omg ANOTHER blow up this morning.

[Valgal]

What is with this kid? The boys take turns driving to save gas money and this is Johnny's week to drive. Jake slept in, even though Johnny gave him a second wake up call (this has been a problem for THREE YEARS). Jake was mad that Johnny didn't want to wait longer for him, so he was yelling at him and crying and throwing things. That's what I woke up to. :thumbdown:

Johnny is a nervous driver and I made a judgement call to send Johnny on his way and let Jake drive himself when he was ready for school because I didn't want him behaving this erratically while Johnny was trying to drive (he is a very nervous, anxious driver. Esp since last year when, ya know, a truck ran him over.) Couldn't stand the thought of Johnny trying to carefully drive while Jake was that angry.

O.M.G I haven't seen this kid that pissed off in a long time. Probably a carry-over from the other night.

John is going to sit down with us tonight so we can talk this out. We did that once before and it was very effective.

Ugh. Growing pains. :glare:

 

[carrie1977]

Oh my...I think you definitely made the right call there. Hopefully the talk will help.

Hang in there, mama!

 

[Kiana]

Hugs ... hopefully he's just trying to assert his "adulthood" and will calm down after talking more,

 

[Keely~B]

That's a terrible way to start the day, I'm sorry. You hang in there. Hope the sit down helps.

 

[Valgal]

My daughter came out of our room (because she had some kind of weird anxiety breakdown around 10:30 last night, came in sobbing and didn't know why) after they left glaring at me. I told her, "Don't you DARE complain that our yelling woke you up."

LOL! It's a good thing I have a good sense of humor when it comes to these creatures.

Why isn't today Friday????

 

[glumirk]

You mentioned before that he's adopted. I wonder if anything is coming up because of that. I say this because I have friends with adopted kids, and sometimes events bring out the trauma. I wonder if something is setting him off, even if it's just getting older and closer to leaving the only thing that's been stable in his life, you. Maybe if you figure out what it is then maybe you can work through it with him.

 

[Valgal]

You mentioned before that he's adopted. I wonder if anything is coming up because of that. I say this because I have friends with adopted kids, and sometimes events bring out the trauma. I wonder if something is setting him off, even if it's just getting older and closer to leaving the only thing that's been stable in his life, you. Maybe if you figure out what it is then maybe you can work through it with him.

Yes. Adoption issues are fewer and far'er (apparently not a word, lol!) between, but he does slip into the 'you love Johnny more than me' mode from time to time. He will tell me later that logically he knows that isn't true, but it still creeps into his emotions. He thinks I'm always 'on Johnny's side', which frankly I often am because I'm human and imperfect. Unfortunately he doesn't seem to see all the times that I back him up. They both have issues that I have to deal with.