and you shouldn't say it and he never did again but I can't get J to stop saying it :(
 
What if K told him that's not nice and he shouldn't do it cuz it makes mommy upset?
Is he old enough to rationalize/realize that it's mean/hurtful?

I have no good advice. Sorry hon :(
 
Aww, sorry Traci, it stinks to hear that but on the other hand it's probably cause you are doing something you should!
 
Yes Bryn, you will. It doesn't really get easier but you do learn to ignore it.

I'm sorry T. J has only said it to me once, and that was because Ab told him to say it and she got in trouble for it. :(

ETA I like Col's idea.. will K tell him not to say that to mommy?
 
Oh man... that's no fun. I haven't had "I hate you" but I have had, from Regan... "I wish I had a different mom" and I thought I was going to cry right there. Daddy told her how much it hurts my feelings when she says something like that and it hasn't happened again.

Riley says, "You're ruining my life!" I just tell her, "You wouldn't have a life if it wasn't for me". lol
 
Aww Traci! ((hugs)) It will be ok. According to my oldest I am the most evil thing on earth! No worries hon, they still love us! LOL!
 
My kids say this to me occasionally. It doesn't really bother me b/c I know they don't mean it. But I do offer to find them new moms/families when they say it. It bothers me more when they say it to each other.
 
Awww, (((hugs))).

Mason has had a habit of saying "I don't love you mommy" for probably a year or so...the first time he said it I was hurt but then I started saying "that's OK, I don't love you either" and now it's our own way of saying "I love you" lol. BUT, I would never have done that if there hadn't been the mischeivous twinkle in his eye when he would tell me he didn't love me - like he was trying to get a rise out of me (he likes to tease). If he'd been mad at the time, it would be a totally different story.
 
Well, my kids got themselves in trouble for saying I was mean. It sounds silly, but we work very hard at being respectful to each person in our family, and saying things like that is just not respectful, esp. when it's directed toward the grownup (who deserves even more respect, imo). Though I've never had them say that before, they would definitely be in trouble for it -- would need to go lay in their bed for a time-out and think about how that might be hurtful and disrespectful.

Sorry he's telling you that. It is very sad. :(
 
it only hurts the first time.

in the meanwhile I know, that he only say this because he know that I will always love him; whatever he says :-)
 
Aww, T. My heart will break when/if I hear those words. But I know everyone is right, he doesn't mean it and if anything it's an indication that you're doing the right things. It still stings though. :(
 
Try not to take it to hard...over time those words wont sting as much it is just their way of venting their displeasure with how things are going. I am sure we have all felt that way about someone who we love dearly at some point in time. I also tell my kids that they shouldnt say they hate me but more they hate what I have done which made them unhappy
 
I don't hear it very often since ironically i'm the parent he likes (yet I am the one who is always telling him off) but Mark gets it a lot. We both answer exactly the same thing "yes honey, and we will always LOVE you too." (((hugs))) they don't mean it when they say it anymore than adults mean things they say in fights that they wish they could take back the minute after they have spoken. I hope you can find a way of letting him know that it hurts your feelings when he says things like that though and that it stops soon.
 
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