the "comments" from non-scrappers

YepBrook

YepBrook

Sweet Shoppe Designer
So, have you all gotten comments from others who don't scrap that insinuate you must be lacking in some other way because you have time to scrapbook??? :unsure:

For example, I just uploaded my new scrapbook pages from the past 3 months to my Facebook photo albums. I get this comment on the album from a former co-worker:

Hey, is ur laundry done, house cleaned, dinner ready for ur fabulous husband, yet?!?!
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:mad: And, despite the hair rising on my back a bit, I reply : "Yep! :)"

Then 2 minutes later she responds:
Right............. Bahahahaha!
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:cursing: What is up with that?

It's not the first time something like that has been said to me. People who aren't creative envision me doing this all day when truthfully most of my pages take me 30 minutes at the most. And, I'm sure they have hobbies, too? Or is it because I'm a sahm and a scrapbooker? :( Should I not be upset about this? Should I delete her comments or leave them.

Cool me down, ladies. Cool me down! :w00t:
 
I'd come up with some witty comment like "What can I say - I'm organised. Are you not?"

or something better. :D
 
Aw! (hugs) That seems kinda rude...

I luckily only get nice remarks, people telling me they love them, or wish they could do them, or want me to do some for them lol. But I really think my family thinks I can just throw them together in minutes... I'm sure they have NO idea how big a hobby it is for me.

That said, I don't know what I'd say to that - it would definitely irk me.

*eta: I like Jacinda's idea! :D
 
i get it every now and then. i've made it clear to them that i only scrap during naptime/quiet time though so they better back off ;) it's usually the ones who want to scrap like that or wish they could stay home (or something, kwim?) that make those comments. i try to keep that in mind...though it rarely works lol!

i have no comeback...i'm bad with comebacks until hours have passed.
 
WOW... I've never gotten any comments like that... I would totally block her, though I do like Jacinda's comeback, LOL
 
Aw, :hugs: I'm sorry. :( I hate when comments like that are made. Back when I was married to a Marine, I had just had a miscarriage, and he was deployed. I had just graduated, and because of my disability, didn't have a job.

Someone actually messaged me privately on facebook saying "Maybe if you got a job instead of doing all of that scrapbooking bull****, you could actually contribute like your husband does." Um, I'm sorry, WHAT? I was super emotional after the miscarriage at the time, so I literally cried for about 3 hours over it. Instead of just not letting it get to me and continuing with my hobby and passion, I ended up quitting scrapping for a long time. I really regret that because it was really therapeutic for me.

The "too long, didn't read" version of that is: Keep doing what you're doing. Don't worry about the jealous people who tell you you're not getting the other stuff done. Everyone has hobbies. This is yours. :hugs:
 
Here's the thing. For some reason or another, people just don't seem to understand that by someone else doing something good or being able to do something doesn't diminish them in any way and that they should just be happy for them.
 
I think some people just have no happiness in life so they have to make everyone else miserable with nasty remarks. Definately not someone I would choose as a 'friend'. I like Jacinda's comment, but I would probably, myself, just be silent and delete her comments.
 
kristijoy said:
I think some people just have no happiness in life so they have to make everyone else miserable with nasty remarks. Definately not someone I would choose as a 'friend'. I like Jacinda's comment.
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I agree with this, id totally leave her a comment like that. How rude of that woman.
 
I agree with Kristi. Has she ever been a close friend? If this is not her normal character, I'd reach out and try to work on that friendship. Remarks like that are often cries for help because she can't do all of that, and is jealous that you can do that and more.

I'm learning more and more that it's how you choose to spend your time. For me, including creativity really helps me get those other things done, as well as feel happier in general. If I merely browse galleries and pinterest and never get anything done, then I feel miserable and don't get ANYTHING done.

Aside from that, I think that most comments are not meant to be offensive. If they are, then that is the other person's problem, not mine, so I try really hard not to take offense. This view at least shortens my wallowing. ;)
 
There are always those sorts of people, unfortunately. If its not them commenting about your layouts it will be the same sorts of comments about something else. :( One of my cousins is out of work right now and to stay busy she's been posting a lot of little crafty projects on her facebook page. One of her friends commented asking if she thought she was 'Susie Frickin Homemaker' *rolleyes* She was nice about it but I would not be. It is no ones business but YOURS, you know?

I haven't posted layouts in forever but I did have a friend get kind of whiny once and comment that she wishes she had time to do that. Just about every weekend she's posting about going out drinking with her friends so I know she very well has the time, she just chooses to spend her time differently. LOL I've been out drinking with my friends, umm... never! :D
 
Oh... and I have to say, I work really hard to keep it reigned in but there are times people post stuff and I really WANT to comment they way she did about things. It really has nothing to do with them at the time, its just me. I go through cycles of depression and when I'm down, I feel awful about myself and its sometimes hard to see others doing things I wish I were doing, you know? I have to stop and think logically about it all and remind myself that our lives aren't exactly the same and I will do those things again and that helps... but, yeah, sometimes it would be so easy to be snarky like that. The difference is I recognize the potential there, realize its not productive and can be hurtful and I don't let myself go there.
 
I'd be deleting and blocking from my friends list real quick. But only AFTER I made a snarky comment back to this person and KNEW that they saw it.
 
Ugh. I've gotten 1 or 2 comments, but nothing that rude! (Well, assuming that it was rude. Since I don't know her at all, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and say there's a small chance she was being sarcastic in a commiserating way, as in, "Of course you don't have it all done--a mother's work is never done.")

In real life I'd probably do nothing because I never think of a good comeback until it's way too late to give it. I end up saying something lame like, "It doesn't take that long, and I don't need a lot of sleep." But I console myself by mentally ranting, "Oh, sure, you work every minute of every day. Poor you, no free time. I bet you never watch tv, waste time on FB, go to the gym, have a girls' night, try time consuming new recipes, play games on your phone, or anything else that can be called a hobby." I definitely agree with Sherri--most people seem to have a pretty limited amount of free time, and it's all how you use it.
 
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Can you all be my FB friends??? :wub: thank you Soooo much. You are so right!!!!

My first instinct was to defend myself... Which, after I typed it made me even madder. Reading it made me sound desperate for her approval. I feel like deleting her comments makes me seem weak, also. I wish I could say something snarky in reply. Because I do not need to explain myself! I shouldn't have to explain when/where/how I make scrapbooking fit in my schedule. I shouldn't have to say that I'm freaking super woman... Because sometimes I feel like I am! :)

Funny enough, I was busier when I had my Etsy shop open and wasn't scrapping. I was always making shortcuts with chores. And this particular lady was even a good customer of my Etsy shop. What is it about scrapbooking that makes people judge. It must seem pointless to them whereas work is honorable?

I was upset by her comment because today I struggled to scrap but found the time. I did school with DE, went grocery shopping, mopped, cleaned the birds cage, played with my kids, fed them lunch, scrapped a bit, watered the flowers, ran a load of laundry, cooked dinner, bathed the kids, put them to bed... LOL. ;) Just because I have a hobby doesn't mean I constantly shirk my responsibilities. Sure, sometimes I do! But her comments were way off today. Couldn't be more wrong.
 
Point 1: She's a psycho hose beast. 'Nuff said.

Point 2: I think some people view solo/introverted-friendly hobbies as less meaningful or less cool than group/extroverted-friendly hobbies. Throwing a party, going out clubbing, or joining a gym all seem to be hobbies that people readily accept, but using the same amount of time to read or scrap seems to throw people up in arms as if your time (or you) only mean something in relation to other people or if you only matter if someone else sees you doing XYZ, kwim?

They see me rollin'. They hatin'. They try to catch me ridin' dirty.
 
Just tell her to mind her own damn business. Or ask her if she took some "hater-ade" this morning.
 
Nobody gets my scrapping. They don't understand why I'm bothering to 'decorate my photos'. They just don't get that it's as much a creative outlet as it is about recording memories. So I don't bother posting to Facebook. And I don't very often bother showing anyone my scrapbooks. They're for me and my kids, and sharing them with you guys is enough for me.
 
Some people are just sad. They act like they have no time for things, but you can make time for anything. I find time to scrap every week and I work a full-time job, a part-time job, am a single mom, make time to go out with friends once a week and go running 3 nights a week. Its all about time management, baby. ;)

ETA, I don't post my layouts to facebook. I just don't want to share that part of me with anyone IRL who doesn't flat out appreciate it. My mom and my ex-husband enjoy them and they either receive their own copies or have a link to my gallery to look.
 
Wow Brook, that really stinks, but I am glad you are seeing that the problem is her and not you. Most of my friends call me the "creative one" like it's almost a slur, but I don't let it bother me. I am who I am and the only person who is truly going to make me happy is me. Scrapping makes me happy and when and how I do it is no one else's business. Personally I would kick that "frenemy" right to the curb. Life is too short to fill it with mean people.
 
Wow... some people have nerve! I like Jacinda's responses! They make a point, and they make me giggle! I'd pry also have some smart remark back too! I'd block them, or delete them! Most of my friends are really nice, and understand the effort... and some have asked me to scrap pages for them...

Hugs!


Jenn
 
yari said:
Here's the thing. For some reason or another, people just don't seem to understand that by someone else doing something good or being able to do something doesn't diminish them in any way and that they should just be happy for them.
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Aaaaagreed. :thumbup:

I used to have this FB friend... (well, before FB actually--way back when I had a LiveJournal account--LOL!). I would be so happy that I actually did something, like mopping the floor, so I would say something Twitter-ish (because, you know--it was before Twitter, too!) like: "Yay! I mopped the floor today!" She always took it as me trying to show everyone what a perfect little Christian housewife I was... :blink: when it was just the opposite! LOL! It was me saying "I know it's been months... but yay! I did it!" :D

Yeah... we aren't friends anymore. Some "friendships" aren't worth the stress! :thumbdown:
 
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