RQOTD: Wedding Invites (or any invite for that matter)

hollyxann

hollyxann

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You may have seen me post this on FB:
So I was reading an article with a very good debate in it.
Wedding invites....paper or e-invite (email)?


I like the tradition of the paper invite, but think about it, we all live in our computers, tablets, phones, etc. So why not do an e-invite? Saves trees, time, money. The only downfall would be it possibly going to Spam and you'd have to put in all those emails. But I like the idea.
 
I think evites are fine and fun for almost any occasion... except weddings. :)

I think it's the one (or two -- ha ha) time in your life when you can justify and splurge on paper invites, KWIM?

I think the same applies to thank you notes. An email/text is fine for a birthday gift, sympathy card, etc. but again, I think someone should splurge on paper thank you notes for wedding gifts.
 
Paper invites are much classier and email is much too informal for a wedding invite IMO. I'm sure there are exceptions for small gatherings or other circumstances, but generally speaking, paper is preferred. I'm the same with thank you cards. I think handwritten notes are much more meaningful than an email. It conveys the importance of an occasion or event. Plus not everyone regularly checks their email, has access to a computer or would be savvy enough to use an Evite (I have several elderly family members that fit into this category and some that wouldn't). Plus you run the risk of people being offended or thinking you're tacky ;)
 
my vote would def be for paper :]
i'm a huge fan of happy snail mail ♥ so i do paper invites/thank yous for everything.
 
another paper vote! It's a formal event, an email would be tacky imo. Maybe you could do a save the date via email, but the actual invitation should be paper :]
 
NOT GETTING MARRIED ANYTIME SOON. lol

I just read an article this morning about people choosing email invites over the paper and thought it'd be an interesting topic to discuss.
 
Yeah, another vote here for paper. I do know some friends and my SIL did a "save the date" via email--not necessarily an e-vite, but it linked to a webpage with details on the wedding and to expect a physical invitation soon :)
 
I say it again- Paper. You can have a link to a wedding website on there or something, but I think this is one of the things you don't mess with tradition.
 
For a wedding, I'd definitely go with paper. (but unless it was my kid, that invite would go in the trash after the ceremony)

Any other party, I'd probably e-vite. With Rachel's upcoming birthday party, I created a private FB event and sent out invites that way...and within 12 hours I'd had RSVPs from everyone. I will have to send out one paper invitation for a kid at school whose parents I don't have contact info for. But I love the fact that I actually DO get RSVPs with the e-vites. They can click YES or NO and it's done. If I'm waiting on a phone call, I usually don't get it. Very frustrating.
 
For a wedding, definitely paper.

I actually prefer paper for all invites. We have family members not on the computer (and I'm not on Facebook). Many times invites just go out on Facebook and that's it (basically excluding one section of the family, including Grandma).
 
Paper is the only thing I find acceptable for a wedding. I had a friend do a formal wedding-- yes, formal-- and send out text message invitations. Um, wth?

I think that a wedding is one of those times where paper is essential. Now, if you want to do a tie-in digital element (like a QR code that takes you to a wedding website, or whatever), or have an email follow-up, or even do e-vites for smaller events leading up to the wedding (like your MOH sending out an evite for a bachelorette party), go for it. But for the wedding? Aw heck no.

For example, while I found Ms. Text Message Invite totally tacky (and didn't go to the wedding-- we really weren't close, and it was out-of-state, so I skipped for other reasons than the invite), I DIDN'T find it tacky when my friend sent out paper invitations, then a bit later, sent out an email as a reminder, giving some additional details about the wedding day (she sent paper versions to anyone who didn't regularly check email with those same details, etc). It just depends what you're doing digitally, and how much of the invitation process is online.

(For the record, I also had a friend send out a satisfaction survey after her wedding/reception... and THAT was a weird one).
 
Definitely paper. Even though I prefer to send paper invitations for everything, I think it's fine to send digital invites for everything else. All the weddings I've gone to have been big (100-400 people) and fancy; I think it would seem cheap and tacky to pair a wedding like that with anything other than paper invites. But maybe it would work for a much smaller wedding, especially if it was informal and with a small budget.
 
For a wedding? I wouldn't go if all I received was an e-invite (unless it was just some simple court house followed by supper thing or something). Call me a snob, but I think traditional rules in this case.
 
pewtertm said:
Any other party, I'd probably e-vite. With Rachel's upcoming birthday party, I created a private FB event and sent out invites that way...and within 12 hours I'd had RSVPs from everyone. I will have to send out one paper invitation for a kid at school whose parents I don't have contact info for. But I love the fact that I actually DO get RSVPs with the e-vites. They can click YES or NO and it's done. If I'm waiting on a phone call, I usually don't get it. Very frustrating.
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The people you know actually click yes or no? Every single facebook event I have been invited to or made has had maybe 1 or 2 click yes or no and the rest just sit there even if they are coming.
 
lovely1m said:
The people you know actually click yes or no? Every single facebook event I have been invited to or made has had maybe 1 or 2 click yes or no and the rest just sit there even if they are coming.
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Yep, but calling is another story apparently.
 
I got a Facebook invite to a wedding from my mother of the groom, and then the bride to be sent an actual invitation. If all we had gotten was the Facebook invite, we may not have gone... mostly because it was my in-laws, my husband doesn't have Facebook and I could have pretended I forgot or something since I didn't have an actual invite. ;)

My girls (teens) do Facebook invites all the time and they treat them seriously. If they say they're going to something, they intend to go. I just delete them because 90% of the time when I get them it's a jewelry party or something.

And no, I didn't reply to the wedding Facebook invite. Absolutely refuse.
 
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