Need Some Advice!

Beebo

Beebo

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My granddaughter is 9 and will be 10 in August. Is it normal for her to start her monthly now? She started spotting today, not a flow of any kind, but enough to know it is there and I bought her pads. Really at a standstill about this. It has been so long for me to deal with stuff like this and really don't know what to do!
 
It's not unheard of. Some girls have started at a very young age. The average age range is 10-15 years old but each person is different.

I think it is great you bought her some pads. I would just talk about it with her and make sure to help her to feel comfortable with it and see if she has any questions.

If you feel there is something more going on it wouldn't hurt to talk to her pediatrician.
 
I started at age 9. It's a few years early to start, but not terribly abnormal. Definitely get her in to see an OBGYN who is sensitive to dealing with young girls starting puberty at that age. It was a challenge for me to develop earlier than my peers, but my mom found a great OBGYN (after a really bad first one) who I had until he retired.

I also had other GYN issues as I developed and early onset menses can be a sign of certain problems, but it isn't always. Sometimes it's just early and that's it. An OBGYN will help in that area. I'd prepare her for the first trip to the OBGYN. I was terrified because I was 9 and being touched in those areas at that age is a shock.

Pads are a great start and reassuring her it's a normal lady thing as well can go a long way. I got mine in swim class of all things and I passed out. I was so embarrassed I didn't want anyone to know about it. My mom was unprepared for it at age 9 and hadn't talked to me about it beforehand, so I didn't know what it was at first. These days, I think kids are more in the know, but they're still kids and it's a tough thing to deal with at first.

Good luck!
 
I just googled recently and came across that site as well ^^ bookmarked it :) I've already talked to my girls about it - felt I had to prepare them early. My girls will be 9 next month, but they're terrified of their own blood! I didn't want to take any chance of it surprising them! They started developing up top right about their 7th birthday, and I've heard it's normal to start periods about 2 years after that? Although I'm sure it's not set in stone. Whether they get it early or not, it would have traumatized them getting it unprepared.
 
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Get this book for her!

Keira hasn't started yet, she's 9, but I recently bought her this book & it has great info. No sex talk, just talks about the way their bodies are changing.


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It is possible. I started at 10 or 11 and a schoolmate of mine at 8! My Mum gave me a book like the girls above suggested too, when I was 9 or 10. :-)
 
Totally within the norm :] especially nowadays I swear more and more of my friends kids are starting their periods on the younger side of the scale. I can't imagine going through it so young though :[ mom gave me a medical encyclopedia and told me to read the tampon inserts. I don't suggest this method :p lol
 
Yes, it's normal. Rachel's doctor told me that 9 is the average age that American girls start nowadays. Mom, my aunt, and I were all 8, so I asked because I figured we'd be getting to that point with Rachel soon (she'll be 9 in October). She's definitely got the moodiness of PMS already.

And a big YES to Vanessa's advice...that is a fantastic book. We bought it for Rachel last year and have read through it several times, and it sits on her bookshelf now to flip through whenever she wants. It's written in a way for younger girls to understand, and teaches the basics.
 
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Thank you for all your advice! I was 13 when I started mine and my 3 daughters were around 13 or 14. My stepdaughter, Adrienne's Mom was 12 I believe. There hasn't been any more signs of it but it is still a possibility it won't be long. But I will make an appt. with her doctor before school starts back.
 
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