The Birds and the Bees :D............

[LJSDesigns]

Well, I had the talk with my son for the first time when he was around nine. By the time he was 12 we had the safe sex talk. Now my BF, who is a male, and I constantly argue about the sex talk for preteens. I think you need to tell them how to protect themselves and their partner from disease and pregnancy and he says you need to tell them not to have sex. Really, when has that ever worked? lol I think he is just more embarrassed about it than I am. I have always told JT that sex is natural and beautiful but needs to be taken extremely seriously.

My parents sheltered me way too much when I was younger and I wanted to be sure my son was better prepared than me. The pressure to have sex can be extremely intense for teenagers.

 

[lee69]

My daughter is 9 1/2 years old and a few months ago I gave her the book "It's Not the Stork" from Chapters. We read it together and now she has had that book in her night table to reead. There is a couple of age categories for the book and we have them both. I wanted her to learn it from me and especially be prepared for her monthly cycle! (Yikes)

PS - LOVE, love your templates!!!

 

[JulieB146]

I remember buying a book at Target for girls about their changing bodies--I figured my daughter would be able to anchor her questions about that and ask me for more detail later, if she felt the need. She was about 9 or so when I gave it to her? My mom gave me a book, too, when I was a kid, but NEVER actually talked to me about stuff. She was totally embarrassed about it, and awkward.

So, over the years, my now 15 year old & I have had talks here and there when she wants to know. She shuts me down when she doesn't want to hear anymore. And fortunately she trusted me enough to tell me when she and her boyfriend started having sex. I'm lucky in that my next door neighbor has a decent relationship with her daughter, and my daughter wants the same thing. However, we have not told her father. It's the ONLY thing I'm willing to omit.

My eleven year old son, on the other hand...forget it. I have NO idea what he knows or doesn't know, or even if he cares at this point. Right now, the computer is his main love. We'll see what happens in middle school next year, when he meets girls who are as into computers as he is! I have tried here and there to give him off-handed information. I think my husband is going to have to have The Talk with him sometime soon.

 

[kristijoy]

My son is 5. He knows that girls and boys have different body parts. He knows that Mommy's carry babies inside of them and nurse their babies with breasts. So far we've used the real words with him for everything. He hasn't asked yet about the mechanics, but I'm sure he will someday. My husband is very frank with him. Sometimes I hear them in the other room and their are having a 'guy' discussion!

And Darcy...regarding the legos. I have an engineering background. Some of the technical terms that everyone uses for engineering parts (cables, connectors) are 'male' and 'female'. I had to catch myself from referring to the wooden train track connectors as male and female!!

 

[kristijoy]

Well, I had the talk with my son for the first time when he was around nine. By the time he was 12 we had the safe sex talk. Now my BF, who is a male, and I constantly argue about the sex talk for preteens. I think you need to tell them how to protect themselves and their partner from disease and pregnancy and he says you need to tell them not to have sex. Really, when has that ever worked? lol

My Dad was great. He said "protect yourself". He wasn't going to pretend to be more 'moral' than he himself was.