I need some serious opinions.

[adi&co.]

I'm going to try to keep this condensed....

I'm in a huge pickle. I've been making my mom a book (I've mentioned it before) for a few months now. It's got all 7 of her kids, their spouses and all the grandkids in it. She's never had a book like this before. Anyway, a couple months ago, a huge feud started between one of my brothers and my parents. A game of telephone tag led to a HUGE misunderstanding which then led to a heated conversation and some pretty awful things said on both parts.

I don't speak with my brother at all, but I did have pics of his kids that I was putting into the book. I didn't think my brother and his wife knew about the book, I was just putting the pics in the book anyway, willing to take the heat from them for not asking so that there could be a book with all of us in it. Then this whole thing with my mom and brother happened and long story short, my mom told him that he wasn't her kid anymore and that his two girls (A and I for future reference) weren't her grandkids anymore. She feels awful about saying it now of course, but the damage was done.

ANYWAY, like I said, I thought my sister in law didn't know about the book, but another sister in law (i'm so sorry if this is confusing) was going to give me a pic of her daughter with both A and I, but my sister in law told her absolutely not. One of my other brothers had previously given me pics with A and I in it too, and I have quite a few pages made already with pics of them in it as well. But now that I know that she knows about the book and has said that she doesn't want the girls in the book, I don't feel right using the pages I already made but on the flipside, it feels WRONG not putting those girls in this book. I know my mom said that they weren't her grandkids anymore when she was angry (which made me mad and was so uncool), but that doesn't mean the girls should be excluded from this book does it?

I don't know what to do. Do I leave them out and hope they never see it? because I can't imagine how they would feel if they saw it and wondered why they were the only ones not in it... Do I put them in and risk even more drama? I normally would choose this option if the drama was just coming to me, but I feel like a move like this might make this awful situation completely irreparable. Do I stop making the book all together so I don't have to deal with it? Even though I've put a ton of time gathering pics from all of my siblings and even more time planning and actually scrapping.... Ugh I'm miserable. Please tell me any and all opinions on this subject. I need to hear them all