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Valgal

Valgal

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I'm dealing with some dark stuff this week... tell me about yours. No rainbows or kitties allowed.

I have chocolate, wine and a blanket fort available for use.
 
My job sucks and I would love to quit and walk away but I can't... I am so tired of dealing with students with completely messed up lives and not be able to do anything to help. I am at a point where I am happy if kids are only using pot and alcohol. We have been dealing with suicide and multiple attempted suicides at our school this year. It is all just way too much.

I am so glad we have break this week. I desperately needed some time out of the building. Just hate to think of the issues that will be waiting when we go back...
 
Yikes. That's bad. Are you a guidance counselor? That would be hard to not 'take home' at the end of the day.
 
I'm in the middle of full blown meno and right now I feel my back is going to split wide open :( OUCH I need this part of my life to end soon! Sorry for those of you going though tough things right now.
 
Suzs said:
My job sucks and I would love to quit and walk away but I can't... I am so tired of dealing with students with completely messed up lives and not be able to do anything to help. I am at a point where I am happy if kids are only using pot and alcohol. We have been dealing with suicide and multiple attempted suicides at our school this year. It is all just way too much.

I am so glad we have break this week. I desperately needed some time out of the building. Just hate to think of the issues that will be waiting when we go back...
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That would be such a painful struggle to face daily {{{hugs}}}
 
ellasspace said:
I'm in the middle of full blown meno and right now I feel my back is going to split wide open :( OUCH I need this part of my life to end soon! Sorry for those of you going though tough things right now.
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Ugh. I've been in perimeno for ages and ages. I'm so sorry! I didn't know back pain was a symptom till I just Googled it. How frequently is it a problem?
 
My job is student support so kind of like a guidance councillor and resource teacher rolled into one.

It is really hard not to take it home with me. Scrapping usually helps me leave it behind but lately it hasn't been enough... This time of year always has me debating my options and thinking of moving somewhere else.

What is getting you down Valerie?
 
Thankfully I don't have to deal with meno yet. Being female has always struck me as the bad end of the stick on many levels. Hope you get some relief soon Ella.
 
Valgal said:
Ugh. I've been in perimeno for ages and ages. I'm so sorry! I didn't know back pain was a symptom till I just Googled it. How frequently is it a problem?
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I am year 9 at this,my Dr told me it can take up to ten years when I tested peri ... Yay me I'll pro go for the long run. My symptoms have gotten to the point that I'm stuck at home if it shows up :( flooding, back pain, headaches. I can go two months or more without or two weeks between but they are more often as of late and very heavy and painful.
 
My son's anxiety has really ramped up this week, to the point that it's causing him some real intestinal issues. It's very similar to the stuff that hubby has gone through as a result of his anxiety, and I hate that my son has to deal with it and that I can't do much to help him. He has medication that he takes, and he's learned some tools to help as well. Most of the time we all manage it pretty well. But, when the emotional/chemical stuff starts to cause tangible physical problems . . . I am just having a hard time dealing with it. I want it to go away.
 
That sound awful Ella! I have always been plagued with endo and can totally sympathize with you. The worst part is that so many people just don't understand how bad it can be. I find other women are the worst. The whole it can't be that bad, the rest of us suck it up, etc. Sure hope this doesn't go on much longer for you.
 
Suzs said:
My job is student support so kind of like a guidance councillor and resource teacher rolled into one.

It is really hard not to take it home with me. Scrapping usually helps me leave it behind but lately it hasn't been enough... This time of year always has me debating my options and thinking of moving somewhere else.

What is getting you down Valerie?
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Parenting junk. My ds (foster then adopted kid) and I had a long talk yesterday about our relationship and it basically ended with him saying that he's not interested in trying to make any changes, that it's all up to me. His POV (which I get) is that if he's been behaving a particular way for the last 5 years then why should he have to change now? (even though we've BEEN FIGHTING about his behavior for 5 years) He doesn't see my side, that after 5 years of putting up with his behavior that I'm hitting the point where I just can't take it anymore.

He bullies me (physically and verbally), criticizes me, mocks me, argues with me, challenges me... but I love him like no one else and I know it. HE's so precious to me.

But I want to strangle a puppy I get so fed up.
 
ellasspace said:
I am year 9 at this,my Dr told me it can take up to ten years when I tested peri ... Yay me I'll pro go for the long run. My symptoms have gotten to the point that I'm stuck at home if it shows up :( flooding, back pain, headaches. I can go two months or more without or two weeks between but they are more often as of late and very heavy and painful.
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Thankfully I'm not having any pain! but, I've been peri for about 10 years now, mostly night sweats. I wake up most nights and have to change my clothes. It's just bizarre and really disrupts my sleep, which messes up all kinds of other things.

Are there alternative things that you've tried? I'm sure you have and am sick of that question, but...
 
Lyd said:
My son's anxiety has really ramped up this week, to the point that it's causing him some real intestinal issues. It's very similar to the stuff that hubby has gone through as a result of his anxiety, and I hate that my son has to deal with it and that I can't do much to help him. He has medication that he takes, and he's learned some tools to help as well. Most of the time we all manage it pretty well. But, when the emotional/chemical stuff starts to cause tangible physical problems . . . I am just having a hard time dealing with it. I want it to go away.
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How old is he? I had to pull my dd out of school last year because her anxiety got so out of hand. She is 13 now and doing really well.
 
Valgal said:
How old is he? I had to pull my dd out of school last year because her anxiety got so out of hand. She is 13 now and doing really well.
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He's 11. Honestly, school is going sooooo much better this year than it was last year. His teacher has been such a blessing! I don't know what the trigger was this time. I kind of think his anxiety medication isn't working quite as well because we changed the dose on a different medication that he takes. So, we'll need to talk to his doctor about that. It might be something that regulates itself as his body gets used to the new dose of the other med. Let's hope.
 
Lyd said:
He's 11. Honestly, school is going sooooo much better this year than it was last year. His teacher has been such a blessing! I don't know what the trigger was this time. I kind of think his anxiety medication isn't working quite as well because we changed the dose on a different medication that he takes. So, we'll need to talk to his doctor about that. It might be something that regulates itself as his body gets used to the new dose of the other med. Let's hope.
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I imagine as he goes through this next phase-of-life his medication will need several adjustments, kwim? It's a bit of a crazy time for normally balanced kids! You sounds like a very attentive mommy :)
 
Valgal said:
Thankfully I'm not having any pain! but, I've been peri for about 10 years now, mostly night sweats. I wake up most nights and have to change my clothes. It's just bizarre and really disrupts my sleep, which messes up all kinds of other things.

Are there alternative things that you've tried? I'm sure you have and am sick of that question, but...
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Apple cider vinager works for hot flashes and night sweats

Use 1 - 2 tablespoons of organic apple cider vinegar
Added to 8 ounces water (or other beverage of choice)
Drink 1-2 times daily
 
ellasspace said:
Apple cider vinager works for hot flashes and night sweats

Use 1 - 2 tablespoons of organic apple cider vinegar
Added to 8 ounces water (or other beverage of choice)
Drink 1-2 times daily
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Ok, you are the 2nd person who's said this and I wrote the first one off as some sort of natural-herbal-crazy-talk. Does this really work?
 
... and now I'm done scrapping and crawling into bed with a book. (((hugs))) all around, it gets better and blah, blah, blah. I'm tempted to say it's the circle of the life, but that involves creatures eating each other, right? What is the phrase I'm looking for?!

Well, this too shall pass. That will have to work for now. MWAH!
 
Mine is just waiting right now - waiting for my daughter's EEG results - well the one last week was apparently just inconclusive so they are having her do a 24 hour one that is going to be April 14th. She also had neuropsyc testing done - it was suppose to be 3 sessions of testing - it took 4...she finished this week, we have to wait until April 26th for those results.

She's the happiest little girl in the world - and loves her friends and teacher and school, and drawing and dance; I should just focus on that. But she's struggling with memory stuff, and learning and sometimes just seems to forget everything she knows, everything you have said to her, or just not be able to make connections to what she should be doing (like yesterday at school she needed her reading book for the table her teacher said - and just stood there lost for 2 minutes even after someone tried to help her, then got the wrong reading book)...I can't help her, I don't know what it is, I can't find any patterns of when or why things happen because it is all so inconsistent and not every day we see these things. I feel like the other shoe is going to drop when we get all these results and I can't shake that feeling.
 
It's been a tough week: recovering from being sick last weekend (DS still has a runny nose & his cheeks are rubbed redaw from wiping), getting into a car accident Wednesday (we're fine but now have to deal with insurance, rental cars, repairs, etc.), a bad eating & exercise week, and still no news, good or bad, abt the jobs I'm waiting to hear back from.

It's been a whole lot worse & I know it but I'm also PMSing so really I'd just like to wallow for a night. :p

Luckily, it's Easter weekend & we have lots of fun activities going on (and, thus, many pictures to be taken) so I know that will cheer me up.
 
I wish I could somehow make things better for all of you going through so much. Just know that there's someone out there who's thinking about you and hoping for a good turn around!!
 
Get this baby out of me! I'm only 38 weeks but feel like I am about to split open. I got braces 2 weeks ago and haven't been able to eat much. Great for the weight gain, but I hate feeling hungry all the time. Soup just doesn't do it anymore. I need a steak or a big slice of cheesy pizza. Mmmmmm.
Oh and my heartburn is over the top bad. As soon as I lay down, my chest and throat are on fire. This baby girl better come out with lots of hair!
 
I want to go home. To America. And live in my hometown and drop my kids off at my parents' house and go on egg hunts and hayrides and watch my kids play baseball. I want to have seasons and shop at Target and to be able to afford cheese. I want central air; I never want to be hot again unless it's at the beach or the pool. I want to go to the grocery store and no one stare at me.

I used to love living overseas, and we recently had the opportunity to go back to the US and I felt totally torn, like I would be happy either way. But the truth is that I'm sad either way, too, and I miss my mom. And I want to spend Easter with my family. I would miss the Philippines, too, if we left, but right now I'm having a hard time remembering that. Especially when it's hot as hades and we don't have central air.
 
Hugs to everyone. My moan isn't anything huge. My injured right foot now seems to be some kind of inflammatory arthritis (?rheumatoid?). I can't bend my toes from the MCP joint, and constantly walk with a limp now because it's sore if I walk normally. I'm on the waiting list for an appointment with the rheumatology clinic. I was in a moonboot with it for several weeks, only to slip on some concrete 2 weeks ago, landing on my left leg and doing some serious grazing to my left foot. The wounds were deep, and have been slow to heal. My left foot is now more painful than my right, so I'm limping on both sides. :/ I feel like a 70 yr old. My exercise and healthy eating plan have gone out the window and of course that makes me feel even worse, because I know I'm using my feet as an excuse. Ugh. I hate getting old.
 
It's so hot in here, we'll be moving in a couple of weeks, my husband's not here and I'm the only one to deal with all of those..
 
Looks like I'm going to have to move closer to uni in July because these 13-15 hour days are killing me. Big thing right now is $$$ - because I have no "essential" hire purchases or any for that matter I cant get any more govt financial help. By my calculations I'll have $35 a week of emergency/fun money ($25 the week that my CC sub comes out) after essentials which then means no eating out, no movies, no ssd supplies, no trips home at all - I'd feel happier if it was $50 even. I'll also have no internet unless I'm at McDonalds or at Uni

Although I'm sad the positives of being emotionally and physically happy outweigh the negatives I hope. I'll be doing a trial run for a week next month to see if its viable for the 4 months.

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Suzs said:
That sound awful Ella! I have always been plagued with endo and can totally sympathize with you. The worst part is that so many people just don't understand how bad it can be. I find other women are the worst. The whole it can't be that bad, the rest of us suck it up, etc. Sure hope this doesn't go on much longer for you.
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Thank you Sue, it is excruciating,no over the counter pain meds help I don't even feel a difference if I take them. It honestly feels like back labor ... I'm ready to be gutted if they would let me. :(
 
joelsgirl said:
I want to go home. To America. And live in my hometown and drop my kids off at my parents' house and go on egg hunts and hayrides and watch my kids play baseball. I want to have seasons and shop at Target and to be able to afford cheese. I want central air; I never want to be hot again unless it's at the beach or the pool. I want to go to the grocery store and no one stare at me.

I used to love living overseas, and we recently had the opportunity to go back to the US and I felt totally torn, like I would be happy either way. But the truth is that I'm sad either way, too, and I miss my mom. And I want to spend Easter with my family. I would miss the Philippines, too, if we left, but right now I'm having a hard time remembering that. Especially when it's hot as hades and we don't have central air.
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That had to be so hard, my oldest and his girls my only grandchildren moved away and I rarely see them now it is so hard. this will be my first Easter in ages without them here. I can only imagine it is just as tough from the other side. {{{hugs}}}
 
clucaswvu04 said:
Mine is just waiting right now - waiting for my daughter's EEG results - well the one last week was apparently just inconclusive so they are having her do a 24 hour one that is going to be April 14th. She also had neuropsyc testing done - it was suppose to be 3 sessions of testing - it took 4...she finished this week, we have to wait until April 26th for those results.

She's the happiest little girl in the world - and loves her friends and teacher and school, and drawing and dance; I should just focus on that. But she's struggling with memory stuff, and learning and sometimes just seems to forget everything she knows, everything you have said to her, or just not be able to make connections to what she should be doing (like yesterday at school she needed her reading book for the table her teacher said - and just stood there lost for 2 minutes even after someone tried to help her, then got the wrong reading book)...I can't help her, I don't know what it is, I can't find any patterns of when or why things happen because it is all so inconsistent and not every day we see these things. I feel like the other shoe is going to drop when we get all these results and I can't shake that feeling.
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Cheryl prayers for you and your daughter, that has to be so scary :(
 
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