Great article Rachel and great points Lorie. When it comes to 'fighting' too I read two great pieces of advice. #1 - never say 'you always' or 'you never'. It's generally an exaggeration and makes the other person immediately defensive. #2 - a good phrase to use is "When you do/say X, I feel Y" It doesn't attack a person or put a label on them and gets you talking about actions and, hopefully, resolutions.
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